I’m the Xaddy

A little pause… I’m the Xaddy is taking a short break while we welcome our baby into the world. 🖤 After months of talking about pregnancy, identity, non-binary parenthood and everything that comes with getting here, it’s time for us to actually become parents, something I’ll be bringing you along for when the podcast returns. And when Season 2 arrives, we’ll be talking about the first 40 days, be...

Pregnancy is supposed to be life-changing. And it is. But somehow, it can also feel like doing the same things every day: eating, sleeping, peeing, checking movements, monitoring blood sugars, going to appointments and Googling every strange new symptom. In this episode, I reflect on the mental load of late pregnancy, becoming more attuned to my body and our baby, preparing for birth, and the stra...

Everyone says the second trimester is the easy one. The honeymoon phase. The part where pregnancy suddenly becomes enjoyable. But... what if that's not everyone's experience? In this episode of I'm the Xaddy, I look back on my second trimester now that I'm nearly at the end of pregnancy, sharing the moments that changed everything from finally feeling our baby move to navigating anatomy scans, cha...

Throughout pregnancy, I've realised that I've been translating. Every leaflet. Every form. Every appointment. Every app. As a non-binary birth parent, I constantly find myself filtering information through my own brain before asking, "Does any of this actually apply to me?" In this episode, I talk honestly about what it feels like to navigate a maternity system and a wider pregnancy culture that s...

In this episode of I’m the Xaddy, I talk about the emotional side of non-binary pregnancy and becoming a parent before your baby arrives. After being diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 35 weeks pregnant, I found myself grieving the birth experience I had imagined and questioning what this next chapter would look like. This episode explores the identity shift of pregnancy, preparing for parenth...

This week is a little different. At almost 33 weeks pregnant, pregnancy has finally caught up with me. Between the heat, swollen hands and feet, sleepless nights, extra midwife appointments, antenatal classes, and a few trips to the antenatal day centre after some quieter baby movements, my body has made it very clear that it's time to slow down. So, I'm taking a short two-week break from the podc...

Periods. Pubes. Pit-stains. Three completely normal parts of having a body, so why do we spend so much time hiding them? In this episode of I'm the Xaddy, I explore the shame, expectations, and gendered assumptions surrounding periods, body hair, and sweat through the lens of being a non-binary person navigating pregnancy. From growing up believing periods were something to hide to experiencing fe...

What the First Trimester Really Feels Like | Non-Binary Pregnancy & Early Pregnancy Symptoms What does the first trimester actually feel like? And how does that experience change when you're navigating pregnancy as a non-binary person? In this episode of I'm the Xaddy, I share my honest experience of early pregnancy, from overwhelming first-trimester fatigue and pregnancy anxiety to identity,...

In this episode, I explore what it’s like to navigate pregnancy as a non-binary person within NHS maternity care. From gendered language and outdated forms to assumptions about parents, partners, and family structures, I share the realities of pregnancy when healthcare systems are not designed with non-binary, transgender, and LGBTQ+ parents in mind. We discuss inclusive maternity care, non-binary...

In this episode, I explore the question: did I always know I was non-binary, or were there signs I only understood in hindsight? I reflect on childhood memories, identity confusion, and the subtle experiences that didn’t quite fit the labels I was given at the time. This episode dives into non-binary identity, self-discovery, and the process of unlearning expectations around gender. If you’re ques...

In this episode, I talk about the ways pregnancy and fertility treatment have changed not just my body, but my sense of identity, visibility, and how I move through the world as a non-binary person. I open up about the intensity of fertility hormones and what it felt like to suddenly experience emotions, mood swings, and bodily changes in a way that genuinely reminded me of puberty for the first t...

In this episode, I talk about the point where pregnancy finally started to feel real, the 13-week scan, the strange intensity of cravings, and the reality of reaching a point where I had to stop and take care of myself. I share what it felt like seeing our tiny person for the first time, watching them move on the screen at just 6.5cm long, and how that moment quietly shifted something in me emotio...

In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest and strangest parts of the fertility journey, choosing a donor, starting IUI treatment, and what it actually took for us to finally get pregnant. I share what the donor selection process really looked like behind the scenes, from reading letters and hearing donor voice notes to navigating the emotional weight of choosing someone who will always be p...

In this episode, I talk about the moment our journey into parenthood became real, exploring fertility treatment, navigating testing, and deciding who would carry our child. I share why we chose IUI as our starting point, what the fertility testing process actually looks like, and how quickly assumptions about our bodies and future were replaced with very real questions. I also open up about what i...

Welcome to the very first episode of I’m the Xaddy. In this episode, I talk about why we decided to become parents, what this journey has already meant to us, and why I felt the need to start this podcast in the first place. I also explain the meaning behind “Xaddy”, the name, the identity behind it, and why traditional parenting labels never quite fit. This episode is really the beginning of ever...