Help, My Relationship is Exploding!

When a man is clearly not listening, but you sincerely believe that he should be, well--what's going on? Is he being rude, selfish or maybe, self-absorbed?  Sure, that might look like the easy answer. But, what if 'something else' is really what's happening? The answers to this time-worn question, might genuinely surprise you. Because usually, tuning you out, is really 'symptomatic' of something e...

What if he frequently says he's going to do something, but then, somehow it doesn't happen? Worse, he doesn't remember that the two of you reached an agreement about that thing; so all you can say is, 'huh, what's going on?' What my clients have asked me, is does my man do this on purpose, and is it a problem that I should worry about? What they really want to know is; is his behavior nefarious, o...

I know it's truly annoying when your man seems to prefer being away, more than he likes to spend time doing things with you. You gotta wonder; why in the world would he stay glued to his desk, holed up in the garage working on a car, or off somewhere on a business trip, instead of snuggled up with you, cozy and at home? What's up with that, anyway?  The answers I share in this episode, could easil...

What if your guy has blundered in the past, by saying things that make you want to sink into the floor, when you're out with friends--or worse, sitting in your favorite auntie's living room? What if, he sticks his foot in his mouth and doesn't even notice it? In a terrible case like that, what intelligent recourse do you have? And why, exactly, do men make this mistake in the first place; what's g...

Some people, sometimes, have parts of their lives that don't function, so much so that you just might have to solve, repair, or otherwise remedy what they can't figure out, apparently to save their lives (argh). What's going on here?  First question, is how bad is it? Second question, how much time do you have to carve out for damage control that isn't really yours at all? Third question is, does...

I get it, you absolutely hate it when he notices an attractive woman and then stares at her--especially when he's with you, right? But, there's more going on here than meets the eye. And yeah, sometimes when he looks at another woman, that action matters in a way that should probably alert you to a deeper problem. Most of the time though, it's nothing really to worry about (even though maybe it hu...

When you ask for help, does your guy say he's going to do something, but then it turns out that he's lousy with the follow through? Instead of getting mad, what do you 'really' need to know, which will help you take a different approach; something that will serve you far better?  We'll talk about some of the surprising reasons why people don't follow through, so then they end up letting you down....

What if you feel like you're doing household stuff, all by yourself, possibly day and night? What if when you try to tell him you need his help, he just rolls his eyes and walks away? Are men really all that different when it comes to things like understanding what you want, offering to lift your load, and knowing what's needed, without being told? Unfortunately, the answer is definitely yes. But...

Believe it or not, there are actually four different types of control freaks out there in the world. And oh no, what if you're closely connected to one of them? Does your guy boss you around, over-manage your choices, or ignore you when you have a different perspective? Does he let you do 'you', or does he want you to do something else entirely? Sometimes, control issues are important, and other t...

Why don't men pay attention when we say stuff? Why does it seem they tune us out, stop listening altogether, or misunderstand what we're getting at, when we try to solve something with them by talking it through? In this episode, we'll talk about some unusual new ways of thinking about a very old problem. Who knows; you just might be surprised by what comes up here. 

Oooh, solving money issues is a tricky challenge, don't you think? It's definitely, one of the all-time most complicated partnership problems to solve in a way that lasts. And as with all relationship questions, I don't take the typical approach.  What do most couples do when they can't solve their money issues? They fight. Or instead, maybe the woman suffers in silence, or even pays the bills by...

Today, we get into the nitty gritty, boots-on-the-ground topic of lying, oh my. We'll look carefully at the distinction between so-called white lies, and the more poisonous versions of deception, which some people just can't seem to resist, no matter how many people they might hurt along the way. I bring up some really hair-raising examples of outrageous deception, for your consideration. If you'v...

In this episode, we cover some rather intense stuff, but of course we do it gently. Meaning; we look at what do you do, when someone you care about says that you messed up, and they come at you in a way that bothers you--then what? Or what if someone you don't like very much, verbally rakes you over the coals? Ouch. Yes, we're going to go there. I've got strategies that work, not just to diffuse o...

We all know super-annoying people, right? Those who tread on your toes without even noticing it, ouch. When should you speak up? When should you hold your peace? This is really, a pretty hard question. After considering this challenge for a lifetime, I've got some boots-on-the-ground solutions for you, approaches that work in real time. So if you have to deal with someone who's utterly selfish, ob...

Let's talk about the difference between rushing toward something that's maybe, just a little too good to be true; versus great things which lie just ahead and can happen quite naturally, without a lot of stress or effort.  Sometimes, when it comes to the partnership of a lifetime, we think we have to 'help' things turn out right, so we might try too hard, fill in too many gaps, and even overlook t...

Ever feel like no matter what you try, your most precious dreams just keep stalling out? Yes, including the dream of a great relationship, whether you're single or partnered. In this episode, find out what to do differently, to truly get better results. And, could it be the case that you just might be doing a few things that are getting in the way of your dreams coming true? Once you know both wha...

Oh, this one's a doozey! Is your guy, almost always continually focused on what he wants and what he feels, and is he trying you to agree that you should go along with him--even when you definitely don't feel the same? Sure: we're all self-interested. But when does self-interest, shade off into hogging more than your fair share, or even into taking advantage? We'll look at these questions and othe...

So many women want to know--where did the guy go; the guy that I was dating until last week (or yesterday, maybe)? You've seen it and I've seen it too. Men disappear just when things seem to be getting to the good part. Just about the very time that you're feeling like you're really 'into him.' But hey, men can also disappear once you're partnered. He vanishes into his video games, or maybe it's s...

What do you do, when there's too much uncomfortable 'dead air' in your connection; places where you can't tell the truth because it's going to start an argument or take your partnership off into the weeds? Need real solutions to get your relationship back on track? Never fear, Psychic Yuzu has been there before you, and she's worked out not just what goes wrong and why things go out of whack--but...

Do you spend a bit too much time trying to make sure everyone around you, feels good and gets the support they need? Is it possible you're what we could call an over-achiever, when it comes to solving, caretaking, and possibly even anticipating the needs of others? But wait--who's taking care of you, anyway....??  If this describes you all too well; then the good news is, I've got some strategies...

Are you one of those people who's always doing just a little too much damage control in your relationships? Do you usually feel that when others express discomfort, you should 'probably' being doing even more than you already are, to make things better for them (instead of maybe yourself)?  Let a psychic who's been guiding hopeful yet confused women toward happier relationships, help you too. Here...