Healing Trauma as a Christian Mama

Today we discuss the FAWN response. A great description I found "it is the maladaptive way of creating safety in connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people"  This is the hallmark of people-pleasing and codependency. We discuss how this looks as an adult who struggles with saying no, putting up boundaries and whose value is based on h...

Today we are talking the FREEZE response and this one is tricky because it is really different from the other two we have discussed (Fight and Flight)  We dive into what is looks like as an Adult, in relationships, as a parent and how it shows up in our kiddos too! 

The Flight Response is part of the sympathetic nervous system response, which means we are activated but want to FLEE asap! We go into these in detail in the episode but a few things we look at are how this shows up in different area's of life.  As an adult you might notice: - the need to stay busy or always be on the go -riddles with worry, fear, anxiety or overwhelm In Relationships you mig...

This episode is all about the sympathetic nervous system response: Fight Fight Response is filled with things like being👇 Defensive Critical  Controlling Angry outbursts Starting Arguments  Yelling  Threatening  Blaming and Shaming This weeks podcast episode is all about the Fight response ✨From our body’s perspective  ✨From a relationship perspective  ✨As a mom/p...

Today we are doing an overview of  The Nervous System Polyvagal Theory  Why this is important to our healing and relationships and parenting  How our Faith doesnt need to be separated from these trauma modalities 

Today we get REALLY vulnerable about Intrusive Thoughts. Some facts about them: Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that can pop into our heads without warning, at any time. They're often repetitive – with the same kind of thought cropping up again and again – and they can be disturbing or even distressing. Intrusive thoughts are thoughts that seem to become stuck in your mind. They can cause...

Interpersonal trauma – trauma the occurs within a personal relationship – is a relational trauma. Relational Impacts of Trauma we discuss: Survivors may not have had good role models as children for what constitutes a healthy relationship and/or they may not have received any   instruction about them. To the contrary, they likely learned all about toxic relationships. • Survivors had the...

This episode is the Emotional After Effects of Trauma. Some things we discuss in this episode are:  Learned helplessness Impaired brain integration between left and right hemispheres and body o Left = cognition o Right = emotion o Disconnect in vagus nerve between brain and body  Distress intolerance, can lead to conflict avoidance  Emotional Dysregulation  Emotional illiteracy...

If your struggle with people pleasing, codependency, toxic relationships, emotional regulation  This epsiode is for you!  Some things we discuss in this episode are: The Emotional Effects  Learned helplessness Impaired brain integration between left and right hemispheres and body o Left = cognition o Right = emotion o Disconnect in vagus nerve between brain and body Distress intoler...

Today we continue the series in How Trauma Shows up: The Impacts it has. Last week we looked at the neurobiological and physical impacts and today we look at the Psychological. Most of what we talk about is the mental health diagnosis that are rampant in our culture today.  Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar, DID, Adhd, OCD but also talk a lot about one's overtly connected to trauma: PTSD and c-PTS...

Trauma changes the way our bodies and brains function..this is one of the most powerful explanations of why we can’t “just get over it” and also offers HOPE that its not just because we are weak or bad.   In this episode we talk about the neurobiological effects of trauma, the physical effects of trauma and the HOPE that lie's in reversing the damage trauma has caused! 

Today we talking about intergenerational trauma and breaking cycles. We talk about how trauma gets passed out, WHAT actually can get passed down, and how it can show up differently from generation to generation.  We also talk about Family dynamics and a tool to help track the dysfunction in a family line. We end with talking about the importance of breaking these cycles for our children and the ge...

What is the connection between Sin and Trauma? 

In this episode we talk about defining Trauma. Not as much as one concrete definition but common elements, key concepts and impacts. We talk about Big T trauma vs Little T trauma, and types of Trauma's. We also dive into giving an overview of how Trauma is dealt with; talking Top Down Approaches, Bottom or Body UP approaches and Heaven all-around aka how does Jesus fit into these modalities and wh...

Is the world of trauma healing too self-focused?  Do Christians overspiritualize or Spiritually by-pass our struggles?  Our 1st episode co-hosting together starts the convo that we will be continuously digging into: What does healing and recovery look like as a Christian Woman? 

Inviting Jesus into your healing journey changes everything 

Today we go over 3 more metaphors: The Exodus The Mountain Range The Rebuild

Today we are looking into the big picture of a healing journey. I am going to share 4 different metaphor's of this process and you can pick which one resonates the most with you.   Today's episode if the first 2 metaphors of a healing journey :)  First: The Holistic Psychologist 2: Butterflies 

This is so hard to do, but the best advice Ive ever gotten! If you don’t get to the end of your goal, or get the job, the relationship, the ANYTHING…that does not change WHO you are, or WHOSE you are!

This was in a sermon recently and I loved it so much.  The reason I connected to it so much because as someone whose recovering from Codependency and People Pleasing, I morphed and changed so much into who others wanted me to be..I literally lost who I was. As believers, we are called to be set apart and when I look at a caterpillar I see growth and transformation.  Lets talk more about...

Being prepared is KEY to our mental health, since we are pretty aware nowadays life can throw some curveballs at us (umm hello global pandemic). So when crisis hits, whether is big or something that triggers you in a moment…have a Crisis Action Plan to help you know exactly how to handle it

Its so hard learning emotional regulation along side your own children, who also have none...and somehow push all your buttons and triggers as they fall apart.  All to say....Adult Time Outs are now a thing! 

This game changer advice from Bree Card (go read her short yet amazing book ‘Dear overstimulated Parent: 10 small ways to save your sanity’) I am the definition of an overstimulated parent lol and some days, just suck. Some days I literally wonder if I’m superwoman. This little tip might seem small but it has a powerful effect. There is a freedom when you accept ‘today is a survival day’ rather th...

After I recorded this episode, I read this in my bible study: We cause some of the wreck and ruin because we have a plan. We implement the plan and accomplish only what we can do. We ask God to bless out plans and then promise to give him all the glory when he does. Yet God is not glorified by making our plans succeed. He receives glory when HIS will is done his way. He could accomplish more in 6...

I spent years, I mean YEARS doing anything I could to avoid, push down, numb or escape FEELING.  After giving up all my crutches and intentionally letting myself FEEL, I realized...I have never let myself feel!  I know that sounds crazy, obviously I have had emotions...but to sit in them, let them be expressed, embraced and processed...nope, never.  As I learn to sit in my feelings,...