Heal From the Ground Up

Our society admires strength and looks down upon vulnerability thinking to be vulnerable is to be weak. We misuse "strength" to push away how we feel. It's actually much easier to avoid how we feel by being "strong" than it is to face our feelings with vulnerability and to feel what we feel at our core. Listen to this episode to learn more! Try the 7-day free trial into our membership community fo...

Do you feel guilt and an immense responsibility for others? Do you put yourself last because you fear taking care of yourself will take away from your ability to take care of others? All of this can be due to having narcissistic parents who treat you as an extension of themselves. Listen to this coaching session with Dustin and learn how your resistance to self-care is rooted in your childhood tra...

Tia feels lost as an entrepreneur, since recently leaving a steady job. She fears if she will fail or not, but the real issue is Tia not feeling in control. Tia gets angry with her daughter because she bought her enough clothes to wear a different outfit for three weeks in a row. Her daughter will wear one outfit Monday and wear the same exact outfit Wednesday, which makes Tia lose it. Where does...

Suppressing our emotions and feelings is dangerous because our unresolved feelings are emotional wounds and if we suppress them by avoiding them, they only grow and eventually consume us without even us being conscious of it. Parents who suppress their emotions and feelings pass down their unresolved feelings to their children in a dangerous way because the child grows up completely oblivious to i...

With the economy crashing due to Covid-19, Xavier has the constant fear that he will be let go since he is only a new hiree. What's happening now in the world is bringing up our worst fears so we can uncover and heal our unresolved deep-seated feelings. As always, "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." In this coaching session, we go to the core of the co...

You may have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts racing through you because of all that is happening right now.  All of this may be eliciting one of the darkest times of your life.  Through all of this, despite how bad it may be, I want you to first center yourself with the mantra that "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." This is not to illegi...

Where does Natalie's feelings of her family abandoning truly come from? In part two of this coaching session with Natalie, we go deep in the intergenerational healing process and unveil the source of it all. If you have not yet listened to coaching session part one, please go to listen to the previous episode first before listening to this episode. Receive your FREE "Feeling is Healing" Course by...

Here I coach Natalie Que through her fear that she will be disowned by her family if she speaks her true story that entails her family on her podcast "Your Spin Out is Gorgeous."  This episode marks a big change in my podcast where I will be coming back to featuring coaching sessions, but this time around I will be coaching mainly podcasters and YouTubers and less so anonymous callers. You are goi...

The reason why anxiety, anger, and depression keep coming up in our lives and in our society is because we are not uncovering and exploring the underlying root cause which lies in intergenerational healing. Understanding intergenerational healing forever change how we as a human race understand and ultimately heal anxiety, anger, and depression. To give you an understanding of what intergeneration...

Here l share my immense fear of failure with raw vulnerability. I was contemplating not publishing this episode because I did not want to appear as a hypocrite, failure, and fraud, but my wife convinced me that others easily connect when I share my raw vulnerability. It is only through the process of struggle, pain, and healing is transformation possible.  For more information on private sessions...

Do you find yourself feeling stuck in your negative emotions and problems no matter how much you think and analyze it all?  Although thinking is important, thoughts must be balanced with the act of feeling, for "feeling is healing."  "Feeling" is the first step of Michael's breakthrough emotional strength F.I.S.T. process which will help you get to the root of all your negative emotions, feelings...

Are you tired of being angry? I believe our anger has a lot to do with what was lost in our childhood.  We don't know that because we're so busy being angry at others and ourselves.  What we're really angry about is losing our childhood because our parents needed us as children for their emotional support.  Throughout our entire lives we try to take on the pain of our parents so we can lessen thei...

I believe relationships can often be enmeshed in the sense you have two people so focused on each other but not looking at themselves.  One partner can subconsciously blame the other partner for their past wounds.  While the other partner feels responsible and wants to be their savior.  Either way, you have two people so focused on each other which causes  their individual happiness to be dependen...

Why are we chasing after something we already are?  Why are we chasing after strength when we already strong?  Why are we chasing after worthiness if we already worthy?  The only reason why we chase after something is because we believe we don't have it.  We believe we are a failure so we must chase after success.  We believe we are worthless so we chase after worthiness.  Listen to this week's po...

I've seen it a lot with my clients where couples get into heated arguments because they feel emotionally responsible for each other.  Interestingly this helped see it in my own relationship where I would make my fiancee responsible for my own emotional well-being.  When you make others responsible for your well-being you nit pick at everything they do, because everything they do carries the heavy...

We often feel we are a prisoner to our own minds. We are constantly wrestling with our thoughts and hate ourselves for our negative emotions. We either try to think our way out of the emotion, numb ourselves with busyness or project our self-hate onto others. The whole time we are doing everything we can to avoid our emotions at all costs. But the truth is there is infinite wisdom that lies deep w...

I've been a messy and disorderly person all my life. I wanted to be organized but never truly understood the paramount importance of having my personal space orderly and including only possessions that spark joy within me. This has helped me create a clear mind and clarify on what is important to me since I am surrounded only by things that spark joy for me. Respecting your personal space serves a...

We think control as something that is self driven because it gets things the way we want it to be.  But control is really about forgetting who we are and what is important to us because control is focusing everything that is outside of you.  We need to control our environment and other people to have them give to us what we really need to be giving ourselves.  We feel like we need to control to fe...

Who are you without your fears?  Asking this question allows you to understand your true authentic self.  We have identified with our fears for so long because it feels familiar to us, but none of our fears make up the fabric of who we truly are.   Our fears is what make us look at our unattained goals everyday and think how far we are away from achieving them.  This makes us feel we are not enoug...

The pain and fears we carry are so hard to let go because they feel like they are a part of our soul.  The amazing thing is that our pain doesn't even belong to us.  As empaths or codependents we took on the pain of those we loved in order to lessen their load.   Especially when we took on this pain as children, this pain and this responsibility for the pain of others becomes our sole identity int...

Codependency is a word we often view as something that is negative and needs to be eliminated.  My understanding of codependency is that it is a result of a gift of ours that we overuse.  That is the gift of being an Empath.  As empaths we feel, identify and can even feel responsible for the emotional well-being of others.  This is a gift we use to intuitively know what others need in order to bre...

We falsely believe that accomplishing our life goals and dreams is what bring us our self-worth.  The truth is who we are just as we are is a gift to the world.  Ironically when we realize that, is when our greatest dreams and goals come true.   Therefore your gift to the world is not your "success.:  It is you just as you are. 

Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work.   In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner.  Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves.  Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed.   In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea th...

Every waking moment is an opportunity to share the gift of who you are and not to validate your self worth with what you do.  Lacking boundaries is not knowing where you end and the other person begins.  Without boundaries you cease to exist and thus sacrifice yourself to purely become a vessel to help others.  Reclaiming your boundaries allows you to give from the gift of who you are.  Without bo...

We all feel overwhelmed by all the things that we need to get done and especially all the problems we need to resolve in order to get to where we want to in life.  But the real issue is how we focus on these problems that take ourselves out of reality.  Thus the very thing we think will get us closer to our life goals and visions is actually taking us farther away from it all.  Listen to this podc...