Full-Time Grievers

Have you ever lost someone you loved, but your relationship was far from perfect?  This episode delves into the painful and complex experience of grieving a complicated relationship, whether marked by estrangement, abuse, or a final, devastating argument. We explore the emotional rollercoaster of grief in these circumstances, acknowledging the guilt, anger, and confusion that can arise. We'll...

Grief isn't a temporary chapter; it's a lifelong companion that constantly evolves. In the immediate aftermath, it can feel like a demanding  120-hour-per-week job. For the rest of your days, you may feel a new form of presence with  your departed. Processing your sadness is the key to rediscovering joy and finding meaning in a world that feels irrevocably altered. Join us as we explore th...

In this episode, Selysa and Nathan explore the profound and enduring connection that exists between the living and the deceased through the infinite power of love. This special episode features a guided meditation by Selysa, designed to help you deepen your connection with your departed loved ones through your shared bond of unconditional love. This meditation is most suitable for those who have p...

Guilt and regret are extremely common feelings that are a part of most grieving processes. These feelings can even come up for those with the most idyllic dying stories: passing away at home from old age surrounded by loved ones.  This episode helps listeners to identify what type of guilt they may be experiencing. Nathan & Selysa share their personal experiences navigating and processing  gui...

Grieving comes with so many different and often intense feelings. Sometimes it’s right for us to engage with those feelings consciously and deeply. Sometimes, for lots of reasons, the feelings can be too intense to engage. Selysa and Nathan talk about why this can happen and what you can do in both cases. This episode takes a close look at some important nervous system and emotion regulation strat...

There are many metaphors for the long, deeply personal process of grieving. Using the analogy of ocean tides can be another useful way to relate to the recurring experience of various elements of our grief, including heightened emotion and Survival Mode reactivity that persist or return long after the initial period of mourning. This episode is perfect for those wondering why they “aren’t getting...

In the initial period of acute grief following a loved one’s death, many of us experience more frequent and intense Survival Mode reactions along with or instead of intense emotion. We may go into a state of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and/or Appease more regularly or for a sustained period, and feel less sadness, sorrow, or grief than we would otherwise expect. Nathan and Selysa discuss examples of th...

Selysa and Nathan take a look at the most common (and most famous) misinformation about grieving the death of a loved one: “The 5 Stages of Grief”. Even though Kubler-Ross was studying the terminally ill and what they tend to go through (not bereaved people), and even though she wrote that these stages themselves were not linear – western culture has misappropriated and enshrined this way of relat...

Nathan shares about working with grief in different ways throughout life. The journey includes compartmentalizing the grief around losing grandparents in younger years, which was finally opened up and explored when Nathan's chosen brother, Edward, passed suddenly in 2023. Nathan shares vital tools for navigating the extreme grief of losing one's closest lifelong companion, confidante, and ally; an...

Selysa vulnerably shares about her personal relationship with grief, which started at age nine, and continues to this day. She dives into how she healed from losing two abusive parents as an adolescent, as well as several close friends to suicide and overdose as an adult. A hidden blessing she received from grief is peace with her inevitable death because she lives every day in alignment with her...

In this inaugural episode, Founder of the Sacramento Reiki Center, Selysa Love ,  and cofounder of the Center for Emotional Education, Nathan M McTague , discuss being open to getting help, remembering that (while being alone with our feelings is inevitable and important) we’re not meant to grieve in isolation, keeping in mind that people want to help and many may not know how. They also walk list...

Full-Time Grievers is a deep dive into the turbulent waters of losing a loved one. Grief can be so isolating. This podcast provides companionship and comfort to fellow grievers, and guidance to those who are supporting a full-time griever. We – your hosts, Nathan M McTague and Selysa Love – share what has worked for us in our grieving journeys, and with hundreds of our clients. Join us as we explo...