Drop the BS w/ Dr. Kirleen

When It’s Time to Move On: Embracing Change Letting go is one of the hardest things we face in life. Whether it’s walking away from a job, a relationship, a role we’ve outgrown, or even a dream that no longer aligns with who we are—it’s a process filled with emotional weight. Transitions stir up feelings of fear , anxiety , and uncertainty , and the unknown can make even necessary decisions feel p...

In this episode, I'll be sharing insights from both my personal experiences with burnout and my clinical expertise. Burnout is more than just feeling tired—it's a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion that can become overwhelming if not addressed. I'll talk about how to identify when your exhaustion has crossed the line into burnout and offer strategies to recover before reaching the...

Parenting can often feel overwhelming, with many parents questioning their judgment and wondering if they're getting it right. A study by Psychology Today found that nearly 70% of parents frequently worry about whether they're making the right decisions. While there is no definitive parenting handbook, there are best practices that can help navigate the journey of raising children.  In this episod...

In today's episode, we dive into the heart of building healthier relationships by exploring the concept of "like who likes you." Many of us find ourselves chasing after unreciprocated affection or approval, often investing time and energy in relationships that don't truly value us. It's time to shift our focus to those who genuinely appreciate us and bring positivity into our lives.  We'll break d...

In today's episode we are diving into the heart of mindset – a topic that touches every aspect of our lives. What exactly does mindset entail, and why does it matter so much for our mental well-being? Join us as we explore real-life stories and practical insights that shed light on the power of our thoughts and beliefs. Get ready to connect with the journey of a woman who experienced a profound sh...

In this episode focused on Fearless Living, we dive deep into the world of fear and phobias, exploring how they can impact our lives and hinder us from living to our fullest potential. Join us as we unravel real-life stories and practical strategies to overcome these challenges and reclaim control of our lives. From understanding the difference between everyday fears and debilitating phobias to of...

Ever found yourself suddenly overwhelmed by emotions from the past? It's like a tidal wave crashing into your present moment. In our latest episode, "Backstory Triggers," we dive deep into the powerful impact of unresolved experiences from the past resurfacing in your life. Learn why "If it's hysterical, it's probably historical." Understand the origins of exaggerated reactions and emotions by del...

Have you ever questioned your role in this dance of love, or observed your partner sending mixed signals? In this episode, we will delve into the intriguing dynamic of the "runner-chaser" phenomenon that many individuals find themselves in. The chaser typically takes on the role of initiator, pushing for the relationship and yearning for love and acknowledgment, while the runner adopts a more dist...

🎙️ Ready to Crush Success Blocks? Join us in the latest episode of "Crushing Success Blocks" on the Drop the BS podcast, where we unpack strategies to overcome emotional hurdles and pave the way for triumph. From challenging emotional avoidance to detoxing catastrophizing, discover how to master your mindset for success. Key Takeaways : Emotional Intelligence Unleashed: Challenge emotional avoidan...

Welcome to season six on Drop the BS podcast, where we dive deep into the delicate threads of family dynamics. In today's episode, we unravel the powerful narrative of forgiveness and healing, especially when family wounds cast a shadow over the joyous holiday season. Here's the episode at a glance: [2:35] Stroy from the Couch [08:16] On the Couch Takeaway 🎄 Episode Highlights: Case Study: A Holi...

Breaking up with a best friend can feel just as painful as splitting up with your partner . And while everyone acknowledges the trauma of romantic breakups, people don’t really talk about the fallout of a platonic separation. But the truth is a breakup is a breakup. When you share intimacy, and trust, in a friendship making the decision to dissolve the relationship can be very difficult. So on tod...

In Episode 99, Pt. 2, we continue to unravel the Love Language Paradox: I dive into the dos and don'ts of how to effectively use love languages. You will leave this episode ready to love and live from a new perspective. Similar Episodes 79: Should You Consider Couples Counseling? w/Dr. Kimberly VanBuren 57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Layer Conversations Rate, Review, & Follow-on App...

Odds are, you've heard of the five love five languages by now, and you may even have proclaimed out loud that your love language is physical touch, quality time, or one of the five. But in my work as a therapist, I find that people are missing the real magic behind what makes love languages a powerful concept and maybe misunderstand the original intent. Three decades ago, Gary Chapman, a 50-year-o...

If you know me, then you know that I am seriously a big fan of therapy. I might be a little biased as a therapist, but the truth is I am a big fan because I have seen firsthand the ability therapy has to transform lives. I have seen marriages saved, depression lifted, and teens get back on track with their life. However, I do understand that there may be a period in time when going to therapy is j...

It's challenging to help a loved one struggling with any type of addiction. Sometimes direct, heart-to-heart conversation can lead to arguments, lies, and denial. Family and friends are often unsure of whether what they are dealing with is really an addiction or just misuse. The bottom line is seeing someone you love spiral into what you think is addiction is scary and can have emotional and psych...

It is never easy when someone you know personally puts a label on you, like saying, “you’re so controlling.” Initially, you might think this person is just hating on you, but if you hear this from multiple people, you may begin to wonder if there is any truth to what they are saying. Controlling behaviors can be incredibly detrimental to any relationship and may have deep emotional roots. In many...

Do you have someone in your life that it's hard to have a simple conversation about what you feel or over a concern you may be having? Every time you try to explain what you feel, they take it the wrong way, won't accept responsibility for their actions, or just plain act out. When this happens, you may find yourself caught in the web of their dysfunctional communication style. Before you know it,...

It has become commonplace for people to use mental health conditions as dramatic labels for aspects of everyday life. Expressions like, "OMG, she's so bipolar" and "I'm so OCD right now" have become a part of everyday conversations. While most people are just trying to describe what they feel at any given moment, this language may minimize the seriousness of these conditions, create confusion, and...

There are certain seasons in life where it may feel like there is no solution to your problem. You've used every trick in the book, but the relationship, situation, or circumstance just isn't changing. Maybe you've been caring for a sick family member, or you are stuck in a dead relationship. You've cried, talked, prayed about it, and then talked about it again. These situations can leave us feeli...

I have heard countless people describe growing up in homes where they knew their parents cared about them, but many of the words, actions, and behaviors left them with wounds to deal with in adulthood. These wounds and traumas show up in adulthood in many ways, such as in patterns of settling for relationships that don't serve you, overthinking everything, and medicating emotions with food, alcoho...

Trust is one of the most essential components of a healthy relationship, and learning to trust someone again after a betrayal isn't easy. Re-establishing trust takes time, patience, and work, just as it does to establish it in the first place. Betrayal, such as infidelity, can affect your confidence and peace of mind. The old adage "once a cheater, always a cheater" may also lead you to question i...

The year 2022 has been filled with ups and downs for me, and I’m sure many of you feel the same way. One of the things that kept me going this year was the inspiring words of wisdom shared by the guests who came on the show. Their words encouraged me, comforted me, and gave me the tools to move through all the curve balls that life threw my way. So, on today’s show, I want to share the best advice...

Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy, and that grief can be twice as hard during the holidays. Memories serve as constant reminders of loss, and watching others celebrate can be painful and overwhelming. Whether it’s a sudden death or because of a long illness, the first holiday after the loss of a loved one changes so many things. While every person deals with death in their own wa...

It’s a natural human need to want to be seen and heard in the relationships that matter most to you. Unfortunately, many people find themselves in relationships where their concerns, thoughts, feelings, and desires are ignored. This experience can leave you questioning your value, even when you know better. Feeling unheard and unseen can happen in a variety of relationships including with friends,...

Divorce is never easy. Even the people who try their best to have an amicable divorce will tell you it's the hardest thing they've ever done. When issues such as infidelity, resentment, and finances get tossed in, things can get nasty very quickly. And if you haven't been the primary breadwinner or have been disconnected from household finances, you could find yourself not only emotionally, but fi...