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If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship that feels like a relationship—but somehow isn’t—you’re not alone. Grab my book here 👉 https://fopsy.ca/situationship-book . Situationships are everywhere, sold to us as "freedom." But what if real freedom is something completely different? Watch this before you settle for less. If this has resonated with you, trust me—you’ll want to get y...

If you’ve ever felt confused in a situationship, it’s not just in your head—mixed signals create real heartbreak. In this video, I read Chapters 1-3 from my book Situationship: How Not to Break Your Own Heart. 💔 Listen in as we unpack why contradictory words and actions keep you stuck.🎧 Want the full story? Get my book here → https://fopsy.ca/situationship-book Subscribe on YouTube to join the c...

I thought I was self-aware… until I found myself in back-to-back situationships. 😩 In this video, I share my story—how I kept falling into undefined relationships, why I finally woke up, and what led me to write Situationship: How Not to Break Your Own Heart. If you’ve ever felt confused about “what are we?” or been strung along by someone hiding behind spirituality, this is for you. If this reso...

One moment, life is chaotic, but going okay, you think. The next, your husband is asking for a divorce out of the blue. Discover how this experience shaped Natalie and propelled her toward seeking a well-rounded life, while helping other ambitious yet stressed women do the same. Dear Fopsy is back with new episodes! Make sure to subscribe here and follow on podcast platforms. If any part of this r...

According to Tobi Oluwole, here's the #1 formula to remember: Content = Attention Attention = Traffic Traffic = Revenue Revenue = Freedom And he knows what he's talking about. From a boss who didn't like that, he was doing so much on Linkedin to another company where his content accelerated his career - he got promoted because of his visibility, got to speak at events, and more to now...

When it comes to money, most of us are figuring it out as we go. Do you know what else we're figuring out as we go? Marriage. So what's it like when you're figuring both out at the same time? Today, I'm joined by Fikayo Usman of @fixitfinance to talk about all things Money, Marriage and Mortality. It got so good, I already know Fikayo will be back to keep the conversation going. Listen for an hone...

Talked to Abisola Shof from @theshofs on this episode! We discussed Marriage 10 Years Later, spouses going bald 👀, Family Finances when one spouse pursues a high-risk high reward dream, dealing with the different seasons of marriage, and keeping it fun when life is life-ing 🤩 The Shofs are not just fun on Instagram, but also inspirational and transparent about their marriage on YouTube. Don'...

David Ojeyinka has spoken to over 150 senior leaders of immigrant descent on his podcast about their journeys, but you haven't heard his story of resilience in moving from Nigeria to Canada. And what a story it is! I sat with my friend, an inspirational speaker and embodiment of resilience, to talk through the highs, lows, and lessons learned on his journey of building a fresh start in Canada....

Mrs. Busola Arimoro shares her story of life with Sickle Cell Disease - from her childhood and faith to living with chronic illness, finding love, and navigating marriage and childbearing with Sickle Cell Anaemia. I am honoured by Aunty Busola’s generosity in sharing her journey, and I know her story of resilience will inspire you. 00:00 Intro 1:30 Meet Aunty Busola 2:19 Early Life 11:13 Life with...

"With all the horror stories I keep hearing, I'm skeptical about marriage." So I was at  @thebuilders.church  a couple of weeks ago, and this question came up. I decided to dive deeper into this question in this episode. 0:00 First Things First 0:22 Speaking at Builders Church (@) 1:08 Learn the Principles 2:54 Learn the Purpose of Marriage 5:04 Yield to the Process 10:01 Book Recommendations on G...

My husband, Obi, and I have a candid chat about our cross-cultural Nigerian marriage, growing up, building confidence, and dealing with unexpected delays. He also dishes out advice to younger men and we share our favourite things about marriage. Don't miss out on this personal and entertaining conversation :) 0:00 Let’s Get into it 1:25 Meet Obi 3:08 He’s Igbo, I’m Yoruba 11:40 Growing Up 18:2...

On this episode, Kome & I chat about modern Christian dating. We talk about where “specs” come from (aka your list), unmarried Christian women having babies solo through IVF, the balancing act of settling for Mr. Good Enough, and the struggles of women wanting to be pampered but meeting great men who make less than them. Our guest, Kome, shares her insights and experiences. We also highlight the v...

How to deal with the agonizing loneliness of singleness as a Christian. This one’s for the days when you’re sick and tired of being single- feeling frustrated towards God and not sure life is worth living. Based on a real story from boundless.org & Candice Watters’ response.  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share ep...

How do you love your wife like Christ loved the church?  In this episode, we talk through the practical ways that men can show love to their wives. We also address the difficult question of what to do when your wife doesn't respect you. Previous episodes referenced: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Man: Part 1 How to Love Your Man: What They Don't Tell You About Loving Your Man - Part 2&nbsp...

How do you actually show love and respect for your man? It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Go...

It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Godman Akinlabi's Mr & Mrs Better Half. I'm sharing hi...

How far is too far when you're dating? Sure you have boundaries, but are they working? Here's an alternative to the "how far is too far" question that challenges you to rethink why you're dating for so long that you need to dance around sex for years.  Also, a moment of vulnerability about the #real struggles when saving sex for marriage. Body no be firewood 😭  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcas...

Are you torn between two amazing people and don't know how to choose? In this episode, we'll go over some key points to consider as you navigate this difficult choice: Don’t String them along How to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit when deciding who to marry. How to gather enough information about each person you’re considering? Why there’s no such thing as “the one” How to actually decide betwe...

Re-connecting with family and friends during the holidays sometimes comes with awkward questions about your job, relationship status, weight, or plans for kids.  It's best to be prepared. So you don't get caught off guard. Instead of choosing violence, here are some ways to navigate hard conversations with family and friends during your visits with family. 🔖 Work with our sponsor Emaege Stud...

Every time, you hear about relationship red flags 🚩 . How about Relationship green flags 💚? What are some early signs that you’ve met someone worth dating? Well, that’s what this episode is about. Listen, enjoy and share! 🔖 Work with our sponsor Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get i...

Money should never be a taboo topic with anyone you are merging your life with 📢. Today, we're talking about how to talk about money in dating relationships + this 8-month relationship that ended because he wouldn't share his salary.  🔖 Work with our sponsor Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how...

If you're saving sex for marriage, how do you know that sex will be good with your partner? Is sexual compatibility a real thing, and how do you test for it if it is? Today's episode features a story from a Christian man who has a sexual history but is marrying a virgin. They're both Christians but he's concerned his fiancee might be asexual. In this episode, I respond to his question, share thoug...

Introducing Dear Fopsy Reads : The one where I read and recap a love and relationship book. Today I share 7 lessons from the 30-year best seller: " The Five Love Languages ". Download the guide to go with the episode at: https://www.dearfopsy.com/store/p/5lovelanguages 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate...

“Dear Fopsy, I come from a line of divorced women, and I think I’m not meant to be happy in love.   I’m 33, and I’ve been worried that if I ever get married, my relationship will end in a messy and bitter divorce. I’m engaged and getting married in 2024. “ Today, we’re talking about breaking the cycle of divorce. Overcoming the pain of growing up with divorced parents, breaking generational c...

Dear Fopsy, Recently, the "good girl no dey pay" sentiment is loud - and seeping into my thinking. Plus it feels like unmarried Christian women are waiting for husbands into their 30s. Any encouragement for me & the community? Tackling this question today on feeling like you're losing, despite doing everything right. Here's some encouragement for anyone who's feeling like life isn't fair right...