Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that hel...

From dating books like 'The Rules' to TikToker's giving dating advice, we're here to say the rules don't freaking work – yet they are so much more engrained in all of us than we may even think. If you're debating when to text next, finding the "right" time to have sex or strategically keeping dates short, then it's likely these dating "rules" are actuall...

Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this week as we discuss why it's so common to feel this way – even when the reality is that most date's don't turn into more! We're discussing what metrics to focus on when quantifying dating "success", why dating apps have change...

We're officially on the off-season and kicking it off with some life updates from both of us. We recap the first part of 2025 – from our book tour to potential moves to wedding planning. Join us as we debrief about our favorite parts of the year so far and what has been a challenge. Enjoy! Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast,...

We're back with some of our most popular #brunchtalks and a question we always get is: what should I do if they say they like me but they just aren't ready right now for a relationship? Should I stay and give it more time or just let it go? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, especially when it's more of an external factor...

What if we were to tell you there's a way to find the right partner that doesn't feel like you're looking for a needle in a haystack where you will absolutely never settle. In our season finale, we saved one our favorite topics from our book 'How to Be Dateable': our perfect partner equation. We discuss the three core components of this equation, how they're different than...

Yue almost walked out of the movie Materialists...it may be one of Julie's favorite movies of all times. Whether you've seen it or not, we're having a debate about the messaging and takeaways of the movie as it pertains to modern dating, financial disparities in relationships, height surgery, and the matchmaking industry. We're revealing our true feelings of matchmaking from our ow...

What happens when you meet the love of your life but then the relationship completely falls apart not long after you get married? You learn what you probably needed to know lonnng before you tied the knot! We're joined with Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 to talk about how their relationship nearly collapsed – and what they did to get it back on track. We're discussing the green/red fl...

You met someone amazing. The chemistry is incredible and you really enjoy their company. So this is obviously headed into relationship territory, right? Not always...We're discussing if your situationship could actually turn into a relationship or if it's stuck in casual territory. We're discussing what to do when you aren't fully aligned with what a relationship entails, how to ga...

Ever want to pick the brain of a matchmaker? Well we're about to as we're joined with Matchmaker Maria to discuss her journey as a fourth-generation matchmaker and what it's like to be a matchmaker in today's world. We're discussing the pivotal quality she bases her matches on, how the 12 date rule can set you up for success, and why it's important to take the 5 different l...

So you met someone you could be into. And then it just hits you and takes over the entire situation. Something they did gave you the ick – so much that you are debating never seeing them ever again. We're discussing the two main reasons you get the ick, the origination of how the ick came to be, and what to do when you get it. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable...

From monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatonic partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, we're diving into the many ways to do relationships – and how to find what works for you. We're having our first official fivesome as we chat with the crew over at Multiamory about everything from the evolving nature of love in modern society, how...

We're catching up as we talk about a situation of 'should you tell them or not' when you know something about their relationship but you're not sure if it's your place to share. We're also chatting about a new dating app that caters to foodies and debate if this is a good idea for a first date. And of course, we answer a listener question about love bombing and what's t...

Reality check: You can find love at any age. And often times the BEST relationships happen "later in life" (which for the record is definitely subjective) We're diving in with our guest Sandy Weiner who shares her own story and those of her clients. We're discussing why age should not deter you from dating, the different complexities that come from meeting someone when you may be m...

Nothing is worse than when you have a seemingly great first date...and then the next one just never happens. Whether they ghost, tell you there wasn't a connection, or whatever other excuse comes up, it can be so damn confusing! We're diving into why this happens – from the reasons that come with dating to what could be personal to the person. We also recount dates of our own where we thou...

The #1 thing we hear is: But I don't want to waste time. We feel you! Time is our most valuable asset and nothing feels more discouraging than spinning your wheels when dating without results. But what are the perceived time wasters versus the true ones? We're diving into the areas that we believe are the hidden time sucks, how to maximize and preserve your energy on everything from dating...

Grab your mimosas, we got a good one as we chat about why you can be great on paper, attractive, the whole nine yards – yet still have trouble attracting people to date. We're also debating a question around your boyfriend sleeping with a friend and how travel really shows if you can make a relationship work. Enjoy! Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify...

Were you, you? Were you radically honest with yourself? Did you seek wisdom? We're back with a fave return guest, Marni Battista to talk about how to live your most radical life – especially when it comes to dating and having relationships. We're discussing why deviating from the 'white picket fence' ideals can help you find true joy, what it really means to date as your authentic...

We don't know about you, but we're sick of all the negativity – always looking for every last red flag out there. So we're flipping the script and discussing the green flags to look for on a first date. We're also sharing some wait...what? moments and also responding with a text to send message around what to do when you want to see someone again. Enjoy! Listen today and share your...

We always wonder...how do I know if someone is right for me? Yue's breaking down her recent analogy that gives you a good gut check when dating to see if someone could be a good partner for you. She shares what she's learned over the years – and how she was able to find a partner that compliments her in all the right ways. Bottoms up! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedat...

We're talking about a different relationship today: friendship! Not only how your friends can be there to support you while dating – but more importantly, the immense value this type of relationship brings in itself. We're talking with friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson about everything from why friends are so important for our mental health, navigating the different stages of frien...

Do you have a tendency to overthink dating situations? What's the healthy line of thinking things through to be intentional and even cautious – but not to the point of analysis paralysis or driving ourselves crazy thinking about what *could* happen? We unpack the major difference in this episode – how to lean into Thinker ways so it serves you, but also make sure you are taking action in your...

We have a confession: we have a love / hate relationship with the word flirting. But we absolutely loved the energy of our guest Benjamin Camras aka the gay libra aka the flirt coach – and he 100% changed our outlook of what flirting can look like. We discuss how to flirt in a way that feels natural (even the introverted or socially anxious folks, we see you!), the biggest misperceptions of flirti...

Dun. Dun. Dun. It's about to get creepy...or maybe just cringy as we talk about all things exes: what's your reaction to finding out your ex is engaged, what happens when you run into an ex, and the case for rebound relationships. Join us as we dish and unpack what it means to move on....and when your ex moves on. Enjoy! Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on...

We've talked about dating in your 20s and 30s....but now we're diving into dating in your 40s – and beyond. We're joined with return guest Kimmy Seltzer who shares her insights as a dating coach and her own personal journey from divorce to self-discovery in 'the second act' as she likes to call it. We're discussing the more divergent differences of lifestyle that happen whe...