Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

If you identify as a woman (or date women!), you've probably heard about why 'feminine energy' is so important to attract a mate. But it's 2024 people, and we're discussing why this is actually quite problematic even though it feels innocent enough. So buckle up as we chat about why this advice is simply outdated, how to embrace a natural style for you that still gives off an i...

Does dating get harder after 30? We’re digging into the challenges but also why we think it's the BEST time to date. Join us as we dive into all the myths and misperceptions of dating after turning 30. We discuss the fear of running out of time, the reasons this age is actually working in your favor, and why it's not only possible – but probable– to find love at any age. TW: We also discus...

When something feels off...is it just your anxiety talking or is this your gut telling you something is very wrong? Whether you're dating someone new or in a long-term relationship, we're discussing a framework to decipher these feelings, how to determine if you're in a "Yue situation" (as the listener so endearingly refers to it), and ways you can actually talk it out instead...

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Yue will discuss a framework she uses to stop spending time on trivial things in dating – whether it's that text back or anything else that ends up being a waste of your time when dating. Join our Findin...

Date 3 People at a time, for 3 months, with 3 chances. Does this strategy work? We're chatting with Haifa about how her 333 Dating Strategy helped her find love after wasting four years on dating apps feeling unconfident and insecure. We're discussing the pros and cons of multi-dating, why it's important to give dating experiences time to see the person for who they truly are, and ways...

So all your friends are all boo'ed up...and then there's you. Single as a Pringle. We've been there before and we get how crappy it can feel to be the only single one in the group. But have no fear! We're diving into how navigate this time so you can feel less alone in the process. We discuss ways to expand your social circles to connect with others who get where you're at, how...

We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overal...

Could the problem be your city? Is it worth moving for better dating prospects? We're diving into it all as we chat about why (or why not) your location is the problem. We discuss how to evaluate whether or not a move would e good for you, why everyone thinks their city is the worst place to date, and how you can take advantage of your current city even if you think the dating pool has dried u...

We're trying something new! Welcome to the first installment of “Quickies” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie will dive into the Single Scale: what it is, where you land on it and how it may be impacting finding an actual partner who is the real deal. Follow us @dateab...

Does dating feel like you’re chasing a “happily ever after” that always seems out of reach? We're chatting with dating coach Damona Hoffman about how to break free from the dating myths that keep you stuck on an outdated vision of a relationship that probably isn't even what you want anyways! We discuss why soulmates don't exist, the four pillars of strong relationships, and how you ca...

Ever been on a date when your date won't stop talking? We're back with a new season of brunch talks as we go into how to know if it's first date jitters or narcissistic tendencies. We're discussing ways to insert yourself / redirect the conversation, how to do your own talking-too-much gut check, and when to give the date another try versus cut bait.  Got a question you need answer...

We're back with Season 18 here to answer an existential question we've had after doing this podcast now for 8 years: do you need to be good at dating? When we first started the pod, the answer was an obvious yes....until we dug in further. Join us as we discuss why dating culture isn't helping us get into relationships, how to start dating differently, and ways you can start forming mo...

So you've been dating someone for a little bit now...when is it time to DTR (define the relationship) and how do you broach the subject? In our last of the Best of Brunch talk series, we'll discuss the difference between exclusivity and a relationship, how to have a series of low pressure chats starting early on, and why the focus should actually NOT be on defining the relationship (but ra...

As that essential tool we love to hate, the question remains: are apps the problem or are you just using them wrong? We're diving into it all as we chat with Laura & Heather on their podcast Thirsty about how we can leverage dating apps to their highest power and (perhaps) find the love of a lifetime. We discuss how to make great connections that may go somewhere, why better dates may actu...

One of the worst feelings in dating is sending that text and only to be left on read 4 hours later....yup, you too? We're going back to our OG Brunch talk episode – the first one ever with a topic that continues to be top of mind. Join us as we discuss why we put so much weight on texting, how to get out of the anxiety cycle of waiting, and ways you can stop compulsively looking at your phone...

Whether you're newly single after a breakup or you're just trying to figure out how to navigate the day with someone new in your life – we got you. Valentine's Day (aka Singles Awareness Day) can bring up all sorts of feelings and concerns so we're answering your v-day questions in this special episode and re-airing an episode we did with 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose to inject some humor...

We're diving into another crowd favorite and incredibly common question we hear over and over again: should I go on that date if I'm not sure about them? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing knowing the limitations of dating apps vs. trusting your gut, how to set up a date for success before even going on it, and ways you can change your mindset about what a first date even means....

Single for V-day? We got you! Get ready for all the feels as we speak with Julia Mazur, ex-Tinder employee turned confidence coach, about what it's like to release the pressure of needing to be in a relationship and embrace being single for this season of life. We're discussing the ultimate masturdates, how to find a healthy relationship through valuing yourself, and why this time in your...

If you've ever been told you're being "too picky" or you have a fear of settling, this brunch talk is for you! We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes about the difference of being so particular that no one can meet your standards vs being smart to hold out for the right person. We're discussing why settling gets a bad rap, ways you may be settling without even rea...

Despite over 70% of people being ghosted, it doesn't diminish how f%cking sh*tty it feels. We're breaking down how to stop getting ghosted (or at least stop letting it get to you) as we chat with Rory Uphold from Crimes of the Heart. We’re discussing our wildest ghosting stories, how to reframe rejection, and ways not give so much power to the ghosters out there. Follow Rory @icouldbeblond...

Right person, wrong time? Or is it just not meant to be? Trust us, we've pondered this ourselves and we're reairing one of our most passionate discussions. This week we discuss how to timing plays into relationships, when to wait vs. move on, and whether it can actually be right person, wrong time or if it's total BS that's holding you back. Got a question you need answered? Hit us...

What if you could throw out all the rules and create your own Do-it-Yourself Vision of a relationship? We're talking about how to design your love life with one of our favorites, psychotherapist Ken Page, on his podcast Deeper Dating. We're discussing the visions of dating across ages, how you use your North Star when dating, and ways you can less attached to the outcome – but still intent...

Popular dating advice has told us: if they wanted to, they would. They'd move mountains to be with us and if they can't, then they just aren't that into it. We're re-airing one of our best brunch talks where we’re discuss when someone says they can't do something / they aren't ready and what this means for you, why this saying isn't always so black and white, and how to...

From that post-great-date moment of bliss to the can't-get-out-of-bed heartbreak, we're diving into all the wonderful, problematic, and even humorous sides of dating as we chat with Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Reimagining Love. We discuss the rapidly changing dating culture, dig into our personal highs and lows, and tackle three sticky relationship situations – all which can help you reflect...

The age old question that never stops coming: how can I tell if the person I'm seeing is as invested in me as I am in them? For our best of brunch series, we're re-airing a crowd favorite episode about signs if someone is serious – or not. We're discussing why it's important to look beyond just the DTR talk and labels, how you can communicate what a relationship means to you even e...