Connection Codes

Shawn & Michelle Gabie are sharing a conflict that appears seemingly small to anyone looking in, but when it becomes a daily repeat, it quickly becomes large. The cycle of the conflict leads to feeling disrepected & hurt. These moments happen in our homes every day, a small annoyance that causes big disconnect. They are sharing how they finally turned the corner to overcome this pain point...

There have been several great questions come in recently, we decided to do a rapid fire response. We are going to be talking about how doing the Connection Codes isn't a hallpass to be lazy in your relationship, how Tera no longer feel's pressure in sex, and how to explain the CC with friends. Episode 44- Elijah's Journey Foundations Course with 20% off Code applied- https://connection...

Connection Coders Roy & Julie are In Session today to talk about the "multiplier." This is when a reaction feels like it should be small but ends up becoming larger than expected. We have all been there. Dr Glenn & Phyllis share communication tips to help reconnect you when things snowball quickly & without warning. Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast F...

Jordan & Erika Koop come on the podcast today to talk through finding the right time to do the Core Emotion Wheel. They parents to young kids & finding time to connect when they are both "on" is difficult. (We get it!) Dr Glenn & Phyllis give practical advice & talk through their painpoints. Foundations course: www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse Free Core Emotion Wh...

A listener described her emotions as feeling like one big ball of yukiness-- and we can see how it would feel that way. How can you tell the difference between some emotions when it feels like they are hitting all at once? We are going to help teach you with special emphasis on the difference in guilt and shame. Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ Use code: PO...

In this episode of "Friendship and Feelings," we explore the challenges of processing emotions in friendships and how to create safety in those relationships. We sit down with Bridgett Blood to discuss how she uses the Connection Codes tools as a single person to work through trauma and find emotional regulation. Bridgett shares her personal experiences and insights into using the Connec...

We dive into the challenges of navigating relationship conflicts and resolving disagreements with your partner. Using a courtroom analogy, we discuss the pitfalls of trying to make a case against your partner and offer tips for effective communication and conflict resolution. Our goal is to help you avoid damaging your relationship while still finding a way to address your concerns and come to a r...

Do you ever feel like you have been hit by sadness so hard that it is hard to move? But another time sadness could come and go quickly? There are different levels that you can experience emotion & being able to communicate those levels can make a big difference in how others respond to you. Something that could look like a small situation to one person could feel big inside another person'...

Today, we will be discussing secondary anger and how to get to the core emotion. Secondary anger is a response to another emotion, such as fear, hurt, or shame. It can be challenging to identify and manage, but it's essential to understand and manage it to prevent it from damaging our relationships and affecting our mental health. By recognizing the signs of secondary anger and using the Conne...

Do you stand in the aisle of Target debating what shampoo to buy? Or do you have to keep telling your waitress for one more minute while you decide dinner? Decisions come up all day every day and many of us are frozen due to indecisiveness & struggling to choose. We are diving into how to overcome it to save time & energy.

Babies, marriage, retirement, moving, loss… there are so many moments in life our identity shifts. Those moments leave us feeling lost, unsure of who we are now. And it is painful. Today, we share our experiences in these shifts and a response to an email we received.

Ever sense that your spouse is still upset the day after a conflict & you don't know what to do to move forward? Today, we dive into how to break that moment up so you can ease the tension & move past the conflict. We are explaining the research behind the Core Emotion Wheel & what it can do to change your life. To download our free Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/po...

Chris Cruz joins us today to talk about life before and after the Connection Codes. He dives into the moment he shifted from kind of using the tools to going all in. He shares what he did to push through the hard moments to now live a life of connection. 

What do people experiencing narcissism need? Can you heal narcissism? If you are living with or in relationship with someone experiencing a psychological disorder, this episode is especially for you. We actually think everyone should hear this because we ALL experience a disorder of the psyche at some point on the spectrum. To download our free Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/po...

Are you in relationship with someone who experiences narcissism? Have you been accused yourself of being narcissist? This two part series is for you. We are breaking down What it looks and feels like to experience narcissism from both the internal perspective and the external. This is part one & it is very important that you listen to both parts. Next week we complete the puzzle and fill in so...

Everyone has a childhood, a past before we met our partner. Those formative years shape how we are showing up in our relationships today- whether we realize it or not. Today, we share a bit about areas of our childhood that are currently affecting us. Phyllis dives into how her childhood shut off the recognition of anger & how she has lived her life being the "good girl."  Learn more abou...

One person is craving, actually desperate for physical touch. While the other is touched out or unaware of it's power. Today, we are diving into the science of physical touch and the practicalities of it. Physical touch is more than a love language, it is a human need. This episode we talk sex, motherhood and caring for young kids, conflicts-- it is full of goodness you don't want to miss. Valenti...

Are you already feeling a sense of dread that Valentine's is around the corner so it is a guaranteed night you will need to show up sexually? Or are you anticipating the night because it has been a while since you have experienced a sexual encounter? Either way-- there can be a lot of emotional pain around sex for this particular holiday. Today- we are addressing our experiences & our mindset...

The Bible says, "Do not fear." "Do not worry about tomorrow." So, what does that actually mean? Is it wrong to process and feel these emotions? What about identity? Is it wrong to lose our identity with our partner if it is only found in Christ? We are talking about the Connection Codes and Christianity with Pastors Josh & Joni Tanner. They dive into what they have learned & how they can s...

It was late at night while laying in bed, Elijah had an epiphany- he was experiencing a disorder of the psyche. This pattern was affecting his wife, his kids, and his perception of himself. He was caught in a pattern. And now that he was aware of it- he can begin to process. This is true for so many people. We walk around being knocked off course due to our psyche being flooded.  This episode...

When is the last time you changed your mind? How often do you say the name of the grocery clerk bagging your groceries? When did you last pause and connect with your neighbor? Carlos Whittaker is sharing the moment his life was transformed because someone saw him-- really saw him. And how that moment was the launching point of how he now devotes his life to seeing others. He is a natural story tel...

Do you want more out of life? Do you wonder what steps to take to get to the next level? To wrap up our beginning of the year series, we brought in Sky Hill- Dr Glenn & Phyllis' son- who shares what he has experienced over the last year to transform his life. He shares the biggest question he has asked himself to get to this change & make it last.  Find out more about the Connection C...

We set our goals- but we fail to reach them because we don’t create the habits it takes to succeed. We break down why habits are important, where people fail, and tips on how to make them.

Ever wonder how to set goals? What mindset helps you actually achieve your goals? We are diving into the emotions involved in goal setting and how to set yourself up for success. 

Do you ever find that you are trying to process your emotions but your partner isn't on board to participate? They may say that they don't feel certain emotions... or emotions at all. It can be hard to navigate improving your relationship when it feels one sided. Today, we answering a question from a listener who is wanting her husband to go all in with her on this journey.  Download the Core...