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“The biggest element is the motivation, because if they are motivated to work on recovery, they will recover well and fast.” - Kiat Yong    The discovery of a spouse’s affair is never a pleasant one, but the road to reconciliation and healing is possible, says Kiat Yong, a seasoned counselor with Focus on the Family Singapore. Kiat Yong delves into the emotional turmoil that both the bet...

“I think even just recognising within ourselves at the points that we are totally triggered and need to take a pause from this conversation...” – Grace Chua   Navigating the ups and downs of marriage takes self-awareness, empathy, communication, and teamwork. It's no easy task, whether you're in your first year or have been married for years. Whether you're dating, thinking of marriage, or ma...

“Dating it's also a journey of self-discovery not just other-discovery … even if it doesn't work out, you come out with a better awareness of who you are as a person.” -Elvin Foong   Dating isn't just about finding the right partner—it's also a journey of self-awareness! The journey towards marriage is one which requires wisdom and perspective from older ones, courage to confront differences,...

“When you think of your household tasks as a way of loving your husband, loving your wife, investing into your shared home, it changes the perspective…” – Elyna Have you ever felt lost in navigating finances and division of chores in your first year of marriage? Can learning to work out these issues as a team be an opportunity for vulnerability and connection, perhaps even fun? Tune in to find out...

"If you value your marriage, you will need to often make sacrifices not to put your individual identity above the collective identity (of the family)." - Ernest Sim  What does it take for two individual lives to come together as one unit in the beautiful union of marriage? How do two differing persons with their unique personalities, preferences and style work synergistically together to crea...

“Why do we make the money we make? What's the vision around the money itself? … how can we make sure that we execute that vision?” – Ng Choon Jin  Our family backgrounds influence our views on money and its role in our lives. This inevitably affects how a married couple manages and uses money, often leading to conflicts. How can we develop a clear and healthy vision for our finances in marria...

“Money, while so fundamental, is nothing more than an enabler... never let the money decision lead your life - always let the life decision lead first, and then the money will be enabling you to do what you need to do”. - Choon Jin   Money can often become a major issue in marriage. Joining us for this episode is Choon Jin, an ex-accountant turned money coach. Tune in to find out about t...

Habits. How do we practise kindness and forgiveness towards our spouse daily?   “Your mind is like a garden. Your thoughts are like seeds. Choose kindness and forgiveness so you don't deal with weeds.”  Tune in to this episode, where our guests Mario and Shalyn share about being quick to listen and slow to react, as well as what to do when we over-react. -- Looking for helpful resou...

” --- we need to have that frank, open, honest communication. Once we have that, it's a natural tendency that kindness and forgiveness start to come in.” - Mario   Join Mario and Shalyn as they discuss their 17-year marriage journey, sharing candid insights into the challenges they've faced, such as unmet expectations and conflicts. Despite these hurdles, they consistently find their way back...

“Instead of trying to dissect the problem, I'm trying to understand her emotional state. I try to listen to her, validate her point of view, and acknowledge how she's feeling. When I do that, I remember that we are on the same team.” - Justin   Intimacy in a marriage is built by two active listeners. Join Justin and Joey on this podcast, as they continue the conversation from the last episode...

“Celebrating the small victories: they just finished a presentation... Why not celebrate those moments? Why do we only wait until we have certain anniversaries or bigger milestones that we celebrate and care for each other? We can build that intentionality and pursue our spouse in heartfelt and genuine ways.” - Justin Building a marriage and pursuing our spouse is not just the big and grand gestur...

After marriage, it's common to grow familiar with our spouse, sometimes neglecting to prioritise each other’s needs. The key to a thriving marriage lies in intentional efforts to communicate in each other's love language, and prioritising your spouse. Joining us on this podcast are Francis and Jocelyn, who share how they maintain their strong bond amidst competing factors. Tune in to discover more...

We live in a hyperconnected and fast-paced world, where everyone is just a text or call away. However, with such a hyperconnected-ness, how do we discipline ourselves to slow down and connect with those who truly matter? Tune in to this podcast where Francis and Jocelyn share how they intentionally carve out time for each other amidst the busyness of life. Don't miss out on their practical tips fo...

Working as one team as husband and wife, enables you to cover each other’s weaknesses, while complementing each other’s strengths! Parenting as one not only benefits your children, but strengthens your bond with your spouse! In this second episode of a two-part series, Joel and Jilleen share how they navigate their differences and challenges, and the bumpy process they go through to find a middle...

We often hear the saying, “The best gift that we can give our children is a strong marriage”. How do we prioritise and love our spouse during the roller coaster years of parenthood in the children’s early years? With the limited time, energy, and countless responsibilities as young parents, can we really thrive in our marriage too? Joining us in this episode is Joel and Jilleen. They have been mar...

“Communication — like how to communicate well — really intensifies when you are married, because you have nowhere to run.”  Join our host, Delia Ng and Dennis and Shiyun Goh as they chat about how they’ve learnt to manage their differences in marriage.  -- Couples who are newly married or thinking of getting married can learn handles to walk into the next chapter of their lives with the&...

“There's a saying that two are better than one. Whatever I'm not strong in, Dennis is strong. Whatever I am strong in, Dennis is not strong in and that's where the partnership comes.”  What if you fall for someone who seems to be on the opposite end of the spectrum? How can we manage such differences while dating? Tune in to the first episode of When Two Worlds Collide to find out how our gue...

“Loving someone takes two parts. One part is commitment, the other part is the emotions.” But what happens when the emotions start to fluctuate, or when you find yourselves drifting apart. Tune in to this second episode of The Runaway Groom to find out how our guests, Andrew and Evon Chu, deal with this conundrum. -- Whether you are preparing for or looking to strengthen your marriage, visit ...

What is the impact on a person having grown up in a broken family? While different individuals may respond differently, there could be some emotional wounds left behind. Tune in to hear from Andrew and Evon, as our host Joanna Koh-Hoe finds out how one near-runaway groom turned his story around.  -- Whether you are preparing for or looking to strengthen your marriage, visit www.family.org.sg...

“We need to cherish each other, and we need to have mutual understanding to build one another up so that we can be lovers for life.”   Did you know that authentic sexual intimacy can build up a strong foundation in your marriage? Gain invaluable tips on growing your sexual intimacy as a couple as our host Gary Koh chats with Steven and Michelle Chan.  -- Whether you are preparing for or...

“There are five areas of intimacy, and these five areas create opportunity for a couple to develop deep trust, connection and understanding between them.”  Tune in to this latest episode on making intimacy a priority in marriage, as our host Gary Koh chats with Steven and Michelle who have been married for 41 years and are still going strong.  -- Whether you are preparing for or looking...

“Boundaries are like the rules of a sports game. If we all have clear expectations on how to play the game, then the game becomes a lot more enjoyable.”  Tune in to our host Joanna Koh-Hoe as she chats with young couple Hong Xin and Noelle on how they align their expectations and establish healthy boundaries in their marriage.    -- Whether you are preparing for or looking to s...

Boundaries are like invisible but protective lines we draw around ourselves and others. Clear boundaries mean that tension and conflicts are reduced because we know what we've agreed upon.      Tune in to our host Joanna Koh-Hoe as she chats with married couples Hong Xin and Noelle on how intentional boundaries work to safeguard their marriage.   -- Whether you are prepari...

“I think communication is key. You just need to talk it out and find some middle ground.” Learning how to be aware of our own emotions, and to communicate well, can be tough especially in the heat of the moment. Join our host Delia Ng and our guests Evans and Estelle as they share about how they process their emotions and focus on working things out as a team. -- “Receiving counselling has helped...

"Moments like that reveal there are deeper roots that you need to deal with. And once you deal with those undealt issues in your life, you realise that they stop being a trigger.”  Have you ever wondered what might be triggering your spouse’s over-reaction to what seems like a small thing?   Join our host Delia Ng as she discovers more about overreactions with married couple Evans a...