Cat, Unmuted Podcast

Episode 34: Intimacy Wasn’t the Real Problem When I first talked about my intimacy issues with Josh in Episode 23, we had recently started couples therapy—and I believed the problem belonged equally to both of us. Three months later, I can admit something uncomfortable: Most of it was me. Not because I didn’t love or want my husband, but because years of taking responsibility for everyone and ever...

In Part 2 of my conversation with Kevin Scott Day, we move beyond what he does today and into the experiences that helped shape the way he sees himself, other people, and life itself. Kevin began drinking around age 12, eventually becoming physically dependent on alcohol. Losing his job became one of the lowest points of his life, but also the moment when he was finally able to accept help and beg...

Episode 32 of Cat Unmuted is here, and this conversation got so big that one episode couldn’t hold it. 😂 This is Part 1 of my conversation with spiritual life coach Kevin Day. We talk about forgiveness, responsibility, childhood beliefs, addiction and recovery, trauma, the stories we attach to what happened to us, and one question I think is worth asking ourselves: Does the belief that once prote...

Sometimes the life we planned isn’t the life we end up living. In this episode of Cat Unmuted , I look back at some of the biggest turns in my life, from being forced to leave Japan 20 years ago, joining the military out of desperation, leaving the military, becoming a massage therapist, experiencing pregnancy loss, closing my business, becoming a writer, putting our house on the market, and now f...

After my Make It Sayable speech at the Maternal Mental Health Summit, one woman asked me a question I hadn’t considered: “Were you able to finally put words to what you felt and went through?” My answer was no. Two years after my miscarriage, I still can’t fully describe what that experience felt like. But that conversation made me realize something else: maybe the people who love us don’t need to...

Ep. 29 | Make It Sayable: My Kassy’s Kause Maternal Mental Health Summit Talk A special Sunday episode of Cat Unmuted. This week, I’m sharing the talk I gave at the Kassy’s Kause Maternal Mental Health Summit: Make It Sayable. Two years ago, after experiencing a missed miscarriage and the depression that followed, I found myself trying to put words to something I had never felt before. That experi...

There are moments in life when love doesn't ask us to hold on tighter. It asks us to let go. In this deeply personal episode, I share the heartbreaking journey of rehoming my dog, Maya, as Josh and I prepare for our move overseas. This wasn't a decision made overnight. It was months of tears, conversations, self-doubt, and asking one difficult question over and over: What is truly best for her? I...

Episode 27: When Letting Go Is Self-Respect Not every relationship is meant to last forever. Some people enter our lives to teach us something, to help us grow, or to walk beside us for a season. Others stay much longer than they should because we're holding onto hope instead of reality. In this episode of Cat Unmuted , I share three deeply personal stories about relationships I eventually had to...

Waiting can feel like failure. When you've packed your house, made the plans, and emotionally said goodbye to a chapter of your life, every extra day can feel like you're standing still. This week, I share what it's been like to prepare for our move to Okinawa... only to still be here more than 90 days later. At first, I saw the delay as an obstacle. But slowly I realized something unexpected. Lif...

Episode 25: Purpose, Loss, Adventure, and Living Your Best Life with Jane Bradley In this episode of Cat Unmuted , I sit down with my mentor, Jane Bradley, one month before her 88th birthday. Jane has lived many lives: ranch girl, mother, artist, writer, businesswoman, mentor, traveler, and adventurer. She shares stories of love, devastating loss, reinvention, courage, and the deep question that s...

Sometimes the problem isn’t your relationship. Sometimes... you’ve simply disappeared inside everyone else’s needs. This week’s episode is one of the hardest I’ve ever recorded. I talk openly about my struggles with intimacy, what therapy has uncovered, and how years of being everyone’s caretaker slowly caused me to lose myself. If you’ve ever forgotten who you are while taking care of everyone el...

🎙️ Episode 23 of Cat Unmuted is now live! This week, I sit down with Journey Pierre from The Inner Bloom for a conversation about rock bottoms, shadow work, boundaries, nervous system healing, self-worth, and the identities we leave behind as we grow. We talk about childhood wounds, sibling guilt, toxic family dynamics, validation, feminine energy, and what it really means to become the person you...

Episode 21: Voices, Stories, and Finding the Good Guest: Heather Ballantine of Voices and Stories Studio Welcome to Episode 21 of Cat Unmuted , and my very first guest episode! In this conversation, I sit down with my friend Heather Ballantine, fellow Air Force veteran, author, podcast host, and creator of Voices and Stories Studio . Heather shares her journey from military life to writing books f...

Episode 20: Interviewing Myself This episode started as an experiment. I've been thinking about bringing guests onto Cat Unmuted because, if I'm being honest, talking to a camera by myself can feel awkward. I wanted to test-drive a set of interview questions I've been developing for future guests. So instead of interviewing someone else, I interviewed myself. What followed was a surprisingly hones...

I thought I was being lazy. Turns out… I was exhausted. Not physically. Emotionally. Living in a house that no longer feels like mine. Trying to keep everything perfect for showings. Writing a book. Trying to stay positive. Trying to “manifest correctly.”Trying to hold it all together. Then one day I stopped cleaning. Stopped forcing productivity. Stayed up until midnight playing Super Mario with...

In this episode of Cat Unmuted , I share a real experience from a recent vending event I attended with a friend—and how quickly things can spiral when people choose reaction over awareness. What started as a new opportunity turned into a front-row seat to miscommunication, personality clashes, and unnecessary drama. But instead of getting pulled into it, I found myself observing something deeper:...

This episode of Cat Unmuted is deeply personal. Cat opens up about her experience with adenomyosis, a condition she had never even heard of until after years of unexplained symptoms, chronic pain, infertility struggles, miscarriage, exhaustion, and brain fog. What started as confusion around heavy bleeding and hormonal chaos eventually led to answers she didn’t know she needed. In this raw and unf...

In this episode of Cat Unmuted , I talk about something subtle that showed up the moment we got our first house showing request… excitement. But not the calm, grounded kind. The kind that spikes. The kind that hooks you into an outcome. I walk through how that moment revealed something deeper: The difference between hope vs. attachment How “this could happen” quietly turns into “this needs to happ...

In this episode, I walk through the real process of preparing a home for sale—not just the physical work, but the emotional and energetic shifts that come with it. After a full month of deep cleaning, decluttering, and preparing our house for the market, I found myself navigating something deeper: letting go of identity, attachment, and control. This isn’t just about selling a house. It’s about tr...

I saw two posts the other day. One remembering a stillborn. One remembering a lost friend. And somehow… without even realizing it at first…they led me back to my own miscarriage. I realized it was also my anniversary for my miscarriage, which was about a week away. I didn’t fall apart. I didn’t cry the way I thought I was “supposed” to. I felt… peace. And for a split second, I questioned myself. A...

What this episode explores:🔹 People Change—Not Just Women A perspective shared in this episode highlights how women evolve through major life experiences. But Cat expands on this idea: Men evolve too Emotional growth isn’t one-sided Shared experiences shape both partners Growth happens on both sides—and that matters. 🔹 Timing Is Everything One of the biggest reflections in this episode: What if...

I opened my old email to clear space—and instead found memories I hadn’t touched in years. Messages from my dad. Conversations around his passing. Pieces of a life I had already packed away. And just like that… I was triggered. But here’s the thing—I didn’t let it take over my day. In this episode, I talk about:✨ What triggers really are✨ Why grief isn’t always about the person✨ How big life tr...

In this episode of Cat Unmuted , Cat reflects on a simple moment that turned into a much bigger realization. While helping a friend troubleshoot a Facebook issue, frustration quickly took over when things didn’t go as expected. That moment sparked a deeper reflection on how we respond to situations we can’t control . From pandemic experiences to everyday interactions, Cat explores how people often...

In this episode of Cat Unmuted , Cat shares a real-life experience that happened while she and Josh were out near the dunes of New Mexico with their Jeep. After hearing someone yell for help, they discovered a father and son stuck in the dirt with their truck. What started as a simple recovery turned into a reflection about embarrassment, ego, personal responsibility, and how our reactions to diff...

We don’t always process pain. Sometimes we survive it. And survival can look like strength. Silence. Composure.“I’m fine.” In this episode of Kat Unmuted , I talk about emotional dissociation, trauma, and the quiet ways we disconnect from memories that once overwhelmed us. The brain is brilliant at protection. It can separate emotions from experiences so we can keep functioning. But what happens w...