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Before Dieting... Most women who regain weight are not beginners. They have followed diets, changed their eating, lost weight and proved they can do it. But knowing how to lose weight and understanding why the weight keeps coming back are two different problems. Before Dieting is the podcast from the Weighting for Happiness Project that investigates the patterns behind eating, dieting and weight r...

Childhood Food Access: When you weren’t allowed to choose. Episode overview Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you a...

Podcast Episode 50 - Show Notes ​The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access. This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shape lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking. ​This isn’t about blame. It’s about understa...

Ready to investigate your own blueprint? The Weight Ecosystem is the first diagnostic in the Weighting for Happiness Project. It steps back from food and helps you examine the wider conditions your weight and health sit within before moving on to the deeper patterns that shape eating. Click here or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic...

Resources for you in with this Podcast Download the Four Layers Model that explains Sylvie's story: Four Layers Infographic : or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-behind-eating Begin identifying your own Blueprint; start with my first Diagnostic: ‘ Understanding your weight ecosystem ’ or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagno...

Diets tell you what to eat. Understanding the Four Layers Behind Eating explains why. 🔦 Download your free comprehensive Infographic, "The 4 Layers of Weight Regain" here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-of-eating 🔦You can read my Blog for this Podcast here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/the-four-layers-of-eating-why-weight-regain-isn’t-about-willpower And please...

The weight regain boundary problem The Weight Ecosystem link I reference in the episode that can start your weight regain solution. Today we look at: Why do weight regain explanations begin and end with calories? In this episode Bronwyn introduces one of the foundational ideas behind the Weighting for Happiness Project: boundaries. In systems thinking, a boundary determines what gets included when...

Why does relief eating feel so overpowering, secretive and difficult to interrupt? In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher explores relief eating through the lens of systems thinking. Instead of framing eating as a simple problem of willpower or self-control, this episode examines how relief eating forms as a repeatable system designed to solve tension, overload and emotional discomfor...

Soraya spent years believing her weight problem was about food. Like many women with recurring weight regain, she became highly skilled at dieting, cycling between strict calorie restriction during the week and overeating on weekends. On the surface, the explanation seemed obvious: she lacked control around food. But when we looked more closely, something very different emerged. Behind the dieting...

Maggie’s story doesn’t start with food. It starts with trust. In this episode, you’ll hear how a lifetime of dieting and weight regain can sit on top of something far less visible; a loss of trust that began long before any diet was introduced. Maggie has built a highly controlled way of eating. On paper, it works. In reality, it leaves her unsatisfied and caught in a predictable pattern of relief...

If you’ve been trying to fix your weight with better habits, this episode explains why that approach keeps failing. Last week, we introduced the idea that systems are not habits. This week, we go deeper. Because once you understand that your eating is a system, not a set of individual behaviours, a more important question emerges: Why does your weight keep returning, even when your goal is to chan...

Understand your recurring weight by starting with Your Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. ✅ SHOW NOTES When women say ‘I just need better eating habits,’ it sounds logical. But what if that assumption is the problem? In this episode, Bronwyn challenges one of the most widely accepted ideas in weight loss: that habits are the solution. Because when it comes to weight regain, habits don’t fail. They’re j...

In this episode, Bronwyn challenges one of the most entrenched beliefs in weight loss: that body fat is simply the result of overeating. Instead, she introduces a systems thinking perspective that reframes body fat as functional. Not passive. Not accidental. But part of an eating system that may be solving problems in ways that are rarely examined. Drawing on real case examples, this episode explo...

Most women can explain their weight problem in a sentence. ‘I’m an emotional eater.’ ‘I’ve got a sweet tooth.’ ‘I just need more discipline.’ These explanations feel true. But they’re often only telling part of the story. In this episode, we look at the difference between the facts of your weight and the story you’ve built around it. Because when complex eating patterns are reduced to simple expla...

Childhood Food Agency: When you weren’t allowed to choose. Episode overview Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you a...

Podcast Episode 37 - Show Notes ​ The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access. This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shape lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking. ​This isn’t about blame. It’s about underst...

How Childhood Food Rules Drive Weight Regain ✅ Katherine wasn’t allowed to eat between meals. ✅ Fiona wasn’t allowed to ask for food at all. ✅ Different families. ✅ Different rules. ✅ Same result - both girls lived with hunger, and both learned to solve it in secret. In this episode I explain how food rules learned in childhood become part of an eating system that keeps running decades later,...

Nicole starts her day with a green smoothie and ends it eating chocolate bars she hides in the laundry cupboard. She wants to lose weight, she knows what to eat, and she follows the same plan every weekday. So, why does she keep repeating this pattern? In this episode, Bronwyn explains how weight regain rarely comes from a lack of discipline. It comes from an eating system that developed over time...

Why Being Good at Dieting Doesn’t Stop Weight Regain - Lia’s Story In this episode of Before Dieting , I explore a question that perplexes most women: If I lose weight, how do I stop it coming back? Through Lia’s story, I explain how weight regain often has far less to do with willpower and far more to do with the eating system built in childhood. Lia grew up in a household where thinness meant ap...

In this first episode of a ten-part series, I unpack the food story and eating system of Donna, a woman in her late forties who has struggled with weight regain for decades. Donna knows how to lose weight. She has done it repeatedly. Weight Watchers. Keto. Calorie-controlled meals. Even 400 calories a day. ❌ And every time, the weight returned. Why? ❌ Because sugar was never just a treat. It was...

In this episode, I set the container for the next ten stories. Ten women between 40 and 60. ✔️ Multiple rounds of weight regain. ✔️ No eating disorders. ✔️ No dramatic pathology. ✔️ No extreme cases. Just the repeating pattern. ✔️They have all dieted. ✔️ They understand healthy eating. ✔️They have strong intentions. ❌ The weight still comes back. This series does not focus on food plans or motiva...

Systems Thinking Isn’t Therapy; It’s the Diagnostic Layer to solving weight regain When weight keeps returning, the default assumption is often psychological. That the problem is low willpower or self-sabotage. But what if the issue isn’t purely emotional? In this episode, I explain the difference between therapy and systems thinking. And how confusing the two can keep women circling the same weig...

The last three episodes on childhood food access, agency, and Alison’s story prompted a strong response. Many of the questions that came in weren’t about definitions. They were about recognition. In this episode, Bronwyn responds to those questions and stays with what Alison’s story brought up for many listeners; how ordinary food rules can organise eating behaviour, why weight often appears much...

Alison’s story traces how a tightly controlled childhood around food quietly evolved into adult weight gain, dieting, and a powerful shame system and how understanding that story changed everything. Through her experience, we see why “you eat what you’re given” can turn into years of fighting your own body, even when you “know better.” Three key takeaways: Your current eating patterns are organise...

Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you ate and how those early meal dynamics can shape adult patterns like dieting d...