Becoming You

Is criticism overshadowing celebration in your parenting approach? Are you always swooping in to save your children from any discomfort? This episode breaks down why it's so tough for us to focus on the wins and the progress crucial for our children's growth and self-esteem, why we focus on happiness instead of resiliency, and other things we do backwards in parenting. This episode is a masterclas...

What do you do when you have a spouse, partner, or someone you co-parent with that is not on the same page as you are when it comes to parenting your children? I often get this question from clients who are on board and doing the transformative work of becoming a conscious, peaceful parent. And yet, their spouses haven't gotten the memo and their spouses don't want to follow or be part of the tran...

Is your parenting effective? Are you having lots of fights, yelling and constantly nagging? Do you feel disrespected? Today I have a really hard hitting episode for you and you might be uncomfortable confronting some of your parenting strategies and why they are not working, especially if you have been taking in different parenting ideas from books and podcasts. No matter the age of your kids are...

This week, I'm excited to bring you an episode where I was featured as a guest on Misha Akbar's podcast Desi Daze. In this episode, we go really deep into talking about the parts of motherhood hardly anyone talks about. There's a certain level of expectation that comes with how you believe you're going to feel when the baby finally arrives, and you believe you will be the happiest you're ever goin...

As our kids get older, a lot of us will inevitably face a situation where they make a mistake - stealing, vandalizing, cheating on a test, or worse! Which will lead you to question yourself as a parent and how you prepared them for the world. Facing every parent's worst nightmare without completely losing our cool, reacting defensively and launching into a lecture is not easy! It's a challenge to...

When your child says that they don't want to go to school and they're making your life difficult, they're not giving you a hard time. They are having a hard time and they need you. Whether your child has always had a difficult time with school or is suddenly experiencing anxiety about going, exploring the deeper reasons behind the resistance is the first step to and finding beneficial solutions fo...

I talk about our children's feelings, and how we work through connecting with them when they are in moments of stress and disregulation, but how do we learn to emotionally regulate ourselves? How do we stay calm when we are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, irritated or sad, with our own troubles or with our children's conflicts and problems? The steps to regulation seem simple, but they aren't alw...

This week I am bringing to you an episode where I was interviewed by another amazing podcast host, John Wang on his show - Big Asian Energy. He is an educator, speaker, a certified coach who specializes in working with Asian Americans on inner work, mindset and their communication skills. We unpacked how Asian culture makes us believe that our worth is solely tied to our achievements and productiv...

A lot of us make the mistake that happiness is when there are no problems in life. I know I certainly used to fall into that bucket, and I believed I would be happy when all my problems disparaged and I had everything I desired. But re-framing happiness to be more than just a destination, we see that happiness visits us quite often in life. If you want to be happy, it's about focusing on building...

How do I become a more conscious, present and patient parent? I often get asked these questions on my consult calls - These are fully booked for the rest of the month but I do have space in September. Parents always want to know, how do I become more patient? How do I be more present with my children? This podcast is one from the archives - I recorded it the first year I had started the show.| Bei...

This fantastic discussion came up during a connection call with a potential client - she mentioned that she had been using consequences with her child without much success, and by the end of the call she wanted to know what she could do instead. From my personal experience, I found that consequences stopped working as well as my children grew. Consequences did work, they had an immediate reaction...

I hope for you to use this podcast episode as a way to bring awareness to your parenting patterns and know that you can absolutely change any of the ways your childhood trauma might be showing up in your parenting. When I first started my healing journey, I didn't think I had that much trauma in my childhood and many people say the same thing.  We are incredibly unaware of how we carry micro and m...

This week, I enjoyed taking my oldest son out for dinner, the bookstore, and a movie. My husband and I have been intentional about creating 1:1 time with each child, it's a great way to form connections and really just make them feel really special. As we shopped, my son told me about so many of the books he had read, and about the plots, it was just so cool to speak to him on that level. It was i...

This week, my guest Lisa Thee has an inspiring story to share about her career, its evolution in a much more fulfilling direction, and breathwork's support in her life. As a busy executive, her health and wellbeing were suffering, and although she was a little skeptical of breathwork, she has found it a tremendously helpful tool for her wellness. Her career now combines AI and online child safety...

This week I had the pleasure of being a guest on my friend, Melissa Eich's podcast. She is a health coach and nutritionist, health coach and we just had a blast having a conversation around how when you're stressed as a parent, it actually shows up in your inability to get healthy, whatever your health goals might be. Melissa did a fantastic job of asking the best questions, and I really hope you...

I'm moving away from the term gentle parenting and using the terms conscious parenting or grounded parent. The word can put people off, because they might have certain not-so-helpful connotations attached to the word gentle. This all comes back to our own mindset - words have stories and deeper meanings and stories associated with them. The belief in what gentle means and if we can embody that mea...

This week's guest is a friend and past client, Ami Doshi, a busy mother of two teens, and a wealth management specialist where she works with women looking to live their best lives by taking control of their financial health. We connected several years ago when she was looking for a life coach, and I am so excited to share her recent experience and her self-reflection on her personal development o...

You Absolutely have what it takes If you are looking for a different way to parent, you've heard about gentle parenting. But what does gentle parenting mean? Are you worried you are going to give permission for your kids to be in control? They won't have any form of discipline? Maybe you are worried you don't have what it "takes" to be a gentle parent, and that's only for a very patient person and...

We all have moments in our family where we go head-to-head with our kids. We don't back down. They don't back down. They don't listen. We try to explain, and then before you know it, everyone is yelling and fighting with each other, and everyone's just left feeling exhausted, This episode has my 7-step process to help you regulate yourself and de-escalate the issue, and it really is a de-escalatio...

We are often very quick to prevent our children from making mistakes, to protect them from their own mistakes, and give them as much advice and life experience as necessary to protect them from failing. We want to see them succeed, and protect them. But by doing this, we often fail to realize what a gift there is in mistakes that our kids make. I have been really challenging myself to allow my kid...

I am so excited to be bringing you a guest this week. I do a lot of solo episodes and I handpick every single one of my guests, so I'm super excited to welcome Jordan. Stolch today, she is a virtual personal stylist that I stumbled upon TikTok. Jordan Stolch is a Celebrity Stylist turned Personal Stylist, on a mission to transform the way women show up in their lives. She is the founder of MiKADO,...

I left you on a cliffhanger last week, with the first half of the workshop. If you missed it, you can tune in to episode 114 but just to recap what was discussed: Step 1 - Learn to say more yeses to your kids. Kids don't listen to boundaries or respect boundaries or are very defiant of the rules and boundaries that we set. We end up repeating ourselves multiple times - because they feel really lim...

This podcast is the first half of the live workshop - Connecting Parents through Clear Boundaries. The best way to influence change is by changing ourselves in every scenario, in every relationship, including the relationship with our children. To truly support my kids with their struggles, I needed to change within me. Our children's actions are always driven by a deeper need. Our job is to find...

I've been in conversations with parents as registrations come in for Connecting Parents Through Clear Boundaries, my free parenting workshop this weekend on May 13th - (Register here!) , and my upcoming program, The Grounded Parent. In every conversation, we continue to uncover yet more parenting myths that we all succumb to and torture ourselves with. We live in an age where conscious parenting,...

In this episode I waste no time getting right into 5 of the most common parenting myths I hear from my clients - and what you can do to shift your thinking to truly connect with your kids, embrace the conflict, and focus on the quality of our connection with our kids. Many people believe parenting is about changing their child- but if you have ever tried to change another person, you know it's an...