Becoming You Again

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Anonymous is struggling with filing for divorce or staying in the marriage. She initially decided to leave but is now struggling because she doesn't want to hurt or break up her family....

You've been there. It's 2 AM and you've woken up in a panic worrying about the many unknowns of the divorce that are weighing heavy on your mind. You're desperately tired. This is fourth night in a row where you've done this and each night it got harder and harder to fall back asleep. You sick and tired of being, well, tired and groggy the next day. You just want to get so...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. After a breakup most of us are afraid that we'll never be able to trust a future partner again. But what about the even more important question of how do we learn to trust ourselves aga...

When we are the ones who were left behind it feels very painful. Usually this is because we tell ourselves that it was our fault in some way. We weren't good enough or pretty enough. We didn't have sex often enough. We just couldn't make them happy. We adopt the idea that we've been thrown away like a piece of trash especially if the marriage was a long one. Being the one left...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Deciding that you're ready to make changes in your life and start listening to your own inner knowing is a cool place to find yourself. But when we don't get the support and excite...

Codependency is an attachment style where you need the other person in the relationship to give you approval in all the positive ways. You need other people to validate you as a person. You need their words to remind you that you have worth. To remind you that you are lovable and worthy and valuable.  When you are codependent you use other people’s emotions to gauge how you are allowed to emotiona...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. For many of us, being alone when the kids are with our ex is our least favorite thing. It's been so long since we've been alone that we don't know how to do it. We get bored....

Have you ever noticed what you say to yourself when you make a mistake, or when you child gets mad at you, or when your ex texts you something nasty? Do you notice that you're kind and loving and compassionate with yourself? My guess is, you're like most of us who do the exact opposite of that, and instead become our own worst enemy, flinging self criticism and judgement around until we...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Bitterness toward your ex may feel justified for a little while. The problem is, when you carry the bitterness around it makes you feel bad. Feeling bitterness toward your ex isn't maki...

Conscious thinking is when you become aware of the thoughts that your brain is offering you on autopilot and you intentionally decide whether or not you want to continue to choose to think that way or decide to think something different. Conscious thinking is a skill that can serve you in any challenge or difficult circumstance that you're facing in your life.  In this episode I'll be te...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Being sick as a divorced single mom can feel stressful and overwhelming. We judge ourselves for being sick, for not being the mom we usually are, for making the kids be less structured, for...

Transactional self love is when you withhold love for yourself until you meet certain requirements to be "worthy" of kindness, compassion and love for yourself. You're more likely doing this and don't even realize it. Transactional self love can sound like, I'll think you're pretty once your hair is dyed and you look more like that person on Instagram, or I'll th...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. How often do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world (yours and your kids) on your shoulders? How many times have you bit your tongue around your kids so you don't &a...

Often we tell stories from our past in a way where we continue to be the victim and feel victimized. When we do this we feel powerless to make changes in our life now and moving forward. One of the most effective ways to stop feeling like a victim of your past and of your life is to rewrite the stories of your past, and specifically your divorce story.  This exercise isn't so that you can gas...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Do you have someone in your life that is super critical of you, but they tell you it's because they want you to be the 'best you' you can be? Or maybe you're the one that...

The divorce process is a scary, confusing journey. When we are faced with divorce we often don't know what to do, where to find help, what kind of help we'll need, who to trust, etc. Our mind can spin in confusion and indecision about the divorce which ends up shutting us down and keeping us stuck.  On today's episode I'm talking with Ryan Davies, owning and founder of Utah Div...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. When someone has done something wrong or treated us badly, we want an apology. Society has taught us that an apology is how we show remorse and ask forgiveness all wrapped up in the words, I...

Transformations only happen when there is a challenge of some kind involved. As Pema Chodron teaches, there's a balance to life - a yin and yang . Life will include pain, and that we actually agree to that pain by just living.  But often we think we don't want the pain and challenge to be there. We want it to go away. We just want to be happy. But when we really take a look at it, that&a...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. When we get news from our ex sometimes we can feel confusing emotions. Samantha is asking for help figuring out why she's feeling conflicted with this news from her ex. Listen in as I t...

We've all heard the talk about self care by taking a bath or getting your hair or nails done. This is all fine and good to do, but it's not what I'll be focusing on in this divorce self care episode. When we go through divorce, we need a different type of self care.  Listen in as I talk about self care in terms of external and internal needs, why it's important for us to learn...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Sherri wants to know if she will ever stop grieving.  Listen in as I answer Sherri's question about grief and how to deal with it now and in the future when it shows up unexpectedly. Fo...

Pain is inevitable as we live this human life. There is no getting out of or getting around feeling pain, especially when it comes to divorce and the end of that relationship. But what I've learned after years of coaching is that even though pain is inevitable when we go through challenging circumstances, suffering is optional.  In today's episode I'm talking about the difference be...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Amanda doesn't know where to start to pick up the broken pieces after divorce. She is just starting this journey of divorce and is tired of feeling the pain and misery and needs help kn...

Money can be a constant worry for many women after divorce. I know for me it was. Then I was introduced to the idea that I had a relationship with money, and that relationship directly   affected my bottom line in ways I never realized before.  In this podcast episode I will be teaching how your relationship with money is showing up through scarcity or abundance which is fueling they way you show...

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce. Calista is feeling hurt by her teenage daughter who doesn't respect her rules. She needs some help knowing how to handle the hurt and show up as the parent she wants to be. Listen in as...