A Life, Folded

D-Day is short for Discovery Day. It's the horrible moment you will most likely remember in minute detail for the rest of your life. The day you found out the person you loved and trusted the most has been unfaithful. It is shocking and unimaginably traumatic. And, once you make this shattering discovery, who do you turn to? The partner you trusted the most, the person you shared everything with,...

Pornography is a commonly accepted part of our modern-day world. “Everyone does it.” “It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Nonsense. Pornography kills love, ruins lives, creates deep psychological wounds, is addictive and escalating, reduces humans to pixels on a screen, and is fueled by one of the most heinous crimes of our time: human trafficking. Lainey discusses how her husband's addiction ruined their ma...

Narcissists can exist in any or all of the aspect of our lives. They may be a member of our family, our spouse, our boss, or even our ecclesiastical leader. One thing they all have in common is the need for the oneupmanship of the narcissistic discard when their target stops giving them narcissistic supply. Narcissists are deeply insecure individuals with no capacity for empathy or remorse. They k...

As a survivor of a spouse's pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, as well as covert narcissistic abuse, this episode introduces the "why" of A Life, Folded podcast.  I was married for 29 years to a man who lived a double life. Seemingly loyal husband, father, employee, and disciple of Christ by day; porn addict, betrayer, and liar by night. Well, really any time. The discovery of his double life...