9-Year-Old Parenting Tools

Nine-year-olds are becoming more independent and are often learning to manage emotions, friendships, and new responsibilities at school. These years can bring challenges, but with your guidance, they can learn important skills to handle their feelings and build confidence. Children between the ages of five and ten are experiencing lots of changes as they grow, like learning new things in school, m...

As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you play an essential role in your child’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship, and growing reading skills is a great way to do it.  Reading is essential for your child’s success in school. Reading also plays a critical role in your child’s ●      social and emotional developm...

As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you play an essential role in your child’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship, and helping your nine-year-old develop their sharing, collaboration, turn-taking, and healthy friendship skills is a perfect opportunity.  Children ages five to ten are in the process of learning about themselves, their strengt...

As parents or those in a parenting role, you play an essential role in your child’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship, and helping your nine-year-old learn to deal with their tantrums provides a great opportunity.    Children ages five to ten are in the process of learning about their strong feelings. They do not understand the full-body...

As a parent or someone in a parenting role, your influence is vital in your child’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship while instilling confidence in your child to persist toward their goals and succeed in all areas of life. Everyone faces challenges, yet mistakes and failures are necessary for your nine-year-old’s learning and development. With your gu...

Trust is an important foundation for healthy relationships. As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you play an essential role in your nine-year-old’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship and understand how to promote trust in your child. Lying represents an important milestone in your child’s thinking as they learn that others have different beliefs...

As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you play an essential role in your child’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship, and setting up a homework routine provides an excellent opportunity. Five to ten-year-olds are in the process of establishing critical learning habits, including how they approach homework, that will extend throughout their school y...

Nine-year-olds must follow directions to succeed at home and school. Whether they are completing chores, following safety instructions, completing assignments, or showing their knowledge on tests, they will need to be able to follow directions. Though telling your child to do something may seem simple enough, the process of a child listening and engaging in several steps given in an instruction ne...

Why Examine Technology Use? Becoming intentional about your child’s daily technology use can influence how they develop a healthy relationship with technology and its role in their life. Looking for ways to experience and learn together about how to use devices wisely contributes to your child’s development.  Step 1: Get Input- Get Your Child Thinking by Getting Their Input Writing down notes...

Why Back Talk? Arguing in family life is typical and expected. “Back talk” can be defined as “argumentative replies.”  1  Children can respond in anger, hurt, frustration, hurtful tones, or with hurtful words. Back talk also represents a power imbalance children are trying to rectify. To regain some power, children lash out with hurtful words. Power, after all, is a basic human need. Bui...

Why Anger? Research confirms that when young children learn to manage their feelings, their executive functions are simultaneously strengthened.^1 They can better use self-control, problem-solve, and focus their attention. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship. Growing your child’s skills to manage anger provides a perfect opportunity.   Tip:  T...

Why Transform Disrespect? Nine-year-olds seek independence and will naturally test limits and break rules. When they feel powerless and angry, they can lash out in ways that show disrespect for others. Though this is a normal part of their development and necessary for their learning, it can anger or worry a caring parent or someone in a parenting role. You can transform these moments into vital o...

Why Repairing Harm? Nine-year-olds are working on understanding and applying rules in various situations. They are seeking independence and will naturally test limits and break rules. When they do, they require guidance on how to repair harm caused to a relationship or item. This is a normal part of their development and necessary for their learning. Research confirms that children are in the proc...

Why Chores? Chores allow your child to contribute to maintaining and caring for your family’s household. Daily chores allow your child to learn and practice valuable skills like timeliness, work ethic, and responsibility.  Tip: These steps are done best when you and your child are not tired or in a rush.    Tip: Intentional communication and a healthy parenting relationship support...

Why Listening? Your child’s success depends upon their ability to listen and understand what you and others are communicating. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship while building essential listening skills in your child.   Tip:  These steps are done best when you and your child are not tired or in a rush. Tip:  Intentional communication and hea...

As a parent or those in a parenting role, you play an important role in your child’s success. Helping your child nurture healthy friendships is essential. Your child develops a sense of belonging through relationships. They gain a better understanding of themselves through their interactions with you, their teachers, and their peers. 

As a parent or those in a parenting role, you play a vital role in your child’s growth. There are intentional ways to cultivate a healthy parent-child relationship, and growing your child’s skills to manage conflict provides a fantastic opportunity.

Nine-year-olds are learning to act responsibly. They are:  ●      working to comprehend the rules and apply them in multiple settings. ●      growing their independence.  ●      taking care of their bodies (eating right, getting exercising).  ●      learning about...

As a parent or those in a parenting role, you play a key role in supporting your child to develop empathy. Empathy is the way people effectively relate to one another. It’s the ability to notice what other people are feeling, process that information, and respond in a compassionate manner. There are intentional ways to nurture a healthy parent-child relationship while growing your child’...

As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you have a critical role in supporting your child’s success. There are intentional ways to cultivate a healthy parent-child relationship, and developing daily routines provide a perfect opportunity.

Now is the right time to gain awareness of the messages your child is receiving about alcohol, the impacts, and how you can form the messages you send moving forward to encourage healthy choices.  Peer pressure to drink alcohol does not typically begin until the ages of 11-14. Yet, children still receive messages and modeling throughout childhood that will have a concrete impact on wheth...

Now is the right time to increase your awareness of the messages your child is receiving about cannabis, the impacts on your child, and how you can form the messages you send moving forward to promote responsible, healthy choices. Peer pressure to try cannabis does not usually start until ages 15-19. Yet, children receive messages and view modeling throughout their childhood that will have a direc...

Experiencing stress is common for children and adults. Stress is the physical or mental response to an external cause, such as being yelled at by a frustrated sibling or finding a school assignment challenging. These feelings of stress are natural mechanisms for human survival. They are the body’s way of warning you when there is danger and alerting you to problems. A stressor can be one...

Children are consistently noticing differences in the world. Parents or those in a parenting role have an opportunity to help children as they make sense of differences among people by talking to them about what they see.

Children ages 5-10 are striving to understand rules and apply them in various settings and situations. They are working to increase their independence and will naturally test limits and break rules. This is part of their development and necessary for learning.