StillPoint Logic Podcast

You spend months reading, learning, and doing the mental work, waiting for the big moment when everything clicks. When it never comes, you assume you are doing something wrong. This episode, the Season 2 finale, looks at what success in inner work feels like while it is happening. It explores why the breakthrough you picture keeps you waiting, what to look for instead, and what Tolstoy said about...

Taking credit for your success can feel harder than taking the blame for a mistake. We own every failure without question, yet give our achievements away to luck, timing, or circumstance. This episode looks at why we downplay our achievements. It explores why an even split with luck is the same old thought-rule wearing a more reasonable number, and what Nietzsche said about outgrowing an old versi...

We treat conflict like proof that a relationship is alive, and calm like proof that something is missing. This episode looks at why we reach for tension, old arguments, and gossip even when things are fine, what Seneca had to say about how we spend our time, and why choosing ease over drama can be a fuller way to live. Sometimes it is the whole point. In this episode, I cover: Why calm can feel li...

Why does a stranger's opinion influence you so much? In this episode I look at what happens when someone else's certainty starts working against your own, by wearing down the trust you had in a decision you'd made. I share my experience, about choosing to study Philosophy at university against pretty much everyone's advice, to walk through the difference between an opinion that add...

Have you ever done everything right in a day and still ended up feeling off by the end of it? This week I'm talking about a day that made no sense to me, nothing went wrong, I got through everything on my list. Cleaning, errands, a walk with my dog, dinner with a friend, and by evening there was a 50 kg weight pressing on my chest. We're taught that feeling okay comes down to a checklist,...

You order the pizza while already thinking about why you shouldn't, you keep scrolling past midnight while your body is begging for sleep, you keep putting off the conversation you know you need to have, why does this keep happening even when you know better? This isn't a willpower problem, it's a distance problem, the worse choice is almost always closer, easier, cheaper and faster to reach, whil...

Ever bought something hoping it would fix a feeling? Sometimes emotional spending feels like control, especially when a purchase happens in the middle of a hard week. For a few seconds, it works, but that feeling fades fast. An object might shift how you feel in the moment, but for how long can it preserve that feeling into the rest of your week? This episode reflects on the difference between a p...

Why does comparing yourself to others feel worse now than it used to? Comparison itself is ancient, humans have always measured themselves against their neighbors, but the constant scroll of curated, filtered content has turned an old habit into something much harder to escape. We look at Michel de Montaigne, a philosopher who tried to measure his life only against his own experience, and ask what...

I use AI, and I still don't fully trust what that fluency is doing to my own thinking. This episode is a closer look at what AI can genuinely give us, and the moment coherence starts to feel like truth. We go through the philosophy behind reasoning systems, the questions that turn AI into a doubt generator instead of an answer machine, and the four moments when the decision has to come back to...

This episode is about borrowed opinions. We borrow to keep things smooth, we want to be part of it, it's easier than thinking, but sometimes we borrow for so long that we lose track of what was originally ours. I want to look at what happens when we do that, and what you lose over time. The real problem is not one single moment of going along. It's what happens to your own thinking when go...

You were told to stop needing it, be strong & self-sufficient, but every day you fall short of that standard because it was never a real one. Needing validation is human, Sartre wrote that we exist differently when we are being seen. The question here is what happens when the recognition doesn't come, and what story you tell about the absence. In this episode we look at what validation act...

What if procrastination is not the problem everyone says it is? I think the guilt about procrastinating is the real problem. The delay, in many cases, is something else entirely. Procrastination is part of your thinking process. A way of letting your feelings catch up to your intentions, collecting information, finding the readiness to act with more confidence. The problem starts when the delay fl...

Why does conflict feel so personal, even when it is not really about you? In this episode we reflect on what is happening when you are in a conflict, why the discomfort you feel is not coming from the other person but from the thought-rule running underneath it, and what to do with that once you see it. We also look at the three things that start most conflicts between people, needing help and not...

You built an intelligent plan, defined the KPIs, a good tactic to measure success, delivered everything on time, and yet the client was still disappointed. This episode is about the gap between what the numbers say and what people actually feel. I work in project management and this is something I deal with constantly, because human perception is different from excel sheets. I look at 3 psychologi...

Have you ever felt fine when you were supposed to feel devastated? Or flat when you were supposed to feel joy? This episode is not about emotional numbness, it is about the mismatch between the feeling you actually have and the feeling you believe you are supposed to have, and the story you tell yourself about what that absence means. Visit stillpointlogic.com for free reflection worksheets. As al...

Why can't we let go of thought patterns even when we know they are making things harder? Because shedding isn't a decision. It isn't a practice or a ritual. It happens when carrying something finally becomes more uncomfortable than letting it go. In this Season 1 finale we explore another point of view about how thought patterns shed including one of the most normalized ones: "I'm just a stressed...

Have you ever told yourself to calm down and felt worse instead? In this episode I share a personal moment when my body stopped before I did. When everything looked fine on the outside and something inside had already shut down. This is an episode about the gap between what we show and what we feel, the signals our body sends that we push past until we can't anymore. About why telling yourself to...

Why do we keep following rules we never consciously chose? Most of the logic we live by is just the way things are, as common sense. Common sense doesn't ask to be examined until the day you find yourself somewhere you never intended to be. This episode explores the thinking patterns and beliefs we follow without a doubt, and what happens when we finally stop to ask: does this still fit who I am n...

Your body is not overreacting, it's sending intelligence. Are you listening? In this episode we explore why your emotional reactions have a logic underneath them; a hidden rule your nervous system is following, often faster than your conscious mind can catch up. We look at where those rules come from, why telling yourself to calm down never works, and how understanding what your body is protec...

Routines are supposed to support us. But somewhere along the way, they can turn into proof. Proof that we're disciplined, stable, functioning. When they break, even a little, it stops feeling like a scheduling issue and starts feeling like a character one. In this episode, we look at what's actually happening when a missed alarm or a derailed workday feels heavier than it should. We explore the pe...

Valentine’s Day can come with a lot of expectations about love, relationships, and how the day is supposed to feel. Most of the pressure doesn’t come from the day itself, but from the thoughts and standards we attach to it. In this episode, we look at those expectations and explore a more logical way to sit alongside the thoughts that show up. Unlike other episodes, I don’t walk through the full l...

Children notice everything. They watch, they listen, and they build rules about the world and themselves. Most adults only see the behaviour, but the real story begins in the thoughts that come first. In this episode, my kiddo joins me as a guest while we hang out together and put these ideas into practice. We explore how children interpret experiences, how those rules shape emotions, and why list...

Have you ever known something fully and still felt pulled in another direction? You understand what’s safe, what matters, or what’s best for you and yet your body reacts as if it doesn’t. In this episode, we sit with that experience. We talk about the tension between what you know and how you feel, the exhaustion of noticing yourself in real time, and how to respond without turning against yoursel...

We all have that little voice inside that points out what we’re doing wrong or worries we’re not enough. In this episode, we talk about why that voice shows up and how it can feel so convincing, especially when we overthink, like we discussed in Episode 4. I share ways to notice when the Inner Critic is speaking, question what it’s really saying, and respond in a way that doesn’t make you feel wor...

Grief can feel like it swallows you whole, but it’s possible to move through it without losing yourself. In this episode, we talk about how to face loss, honour your emotions, and maintain your sense of self. We explore ways to notice your feelings, care for yourself thoughtfully, and navigate life’s transitions without pushing grief aside or letting it take over. By the end, you’ll have reflectio...