No More Yes Girls

Send us Fan Mail Para muchas personas Inmigrantes o que vienen de familia inmigrante, regresar a México se siente imposible de explicar. El cuerpo se calma… pero el corazón se aprieta. En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos de por qué México puede sentirse como sanación y duelo al mismo tiempo. De la memoria del cuerpo, de la nostalgia por una vida que no vivimos del todo, y de la identid...

Send us Fan Mail Being the oldest daughter often means becoming the strong one, the fixer, the emotional support system before you ever had the chance to just be a child. In this episode, we talk about the invisible burden oldest daughters carry and why healing, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself can feel so uncomfortable — and so full of guilt. We explore: -Why guilt shows up when you star...

Send us Fan Mail Ser la hija mayor (o hija en general) no es solo un rol… es una carga emocional. En este episodio hablamos de la culpa silenciosa que muchas hijas mayores llevan: esa sensación de que si te cuidas, si pones límites, si eliges tu paz… estás fallando a tu familia. Este tema nació de un comentario de una seguidora y de los mensajes que hemos visto, sobre lo difícil que es ser “la fue...

Send us Fan Mail Going back to Mexico hits different when you’re first-gen. In this episode, my sister Viviann and I talk about why Mexico can feel like grief and healing at the same time — why our bodies soften there, why our hearts ache, and why being in a place that feels like home can also remind you of everything you didn’t get to have. We talk about: • missing a life you never fully lived •...

Send us Fan Mail Cuando minimizar sentimientos se volvió “normal” en nuestra cultura. En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos de las frases que muchos de nosotros crecimos escuchando y que, sin darnos cuenta, nos enseñaron a callarnos, a aguantar y a invalidar nuestras propias emociones. “No es para tanto.” “Estás exagerando.” “Aguántate.” “Hay gente que está peor.” Exploramos cómo estas p...

Send us Fan Mail We didn’t wake up healed. We woke up different. In this end-of-year reflection, we look back and realize something unexpected — healing didn’t just change our mindset… it changed our nervous systems, our boundaries, and the choices we were finally brave enough to make. Including one of the biggest ones: Vieney quitting her job indefinitely in the middle of the year.  Not because e...

Send us Fan Mail Growing up first-gen, we were raised to “fit in,” follow rules, and not question systems — especially school. But what happens when your child doesn’t fit inside the boxes those systems were built on? In this episode, Viviann opens up about discovering AuDHD — what it is, what it feels like from the inside, and why so many kids in our community go unseen, mislabeled, or misunderst...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn’t the pain — it’s the letting go. In this episode, we talk about how the people who drift, disappear, distance themselves, or suddenly fall away… weren’t losses. They were releases. We don’t actually lose people. We lose the attachment to what they represented: • the comfort of the familiar • the version of ourselves we used to be • the ap...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we dive into how comparison is normalized in our culture — from childhood comments like “Why can’t you be more like your cousin?” to adult reminders that someone else is prettier, thinner, more successful, married sooner, had kids earlier, or “did life right.” We explore: how comparison is used in families as motivation that actually becomes s...

Send us Fan Mail There’s a moment in every healing journey where you realize you’ve been shrinking your dreams just to stay relatable. Not because you’re small — but because you’re scared of outgrowing the people you love, the identity you were raised with, or the version of you everyone feels comfortable with. This episode is about that inner conflict: The craving to belong… and the calling to be...

Send us Fan Mail Ever realize how the roles we were given growing up — the strong one, the quiet one, the fixer, buena/o para nada, the rebel — start to shape how we show up in life?  Sometimes we don’t even notice we’re still living from someone else’s definition of who we are. In this episode, we talk about how easy it is to internalize the labels our families gave us and mistake them for our id...

Send us Fan Mail Growing up in a first-gen household, many of us became the “fixers.” The emotional mediators. The peace-keepers. The ones who tried to guide, teach, translate, protect — and sometimes… control. Not because we wanted power, but because survival taught us: ✨ “If I don’t fix it, it falls apart.” ✨ “If I don’t hold it together, no one will.” ✨ “If they change, then maybe we’ll fina...

Send us Fan Mail In Mexican families, we grow up hearing “pobrecita, le ha ido tan mal” — but rarely “qué valiente por cambiar su vida.” We’ve learned to glorify pain, to measure worth by how much we’ve suffered, and to feel seen only when we’re struggling. But what happens when you stop identifying with your pain? When you decide that being strong doesn’t have to mean staying in survival mode? In...

Send us Fan Mail We grew up hearing “Calladita te ves bonita” — a phrase that taught so many of us to shrink, stay polite, and never make anyone uncomfortable. But silence came with a cost. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it means to finally speak up after years of staying quiet to keep the peace. We share personal stories about finding our voice, setting boundaries with love, and learning t...

Send us Fan Mail As first-gen daughters, we carry a quiet kind of guilt — the one that whispers, “You should be grateful, you shouldn’t need help.” We grew up watching our parents sacrifice everything, so somewhere along the way, asking for help started to feel like dishonoring their struggle. In this episode, we open up about the heavy guilt that comes with needing rest, support, or softness when...

Send us Fan Mail Lately… we’ve been in a funk. Not quite sad, not quite okay — just somewhere in between . You know that space where you’re doing all the “right” things but still feel off? That’s where we’ve been sitting. In this episode, we get real about what it means to be in an emotional funk — those seasons where your energy dips, your motivation disappears, and even the things you love feel...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is one of those life events that can break you—or shape you. In this episode, we open up about what it was like growing up as first-gen daughters of divorced parents, and how that experience changed the way we see love, family, and ourselves. From learning independence too early, to carrying unspoken responsibilities, to navigating two households that felt like different w...

Send us Fan Mail We’re Viviann and Vieney, two first-gen Mexican-American sisters who used to say yes to everything... until we realized it was costing us our peace, our softness, and our voice. In this first episode of No More Yes Girls, we’re getting raw, real, and reflective about: -Why we were conditioned to always say yes -The emotional cost of people-pleasing and overgiving-The generational...