Legally Clueless

Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while. This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly...

What happens when the beliefs you have about love, marriage and relationships are shaped long before you ever fall in love? In Part 1 of Ann Wachera’s story, Ann takes us back to losing her mum at just seven years old, being raised by her grandparents and the experiences that shaped how she came to understand womanhood, sex, pregnancy and marriage. Years later, at university, Ann meets a man she b...

Season 6 of For Mannerless Women is here and we're beginning with the brilliant Kaz Lucas. What happens when the life you're living no longer looks like the life women are told we're supposed to want? In this episode, Adelle sits down with Kaz for a deeply honest conversation about divorce in your 40s, grief, loneliness, being childfree, queer womanhood, friendship, community and the courage it ta...

What happens when the person you hear most is constantly criticising you? This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks negative self-talk: the cruel, critical and sometimes deeply familiar voice we can mistake for our own truth. She explores where our inner critic comes from, why being hard on ourselves can feel like a form of motivation or protection, and the important question we rarely stop...

What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 391 What happens when achieving the career you fought so hard for comes at a cost you never expected? In Part 2 of Ella’s story, she takes us deeper into her experience as a young woman working in aviation maintenance. Ella opens up about navigating a male-dominated workplace, experiencing sexual harassment, the victim-blaming and silenc...

What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore. But self-trust is...

What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Ella’s Story Part 1 What does it take to find your place in an industry that constantly makes you feel like you have something to prove? In Part 1 of Ella’s story, she takes us from her childhood in Western Kenya, through moving between different sides of her family, bullying in school and the years she spent trying to figure out who she wanted to become. E...

There comes a point where many women stop fearing wrinkles and start fearing what they've been taught wrinkles mean. In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories women inherit about aging, from the belief that our worth has an expiry date to the pressure of ticking invisible life milestones before it's "too late." Drawing on psychology, sociology and personal reflection, this episode...

I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 2)   What happens when you've done everything you were told would lead to success and life still doesn't go according to plan? In Part Two of Tanya Nyambura's story, the reality of adulthood collides with everything she believed growing up. After years of academic excellence, Tanya enters the job market expecting her hard work to finally pay...

More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why. More women are choosing to step away from dating, delete the apps, embrace celibacy, or simply stop making romantic relationships the centre of their lives. But is this really about giving up on love? Or are we witnessing something much bigger? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the cultural and psychological shift behin...

I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 1) What if the biggest lie you were ever told was that good grades guarantee a good life? In this week's episode, Tanya Nyambura takes us back to her childhood, where academic performance wasn't just about school, it determined how you were seen, how you felt about yourself, and what you believed your future would become. Growing up, Tanya i...

The Truth About Why African Women Struggle To Choose Themselves | Leyla Hussein Why do so many African women feel guilty for resting, spending money on themselves, taking up space or simply enjoying life? In this season finale of For Mannerless Women: The Special Audio Season, Adelle sits down with Leyla Hussein, psychotherapist, writer, entrepreneur, BAFTA-nominated activist and one of the BBC's...

Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself Somewhere between meeting expectations, caring for everyone else, surviving heartbreak, building careers, and simply getting through life, many women find themselves asking a painful question: "Who am I now?" In this week's episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango shares eight practical ways to reconnect with yourself, not by becoming someone new, b...

Trusting The Process (Part 3) What do you do when everything you've worked so hard to build falls apart? In the final part of Johnny's story, his thriving career takes an unexpected turn. He closes his studio, battles depression, questions everything he's built, and finds himself back at square one. But just when it seems like the story is over, one unexpected moment changes the course of his life...

Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | Jaxx Of All Trades on Redefining Womanhood What does it really mean to become a free woman? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with South African social, political and current affairs commentator Jaxx Of All Trades for a thought-provoking conversation on identity, confidence, beauty standards, freedom and choosing a life beyond society's...

The Hidden Cost of Losing Yourself in Love How do intelligent, capable women slowly lose themselves in relationships without even noticing? In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the subtle ways many women begin organising their lives around everyone else's needs while quietly losing touch with their own. Drawing from psychology, personal experience, and insights from accredited psychologi...

I Was Bullied For Being Myself (Part 2) After choosing hairdressing over university, Johnny is determined to prove to himself, and his family, that he made the right decision. In Part Two of his story, we follow his journey from earning KSh 4,800 a month in his first salon job to becoming one of Kenya's most sought-after celebrity hairstylists. But success comes with difficult choices. Johnny open...

The Freedom Of Choosing Yourself What if the life you've been told to want isn't the only beautiful life available to you? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Zimbabwean musician, mbira player, published poet and artist Hope Masike for a conversation about reclaiming freedom, questioning the timelines women inherit, and creating a life that feels deeply aligned. Together they...

The Silent Cost Of Being The Strong Woman | Mid Week Tease Women account for nearly 80% of people diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. While biology, hormones, genetics and environmental factors are all important pieces of the puzzle, another question deserves our attention:What does decades of emotional suppression, chronic caregiving and relentless stress do to a woman's body? In this week's Mid...

I Chose Myself Every Time | Jony The Hairdresser (Part 1) Many know Jony The Hairdresser as the celebrity hairstylist behind some of Kenya's biggest names. Others know him as the hilarious Sister Nancy and Brother Bernard from social media. But before any of that, he was a little boy from Naivasha trying to understand why simply being himself made him a target. In Part One of Jony's story, he take...

The Most Powerful Question A Woman Can Ask Herself: "What Do I Want?" | Sofi (The Oddity) What happens when you stop living according to everyone else's expectations and start making decisions based on what you truly want? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with digital creator, storyteller and podcaster Sofi (The Odditty) for a deeply honest conversation about reclaiming ow...

Your Marriage Ended. Your Story Didn't. | Finding Yourself After Divorce with Faith Guchu   Divorce isn't just the end of a marriage. It's the loss of shared dreams, identity, routines, belonging, and sometimes even yourself. In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle sits down with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu for an honest conversation about what healing after divorce really looks like.   Toge...

"I Was Declared Cancer-Free" At just 25 years old, Annkia was diagnosed with a rare form of bladder cancer after living with unexplained pain for most of her life. In the final part of her story, she shares the emotional days leading up to major surgery, surviving a life-threatening bout of sepsis, and the remarkable care she received from a doctor who not only treated her illness but restored her...

What happens when the woman the world celebrates isn't the same woman you experience when you're alone? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with DJ, broadcaster, creative entrepreneur, and healer Precious Nkadimeng (Spoken Priestess) for a powerful conversation about self-trust, spirituality, identity, and the journey back to yourself. Together, they explore the tension betwe...

The Lie Women Are Sold About Being Good What if one of the greatest obstacles to your freedom isn't other people, it's the version of womanhood you've been taught to perform? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the hidden costs of being "a good woman," why so many women struggle to choose themselves, and the deeper fear that often sits underneath self-abandonment: the fear of freedo...