Yomi's Musings

Send us Fan Mail Let’s talk about love, baby. Yes, I said it like that. Most of us were never taught how to do love, we were only ever shown how to feel it. Our parents gave us a marriage to watch, the films end at the wedding, and the songs are about falling. Hardly any are about staying. Even counselling before the wedding covers the tidy version. Nobody covers the Thursday. Season 3 is a run of...

Send us Fan Mail “Keep your table small.” You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve said it. And mostly, it’s true. In this episode, I talk about how a table that starts out selective can slowly turn into one that’s locked, why the two look exactly the same from the outside, and the only question I know that tells them apart. I also ask the question we rarely do. Not who deserves a seat at my table, but wheth...

Send us Fan Mail There's a kind of grief that doesn't get a card. No casserole at your door, no one asking how you're holding up. Nobody sends flowers for that. So most people don't call it grief at all. This is a companion piece to Love, Nowhere To Go — same idea, applied to the losses nobody gives you permission to mourn. 🎙 Nobody Sends Flowers For This — Season Two, Episode...

Send us Fan Mail  Grief doesn't follow a schedule, and it doesn't disappear on a timeline.  Drawing on personal loss and a story that's stayed with me, this episode explores what it means to carry grief rather than move past it, including the strange, quiet way it resurfaces years later, in the body, before the mind even remembers why.  For anyone still carrying grief that's ol...

Send us Fan Mail Anybody can show up in a crisis. But joy? Joy is a completely different test. This episode is about the people who show up in your beautiful moments, not just your hard ones. Who beam for you, hold your standard when you're ready to lower it, and make your win feel like theirs. No yinmu. No complicated energy. Just love. And what it means when you find people who love like th...

Send us Fan Mail Never let your storm get your kids wet. This episode is for every parent who's shown up fully for their children on a day they were privately running on empty. Who clapped loudly at the school play when their heart was heavy. Who put a real smile on their face because their child walked into the room and deserved warmth, even when warmth was the thing they were most short of....

Send us Fan Mail Do you. The world will adjust.  It's one of the most liberating things you can say to yourself and one of the most misused. Because doing you is not a licence. It's not permission to move without care, without wisdom & without awareness that your choices have weight. This episode explores the difference between living authentically and living carelessly, and asks the...

Send us Fan Mail Honour is recognising value; in people, in contribution, in the hands that built what everyone now applauds.  But the hardest version of honour isn't thanking the people above you. It's crediting the ones beside you and beneath you, when doing so costs you something. This episode examines how dishonour hides in plain sight and asks one question worth sitting with: whose...

Send us Fan Mail Someone out there might be in secret competition with you and you didn't even agree to the race. In this episode, I unpack the difference between competition, covetousness and contentment, and why staying rooted in your own lane is one of the most freeing things you can do. Compete without coveting! Strive without comparing!! Stay in your lane!!! Support the show #YomisMusing...

Send us Fan Mail The room wasn't built with you in mind, walk in anyway. In this episode, I share the story of holding my own in a male dominated space early in my career and what it taught me about belonging, voice and the difference between being loud and being rooted. This one is for the women already in the room who still sometimes question if they belong and for the women who haven'...

Send us Fan Mail You show up for everyone! You're the shoulder, the listening ear, the safe place. But somewhere in all of that giving, who's looking after you? In this episode, I explore the fine line between genuine generosity and quiet self erasure and ask the question nobody seems to be asking. This one is for the givers, the fixers, the ones who are always there for everyone else. T...

Send us Fan Mail There is a question nobody prepares you for, not really. You hear speeches about resilience, you read quotes about perseverance, but when you are truly in the middle of a season that is testing everything in you, the question arrives quietly and honestly. Do you give up? Or do you give in? In this episode of YomisMusings, I share two personal seasons of uncertainty,  and what both...

Send us Fan Mail We live in a world that tells us to match energy. If they're cold, be colder. If they're loud, be louder. But what if the most powerful thing you can do is refuse the mirror entirely? In this episode of YomisMusings, I sit with the idea of aura for aura, unpacking why reacting and responding are not the same thing, what restraint actually looks like in practice, and why...

Send us Fan Mail We tend to save kindness for the big moments, the grand gestures, the times when it costs us very little. But kindness lives in the smaller places too; in a rewritten email, in a measured response, in the thing you chose not to say. In this episode of YomisMusings, I unpack what kindness actually looks like in practice. Not the performative kind that shows up when people are watch...

Send us Fan Mail We all have a version of this story: The thing we almost didn't do, the moment we nearly talked ourselves out of, the opportunity we stood in front of, hand on the handle, not quite turning it. Because the timing felt off, because we weren't ready, because we were just too tired. In this episode of YomisMusings, I share the story of my birthday photoshoot: the exhaustion...