Want to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan

It can be so easy to want to make the other person in your relationship change so you can be happy but it's impossible to make someone else change. So, if you want to make changes in any relationship, especially in your marriage, focus on yourself. On this episode I will explain why you should work to change yourself first and how to do it if you want to make lasting improvements to your most...

Do you schedule your life? Do you make time for all the pressing matters, all the kids lessons, all the meetings? Do you ever plan time for your desires? Listen in today as I share my process for planning my weeks and how to make time for your desires. Visit my website: https://jamelynstephan.com Free 25 minute session here: https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://jamelynstephan.com https...

For those of you who may find it hard to really love yourself or to be able to see your strengths, this episode is for you. You are the child of the most loving, creative Being in the universe and He created you. On this episode I am going to give you an assignment that will increase your appreciation of you without feeling arrogant or prideful. Instead you get to be so grateful for how you were c...

Most of our relationships don't require boundaries. But every once in a while we may find ourselves in relationship with someone we feel the need to create a boundary with because they are coming into our emotional or physical space without our permission.  On this episode I will teach you how to clearly know when a boundary is required, why you should set one, and the best way to do it. My m...

Our brains think being critical of ourselves is very useful but often it just leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. Listen in to find out how to turn down the volume of your critical mind and how speak in a way that will encourage change without beating yourself up. Visit my website here: https://jamelynstephan.com Snag one of my free 25 minute sessions here: https://jamelynstephan.com https://...

Have you ever experienced the joy of being wrong? Does that sound crazy to you? On this episode I discuss the idea of intellectual humility and why you want to learn to be ok with being wrong. Visit my website here: https://jamelynstephan.com Book a free 25 minute session here: https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www....

Our three basic human motivations are to seek ease, seek pleasure, and avoid pain. Thanks to these motivational forces our world is full of amazing tools and inventions. But if we want to progress we can't stay stuck in these lower motivations. Listen now to find out why we these are our three basic motivations and how to overcome them to create the life you really want. Click below to visit...

All or nothing thinking is a thought pattern that makes us more prone to negative thoughts or negative conclusions. It's very polarizing. Everything is either good or bad, right or wrong, success or failure, perfect or terrible. When we give into this type of thinking we are essentially saying that there's really only two options for everything or everyone. Success or failure, good or ba...

Dr. Paul Jenkins is a professional psychologist and a personal development coach who's been practicing for over 20 years. He is a positivity expert and the author of the book, Pathological Positivity. He also is a talented public speaker and he hosts the podcast Live On Purpose Radio . He also has a YouTube channel called Live On Purpose TV , where you can find hundreds of videos for navigati...

A key to our desires being realized is opportunity. Meaning, the more ideal the time is or the set of circumstances are, the more likely we are to follow through on going after what we desire. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how to increase opportunity, when it's better to decrease opportunity, and what really increases our desire. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan...

A belief is a thought you think over and over.  So, you don't just wake up one day believing in yourself.  You actually have to choose to believe in you. On this episode I'm going to teach you how to practice new thoughts about yourself over and over until you believe them. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coach...

Many of us really struggle making decisions. We can feel unsure of what the right decision is and get worried about making the wrong decision. Our fear and lack of confidence in our decisions keeps us totally stuck in indecision. Becoming a good decision maker is a skill and on this episode I give you a few ideas of how to become a better decision maker.  https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelyn...

All of us have times when we feel like we are a victim, but are we at risk of developing a victim mentality? A victim mentality is a learned way of being, a trait that we develop, whether consciously or unconsciously. Those caught in victim mentality feel like everything is happening to them and that they have no ability to change that. Listen here to learn more about how to deal with someone who...

Perfectionism is really a desire killer. On this episode I talk about what a perfectionist is, why so many of us become perfectionists, how perfectionists behave, ways to get out of the perfectionist trap, and why perfection keeps you from desiring.  https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

When people find out I'm a life coach, I often get asked, "what's the difference between therapy and coaching?" On todays episode I want to shed a little bit of light on this and explain why therapy is a better choice for some people and why coaching is better for others. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_steph...

Do you ever find yourself getting mad because your husband is mad? Or anxious and worried because your child is anxious and worried? This is called Mirroring Emotions and on today's episode I'm going to teach you how to be less at the effect of other people's emotions and more in control of your own. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.ins...

Some thoughts obviously create a negative feeling in our body but other thoughts are sneaky; they sound so lovely, so pretty, so nice, but in reality they feel terrible. Today I'm going to reveal some sneaky little thoughts you may have and tell you what to do with them. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jam...

Self-care is a big buzz word and gets a lot of attention in our world as we strive to increase our emotional health. On today's episode I want to share with you what I actually think self-care is (it might surprise you) and give you some ideas of how to take better care of yourself. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_c...

It is really easy to know what we DON'T want. But when we focus on what we don't want, it doesn't actually guarantee us getting what we DO want. In this episode I share with you the power of deciding what you do want and putting your energy into creating what you want to have instead of what you want to avoid. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https...

We've all been given marriage advice over the years but what makes something "good" advice or "bad" advice? I asked people to share some of the marriage advice they were given over the years and I share it here. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Today you will learn the difference between being an emotional child and an emotional adult. Listen up to discover how your personal emotional maturity powerfully impacts your marriage and other relationships for the better. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Most of us, whether we know it or not, have written manuals for the other people in our lives. It’s an instruction guide we have for someone describing how that person should behave in whatever role they play in our life. These manuals can be so straining on any relationship because we tie all of our emotional life to whether or not the other person follows it.  These manuals also kill desire beca...

Do you find yourself pushing down or trying to get away from your emotions? I can relate. Today I'm going to share with you how allowing yourself to feel your feelings will change your life forever - and for good. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

We often think the circumstances or people around us are the reason we feel the way we do. But what if that's not true? Come along with me while I teach you what actually creates your feelings and how to deliberately choose the ones you want. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

If you've never considered that you are worth celebrating or tried to celebrate yourself, listen to learn how celebration can help you cultivate more natural desire and motivation. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com