Want to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan

Do you ever feel like it's hard to show up as your "best self"? I know that certain situations and certain people seem to bring out the worst in me. That's why I started to ask myself this simple question: "Who do I want to be?" Listen as I talk about the power this question can have in your life and in the life of others.  https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynst...

Many of us find ourselves in situations that feel really uncomfortable and painful for a variety of reasons.  We can find ourselves feeling stuck in this pain because we can't see a way out. But the reason we often can't see a solution is because we are looking for a way out that isn’t painful. We want a solution to our problem that is easy and comfortable and good for everyone and feels...

I know the River of Misery sounds terrible and unappealing but it's actually so good. Too often we sit in the Pond of Discontent, unable to change our lives to what we want it to be because we are too afraid to step into the River of Misery. But,  to get what we want, we have to leave the pond and cross the river. Because on the other side of that river is what we really want in our lives. Le...

The beginning of February is when most people quit on their New Year's Resolutions. But there are many reasons we don't end up achieving the goals we set. One of the biggest reasons is because we don't anticipate the obstacles that will get in our way and therefore we don't have strategies in place to overcome them. On this episode I teach you a tool that will help increase you...

Many people tell me they need to find their purpose or want to find a new purpose or tell me how they've lost their purpose. But what if your purpose can't be lost or found? What if it just needs to be chosen and created? On this episode I offer you a new way to look at purpose and help you with some practical ideas of how to create it on your own. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jame...

It's January and I just don't feel like myself. I feel really blah. Maybe you can relate. If so, listen in to find out the tools I am using to gently take myself through this down time and to take care of myself along the way. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Sometimes after we have stepped away from our "real life" (gone on a vacation or had a school holiday) we can feel a lot of anxiety about re-entering reality. On this episode I discuss why this happens and offer help on how to both deal with the anxiety and over-come it. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching...

Did you know you have the power to either turn yourself on or turn yourself off? So much of it comes down to what you are thinking about yourself, your spouse, and sex in general. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

ReDonna Byam is a certified life coach who helps people take care of their physical and mental clutter realistically and authentically. And she's super good at it. Listen to learn: - Why you have clutter and what you make it mean about you. - What obstacles make it difficult to dejunk and how to overcome them. - What to do about other people's clutter (like hubby and the kids). She also...

Do you have a whole list of books you really want to read but just can't get too? I get it. That's why I recorded this episode of Want to Want It. I read the book Essentialism , by Greg McKeown, and decided to take my favourite parts and share them with you. Here is what you will find out as you listen today: - how to focus on less but better. - the origin of the word 'priorities&ap...

We have all been told that it is better to give than it is to receive.  But what if we're wrong about that? Today I explore: 1. Why it is hard for some of us to receive. 2. Why you should start to be more open to receiving. 3. And some ways to help you actually receive the goodness others are trying to give you. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.i...

Are you someone who struggles saying no to the requests of others? Do feel resentful of all that people require of you? Listen here to learn: 1. Why you don't say no when you want to. 2. Why you should start to say no, at least sometimes. 3. When you should say yes. 4. And how to actually say no when you want to. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www....

I invited my coach, Laura Dry, to teach us about self-confidence and how it impacts our desire. Laura found herself feeling miserable even though she was living the life she always wanted. She couldn't figure out what the problem was until she found some of the tools she shares in this episode. She also explains the three parts necessary for true self-confidence.  And at the end we talk about...

The holiday season can be the best of times or it can be the worst of times. Especially when you have a lot of expectations you put on yourself, on others, or on the season in general. Not to mention the expectations other people put on you as well. On this episode I'm arming you with a tool box that will help you enjoy this "most wonderful time of the year." You're welcome. ht...

Did you know you can try on new thoughts like you try on new clothes? On this episode I'm offering you 25 new thoughts to try on. You don't have to try them all but pick one or two to walk around with for a few days. See if you like how they feel. See if you like the results they give you in your life. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instag...

Do you want to increase your sexual desire but you're not sure how to do it? Or does it feel like everything you try seems to fail? That's because most of the time we are trying to do something that will increase our desire instead of think something to increase our desire.  On this episode of Want To Want It I explore the thoughts you may be having that are keeping your sexual desire at...

On this episode I talk about the difference between love and desire. Too often we think they are the same thing but they aren't. Love is stable and certain. It feels peaceful and safe. Desire on the other hand is more expansive and novel. It is yearning and passion. Love wants to belong. Desire wants autonomy. Esther Perel says, “From the moment we are born, we straddle two sets of contradict...

Do you find yourself wishing you and your spouse could be on the same page more often? On this episode I talk about: 1. What we really mean when we tell our spouse "we need to get on the same page." 2. Why we want to be on the same page (and it's not always for the good of our marriage). 3. How being on the same page can be overrated AND how it can be really valuable.  4. How to get...

Our beliefs about money will determine how we feel about it and how much of it we have. On this episode I invited my sister, Breian Elliott, to talk to us about money. Breian is a certified life coach who helps women with their business finances. Listen in to learn about: - Common limiting beliefs many people have about money. - Money scarcity. - Money and marriage. - Judgments about money. - Mone...

Have you ever stopped to consider the difference between using judgment and being judgemental? I think it's a pretty important distinction. I think too often we are so worried about being seen as judgmental that we stop using judgment. Judgment is focused on you and asks questions such as, "What is good for me? What do I want to do when I look at all the options before me? What opinion d...

The Psychology Dictionary defines self-confrontation as "examining our own behaviours and attitudes to make a change we may need to make." So, to successfully self-confront means that you are willing to examine your attitudes, behaviours, and shortcomings and are willing to change.  In this episode I examine why we don't really want to self-confront, what we do instead of self-confr...

Your future is 5 minutes from now, or 5 years from now, or 50 years from now and it's yours for the making. As a kid I'm sure you loved to dream about the future. Going to your first day of school. Getting your driver's licence. Having a career. Getting married. Having a baby. But often future dreams stop there. Almost like you thought the best of your life was all going to happen b...

Sometimes it may feel like your past is always haunting you and your future is always worrying you.  Or maybe you feel like the best days have already been or you won't be happy until some future event takes place. But the world is beginning to encourage more and more of us to live in the present and learn how to be more present in the present. On this podcast I'll give you some practica...

Our past is what happened to us 10 seconds ago or 10 years ago.  And it can have such a strong hold on us. But our past is really just what we think about it and is completely optional. If you feel like you are still at the effect of your past listen to find out how to gain power over your history and create a different future. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ ht...

The way we feel about other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with what we think about them. Listen to find out why this is the best news and the power for good this will have for your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself. Visit my website: https://jamelynstephan.com Book a free 25 minute session with me: https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https...