Voice Memos

What does it actually mean when people say “when they know, they know”? In this episode, I sit down with my 36-year-old millennial “Unc” to unpack the box theory, social media, performative dating, and why intention shows up differently when someone genuinely wants to pursue you. We talk about Instagram energy, exes circling back, and how attraction changes when you stop performing and start being...

My debut back… unpacking what it really means to hold your own and stay grounded in who you are. Outgrowing old versions of myself, navigating friendships and learning to stand firm in values. I get into softening, self-awareness and not shrinking to fit into anyone’s expectations. EEEEK I’m nervous, but leaning back into vulnerability❤️

Effort vs. bare minimum and why old-school gestures still matter. I’m breaking down compatibility, complementary, chemistry … and giving my unfiltered take on the Taxi Cab Theory. Tough love, straight talk and a little tea ! DON’T FORGET TO FOLLOW AND RATE❤️

Two of my exes popped back into my life in the same week. I unpack how those conversations forced me to look at old patterns, why I’ve mistaken chaos for connection in the past, and what I’m no longer willing to tolerate. From trauma bonds to fearful-avoidant attachment to raising my standards, I’m sharing the lessons that are reshaping how I date in my 20s. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle wi...

Six months ago, I turned down the biggest job offer of my life and recorded an episode mid-breakdown about betting on myself. This is the follow-up I promised. In this episode, I reflect on everything that’s changed since! From feeling disconnected to building the exact life, career, and relationships I once only wrote about. This episode is dedicated to the people who walked in right as I was sta...

Based on a true story

JC WEEKEND DEBRIEF + I dive into the illusion of “options” in dating and how social media is quietly sabotaging our ability to connect. Breadcrumbing, emotional avoidance, and how easy it is to chase attention instead of intimacy. From my situationships to story likes, I unpack why dating feels so shallow right now and how to shift back into intentional connection.

My new job, dream apartment, shifting friendships, dating updates… and yes, cheating exes. I’m finally living the life I once prayed for, while calling out the bare minimum behavior I refuse to entertain anymore. This episode is all about growth, boundaries, divine timing, and standing on business. If you’re in your comeback era or ready to enter it, press play !

HAPPY 24TH BIRTHDAY TO ME💙 To a year of grounded growth, elevation, aligned choices and being unapologetically me. I love you all, thanks for coming along for 23.

Landing my dream job, dream apartment, and a fresh start just before my 24th birthday — The worst week of my life quickly turned into the BEST. I open up about the mental resilience it took to navigate rejection, burnout, toxic relationships, and setbacks, and how choosing alignment over pressure led to everything falling into place. I reflect on full-circle moments, like manifesting the exact rol...

I’m scared to post this. High functioning depression, the guilt of letting go, and the beauty of making space for more aligned connections. I’m unpacking the uncomfortable but necessary process of outgrowing — jobs, friendships, old versions of myself, and even dating patterns. From feeling disconnected at work to setting new boundaries in my relationships, this is a raw, unfiltered look at what i...

For my girls and guys… I’m giving you the ultimate glow-up blueprint to become your hottest, most confident self. I’m breaking down daily, weekly, and monthly habits that will transform you physically, mentally and emotionally. From fitness and self-care to mindset shifts and deep conversations, we’re covering everything you need to elevate. Let’s get disciplined, let’s get intentional — let’s get...

F*CK THE OPPS & STOP CARING WHAT THEY THINK. Especially athletes & exes ;) I’m diving into the power of owning your truth and the power of quiet confidence. When you are grounded in your “why” you radiate energy that attracts the right people and opportunities—maybe even professional athletes. I share how vulnerability and accountability leads to real growth. If you’re showing up and doing the wor...

Opening up about my terrifying car accident experience and the emotional aftermath. Then switching gears and diving into the idea of “fake crazy” and how my confident allows me to navigate dating with humor and self-assurance. Story time on showing up to a guy’s place uninvited + a Valentine’s Day message💝

Too many men want access to you without the accountability that comes with it—and I’m officially done serving the cake. In this episode, we’re talking about inconsistency, mixed signals, and the reality of men who suddenly “aren’t ready” right after getting what they want. I’m sharing personal stories, therapy takeaways, and the hard truth about why effort shouldn’t be conditional. Plus, if he rea...

If you feel triggered by this episode, you’re part of the problem!!! Share this with your ex or situationship😘 I’m breaking down the epidemic of low-effort men—why they do it, why I’ve accepted it in the past, and how I’m finally raising the damn bar. From breadcrumbing and last-minute plans to guys who “don’t date to marry” (but somehow expect wife energy), I’m calling it all out. If you’re tire...

The people around you can make or break your personal growth. Today I’m discussing letting go of negative influences, seeking out those who push you to evolve, and building connections that align with your goals. My personal stories that highlight why it’s crucial to notice how others affect your mindset. Finally, learn why embracing solitude, if necessary, can lead to stronger self-discovery and...

Diving into the importance of authenticity, taking risks, and trusting your gut when it comes to making decisions that align with your true self. An honest look at navigating self-doubt, handling negative self-talk, and staying true to your values… no matter what others think. I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to take the road less traveled !! Tune in for an empowering conversation about trust...

UNPACKING HOT & COLD DYNAMICS🔥❄️ It’s 2025 and we are diving into the complexities of attachment styles, communication and navigating unhealed trauma in relationships. I reflect on my own experiences with avoidant and anxious tendencies and why self awareness is key. Tune in for advice on how to break the cycle and approach relationships with clear communication and emotional maturity. Plus my le...

As the year comes to a close, I’m taking a moment to reflect on everything 2024 has thrown my way. From navigating the ups and downs of dating and learning to address my avoidant tendencies, to juggling career shifts, including job interviews and new opportunities, it’s been a year of growth and lessons. I’ll share what I’ve learned about setting boundaries in relationships, knowing my worth in wo...

Thanksgiving Eve — the ultimate hometown holiday reunion. We are navigating tense moments with guy friends to exploring the concept of soul ties and energetic connections… even how emotions and energy shape our interactions. I witnessed a robbery AND a wild bar story that makes you question if timing is ever a coincidence.😉 If Voice Memos is on your Spotify/Apple Wrapped for 2024 dm/message me!!!...

I WENT ON A DATE! Also reflecting on a current dynamic, how much my mindset has shifted — from being emotionally invested to feeling secure and detached from the outcome. From holiday acts of kindness and navigating new romantic connections, I’ve learned to prioritize my own intentions over others’ perceptions. As the winter season begins… I’m balancing flirty fun with personal growth while keepin...

The title says everything you need to know. ☕️🐸 The mic audio is a little rocky sometimes I APOLOGIZEEEEE.❤️ Holiday Hustle Series on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@karaarbadji?_t=8rDH4SS8FtT&_r=1 Ask me anonymous questions below: https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

I’m spilling all the tea! From my fantasy football season, DM drama and my hot takes on dating etiquette and handling flaky behavior, we're covering it all... even the post-sleepover exit strategy. Also getting real and vulnerable about my avoidant tendencies in relationships ad sharing stories of how past experiences have shaped my current approach to intimacy and connection. Don't forget to foll...

Sharing some insights from recent encounters with an old flame—navigating blurred lines of attraction, past hurts, and the lessons in holding space for someone who’s not quite there yet. I unpack my recent breakup and the impact of attachment styles, talk about forgiving without waiting around, and embracing the “what ifs” while building your own life without pressing pause for anyone else's poten...