Unlearning

From 5AM routines to diet culture to perfectly curated wellness habits… it’s easy to feel like everyone else has life figured out. In this episode, we unpack:why comparison hits so deeply how borrowed routines disconnect you from yourself the hidden shame behind wellness culture and how to create habits that actually align with your body and life If you’ve ever felt like someone else’s discipline...

You can understand your patterns, know where they come from, and still find yourself repeating them. In this episode, we explore the gap between awareness and real change, and why knowing isn’t always enough to create lasting transformation. We talk about: why awareness alone doesn’t shift patterns how the nervous system holds onto familiar responses the difference between understanding and integr...

Ever feel like life has gotten calmer… but instead of feeling better, it feels a little off? In this episode, we explore why your nervous system can interpret safety as boredom, and why that’s a normal part of the healing process. We talk about: why your body prefers familiarity over safety how calm can feel uncomfortable at first the difference between peace and numbness and why you may feel pull...

Ever leave a space feeling irritated, overwhelmed, or completely off, and wonder why it affected you so much? In this episode, we explore what’s really happening when your nervous system responds to high-energy, emotionally charged environments. *cough* kids sporting events.... Through a real-life experience, we unpack: why certain spaces feel so intense what “normalized dysregulation” actually lo...

The moment you stop abandoning yourself… someone will notice. In this episode, we explore the often unspoken side of alignment, the guilt, the shifting dynamics, and the discomfort that comes when you start choosing yourself. We talk about: Why alignment changes your relationships The difference between guilt and misalignment Why people may feel disappointed when you grow How to set boundaries wit...

An unplanned… but it felt important to share. This week, I lost my grandma. And later that same day, while teaching a class in a practice I’ve held for years… I broke open in a way I didn’t expect. In a room where I’m usually the one holding others, I was the one being held. In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, what it revealed about the nervous system, grief, control, and the identity of “...

You’re in the in-between. That space where who you used to be no longer fits… but who you’re becoming doesn’t feel fully anchored yet. In this episode, we explore the season that so many women find themselves in—but rarely have language for. The moments where: – clarity is followed by doubt – expansion is followed by contraction – and nothing feels as certain as it once did This isn’t confusion. T...

We hear it all the time, “be kind.” But what if that’s not actually the standard we should be striving for? In this episode, I share a simple moment from my day that sparked a deeper realization about how we show up in the world—and how often we focus on behavior while completely overlooking energy . Because here’s the truth: People don’t just hear you… they feel you. We explore: Why “being kind”...

Alignment isn’t about certainty, confidence, or getting it “right.” It’s about safety. Honesty. And the body’s ability to tell the truth without fear. In this episode, we explore: Why alignment can feel confusing after survival The difference between ego-led and body-led alignment What alignment actually feels like in the body Why alignment emerges after regulation, not before This episode continu...

In this episode, we explore regulation not as a concept, but as a lived, day-to-day experience. After unlearning old patterns and softening shame, regulation becomes the missing piece that allows real change to happen. We talk about: Why regulation is often mistaken for calm or control How dysregulation gets mislabeled as intuition or failure What regulation actually looks like in real life Why ca...

Ever notice how the moment things feel unclear, uncomfortable, or slow, you assume something is wrong? In this episode, we talk about why healing, unlearning, and growth often feel messier than we expect, and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. This is a relatable, honest conversation about: The awkward “in-between” phase of growth Why discomfort doesn’t mean regression How shame convinces us we...

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record. But I woke up receiving such a strong download around the New Moon Solar Eclipse in Aquarius and the beginning of the Year of the Fire Horse… that I couldn’t ignore it. In this episode, I break down (simply and grounded, not woo-woo) what eclipses represent, what Aquarius energy invites, and how the Fire Horse symbolizes bold identity shifts. But more i...

Valentine’s week often brings pressure, comparison, and questions about worth, especially if you’ve learned to equate love with effort or self-sacrifice. In this episode, we explore: How self-abandonment shows up in love and relationships Why love learned through survival feels intense but exhausting What love feels like in a regulated body Why safety matters more than chemistry How to move throug...

Shame doesn’t always shout, often, it whispers. It’s the quiet voice that keeps us small, stuck, and self-abandoning even when we know something needs to change. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What shame really is (and what it isn’t) ✨ How shame forms as a nervous system response ✨ Why unlearning can feel unsafe ✨ The link between shame, self-abandonment, and resentment ✨ How to work with sha...

Unlearning old patterns can feel liberating… and disorienting. In this episode, we explore the quiet, often confusing space that comes after you stop over-functioning, people-pleasing, or abandoning yourself, but before clarity fully arrives. This conversation is about integration, not urgency. Safety, not fixing. Learning how to trust yourself when the old armor is gone. In this episode, we talk...

We say we want change, but what if what we’re really afraid of isn’t growth… it’s unlearning ? In this episode, we explore why letting go of old patterns can feel more threatening than staying stuck, even when those patterns no longer serve us. We unpack how survival strategies like people-pleasing, overworking, and self-abandonment once kept us safe, and why your nervous system may resist releasi...

Resentment doesn’t come from nowhere. It builds when we override our needs, silence our truth, and choose connection at the cost of ourselves, again and again. In this episode, we explore: How self-abandonment forms (and why it’s not your fault) Why resentment is a nervous system response, not a character flaw The deep human need for safety in the body How unmet needs quietly turn into irritation,...

This episode is a gentle reset for the new year. We’re talking about regulation, alignment, and creating a life that feels organic, not forced. If you’re craving a more grounded way to move forward, this conversation is for you. Includes an invitation to my free live masterclass Regulated & Aligned, happening Thur Jan 29th at 7:30pm. Register for the free masterclass [ HERE ]

This episode is a love note to you. On Christmas Eve, when emotions run high and expectations feel heavy, I wanted to offer a pause, not another lesson, not another thing to fix. In this episode, I share: • Gratitude for this community and the year we’ve shared • How to navigate the holidays if you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or stretched thin • Gentle nervous system reminders for busy homes,...

Reflectors make up less than 1% of the population, and their sensitivity is their greatest gift. But when the world feels overwhelming, they fall into self-sabotage patterns like identity confusion, decision paralysis, emotional withdrawal, and settling for environments that drain them. In this episode, I break down: ✨ Why Reflectors struggle with self-trust ✨ How rushing decisions leads to burn...

Projectors aren’t designed to keep up with the world’s pace, but most were conditioned to try. And the result? Burnout, resentment, emotional withdrawal, and a nervous system that’s constantly bracing for impact. In this episode, we explore: ✨ The real reason Projectors fall into self-sabotage ✨ Why over-proving and over-working feel like survival ✨ How childhood conditioning wires them away fr...

Generators make up the largest Human Design energy type, and their power is unmatched when they’re aligned. But when they override their sacral responses, they fall into patterns of burnout, resentment, and confusion. In this episode, I break down: ✨ The core self-sabotage patterns for Generators ✨ Why saying yes out of obligation drains them ✨ The difference between quiet and loud sacral excit...

In this episode we continue our Human Design & Self-Sabotage mini-series with the energy type known for speed, creativity, multitasking, and magnetic life-force: Manifesting Generators . Inside, we explore: ✨ The MG patterns of quitting too early or staying too long ✨ Why MGs overcommit during energetic highs ✨ How skipping steps becomes sabotage ✨ The emotional patterns behind burnout and...

We’re kicking off the Human Design & Self-Sabotage mini series by diving into Manifestors, the initiators, the fire-starters, the 9% of the population who are here to spark movements… yet often sabotage their own brilliance. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The real lived experience of Manifestors ✨ Why anger is actually your compass ✨ The top 5 sabotage patterns Manifestors fall into ✨ Ho...

Every child is wired differently, and understanding how their energy works might just change everything. In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, I unpack how to parent through the lens of Human Design, with real-life examples and insights for every energy type (Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, Reflector). Learn how to support your child’s nervous system, confidence, and...