Turns Out It's You

Episode Description: Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict is one thing. Actually staying present when things get hard — that's another thing entirely. This is part two of this conflict series, and this one is the practical part. We're talking about what you can actually do when you feel your body starting to activate mid-conversation — and how to say what you need without...

Most of us were taught — quietly, without anyone saying it directly — that a good relationship is one where you don't really fight. But what if that belief is actually getting in the way of real intimacy? In this episode, we're digging into what conflict actually does to your nervous system, and how your body can tell the difference between conflict that's healthy and conflict that's slowly costin...

In this episode we walk through the four patterns that show up when connection starts to feel unsafe: the one who strikes first to stay in control, the one who fixes and does and optimizes so she can't be left, the one who shrinks and apologizes to keep the peace, and the one who goes offline entirely because the feelings got too big. Fight, flight, fawn, freeze — each one brilliant, each one tryi...

Episode Description We talk a lot about red flags. There are entire corners of the internet dedicated to spotting them, naming them, avoiding them. And yet so many self-aware, emotionally intelligent women keep finding themselves in the same painful relationship patterns. Not because they're naive. Not because they missed the signs. But because their nervous system doesn't experience those pattern...

Have you ever known exactly what you needed to say to someone you loved and felt your body just close around it? That closing is not a communication problem. It is not a confidence problem. It is your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do. In this episode, we trace the unexpected connection between the voice and the body, drawing on her background as a vocal coach turned somatic pract...

DESCRIPTION Have you ever found yourself completely consumed by someone who couldn't fully show up for you? Checking your phone constantly, replaying every interaction, feeling relief when they came back and panic when they pulled away? In this first episode we explore why emotionally unavailable people can feel so magnetic, so consuming, and so incredibly hard to walk away from. And the answer mi...