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How often do you think you use the word just when describing yourself or asking for something. For example, when you describe what you do like this, “I’m just an assistant manager;” “I’m just an administrative assistant;” “I just graduated college, I just got my degree.”  Or how about in your email correspondence, for example, I'm just emailing to check in. I’m just wondering if you had time...

Ask any average person why they haven't accomplished their goals yet, and more often than not, their answer will be because they are afraid that they will fail. Why are we, as humans, taught to fear failure, and where does it have its roots? Ever since our school days, we are taught to categorize things as either right or wrong. The answers are either correct or incorrect, pass or fail, with zero...

Aren't we tired of the energy it takes to continually be thinking about our bodies and what other people think of them? Can you imagine what you could do with all the extra energy that you waste fretting about what size jeans you fit into? You would have more time for friends, for work, for actually being active, and you can bet your ass you'd be happier too. But it’s not that easy. Especially for...

Do you ever hear a shitty inner voice in your head that tells you that you aren’t worthy of things, or that you can’t accomplish something for one reason or another? That voice is called your Inner Critic. It’s created by the voices you hear when you are in the formative years of your childhood. It could be the voice of your past, your mother, your father, an aunt, or a school bully. This voice ca...

You walk into a room full of people you've never met before; self- doubt, fear, apprehension, do they all kick in? The same probably happens when you speak up and share your opinions or ideas in a work meeting. What does it take you to effectively conquer your mind in such situations? It takes a belief in yourself. It takes confidence. So, if confidence looks so good on you, what keeps you from we...

Could you imagine watching your favorite epic film without the music? Would Jaws be nearly as scary if the open water scenes were not accompanied by the infamous John Williams two note alternating pattern dun nun, dun nun . For more than 45 years that sound has been our collective cultural shorthand to signal danger.  Would the shower scene in Psycho be nearly as memorable without the accompa...

As Americans we are taught that we all have certain unalienable rights. Written right there in the pages of our Declaration of Independence is that we have​ the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness .​ Something about that line has always gotten me thinking. And it’s the word pursuit. You know why? Because I think of that word as having movement. The word pursuit, which means an eff...

2020 is almost over. What a dumpster fire of a year AMIRIGHT? This is usually the time of the year when we gather our year end lists, think about all the things we have done, seen, heard and accomplished in the past 12 months. But right now the only thing I can think of is that I'm so glad it's almost over. Is it just me or are you also struggling to find things to be grateful for? I don't general...

We’ve all heard the line before, that it is better to give than to receive. During the holidays you’ll hear it over and over again, but is it true, and if so why? What does the act of giving do for us? Sure, philosophers will tell you to give freely, but what about scientists? What does the data say - is there data to back up the idea that it is indeed better to be a giver than a getter?  Wel...

Would you be surprised if I told you that friendship is as important for your health as diet and exercise. That there is an actual correlation between how social you are and how long you will live! New research shows that the power of friendship gets stronger with age and may even be more important than family relationships, which doesn't surprise me one fucking bit since my personal experience is...

A study showed that 70 percent of employees say friends at work is the most crucial element to a happy working life, and 58 percent of men would refuse a higher-paying job if it meant not getting along with co-workers. Maybe this is why the Gallup research shows that people who have strong work relationships are more engaged, produce higher-quality work and have a higher state of well being. Then...

Are you struggling to find a way to stand-out at networking events both virtual and in person? Tune into the next 13 minutes and never have another boring conversation again! Everything we do starts in our brain, it’s the literal boss of the body! And in the next few episodes, we are going to delve into the incredibly resourceful human brain and learn how you can utilize its power to get the best...

Even during good years the holidays can be a difficult time for some people. Now, combine that with Covid fatigue, increased loneliness, travel restrictions, and isolation and the holidays can seem like an even more stark and lonely time.  The holiday season this year is going to be different for everyone. Yes, we are untethered from the family and tradition this year, but we can still incorp...

We all have a hundreds if not thousands of things we want to do and accomplish in our lives, and sometimes when we look at the enormity of what we hope to achieve it can seem like it’s all too much.  It can be incredibly easy to become overwhelmed , to get trapped under the mental weight of all your goals, and to lose focus. And that was before the pandemic started.  The truth is we can...

One does not just become an Instagram celebrity overnight, but when a person does, you can be sure that they are influential individuals and that the online network they have created will grow their business to greater heights! On the show today, we have Tiffany Narbonne, founder of T. Jazelle, who by sharing what she creates with love and passion has organically created a massive instagram follow...

Do you know why some of the best ideas come to you when you are on the shower or on your morning run? Or why sometimes, the solutions to your most unsettling problems seemingly come out of the blue, when you aren’t even thinking about it? This is because when your brain is not concentrating deeply on something, it is free to roam about and come up with it’s best ideas. Distractions are not necessa...

Spooky content alert! Waking up in the dead of night to find an unknown blurry-faced figure lying right beside you in bed? Or how about a deceased relative changing the television channel while evidently sitting on his favorite spot on the sofa? Has your brain made the connection between networking and horror yet?  Networking can be awfully scary to some people, and have I got for you some re...

Are you ignoring the professional world’s most rewarding and recognizable networking and social media platform? LinkedIn today has over 610 million members, 300 million of them are active monthly users and 40 percent of those visit the site every single day! It’s high time you boss up and start building an attention-grabbing yet formally laid out profile. In this podcast I swiftly and tactically g...

The economic forecast for 2020 looked great for about two months and then SLAM! The shit hit the fan and it all came to a screeching halt. We can’t go into the office, kids can’t go to school, you can’t find toilet paper, I’m washing my fucking groceries before I bring them in the house. How are we supposed to sell to people and companies during this time, when we are so on edge that we are washin...

Conferences work if you know how to work them and can be an important part of your business development strategy. But, what are we to do now that the in person aspect of conferences are gone? No chances to serendipitously meet someone in a session, no booths to entice people into by handing out shitty tchotchkes at, no hotel bar to saddle up to, throw back a few drinks at and make new friends, no...

Love them or hate them it looks like virtual meetings and events are here to stay. Now that we know that this, how can we make sure that we are looking our best in this online world? Have you ever done your hair and your make up and you are looking fly, then you take a selfie and you’re like how the f*ck do I look like Hagrid from Harry Potter in this picture, and where did that third chin come fr...

The ongoing coronavirus pandemic has not diminished the importance of networking, in fact it has shone a light on how important networks are. Creating and maintaining virtual relationships is as fundamental to maintaining mental health as it is to business success. Yes, you can still connect with others in a pure and authentic way. Yes, you can still meet new people and grow your network. Yes, you...

In this episode, we talk about the invisible but very omnipresent ceilings that occur in work cultures that can hamper one’s ability to succeed. You already know about the glass ceiling; today we are discussing the Lavender Ceiling. The lavender ceiling exists when a person who identifies as LGBT encounters more resistance toward promotion or moving upward in a company than a straight person would...

In this episode, we discuss linguistic code switching, natural black hair, navigating a male dominated industry as a woman of color and how to get into good trouble. The definition of code-switching is, “the modifying of one’s behavior, appearance, etc., to adapt to different sociocultural norms.” Code switching is a part of everyday life for most people. Between interacting with friends, family a...

It took a man’s life and millions of people protesting in the streets amidst a global pandemic for me to realize (and then a lot of courage to accept) the fact that I am a silent participant in the centuries old problem of racism.  I have been networking for more than two decades. After more than 20 years meeting people you would think that my network would be diverse. You’d be wrong. Among t...