This May Get RAW: Building Wise Resilience

When’s the last time you did something just because it was fun and felt good?  For domestic abuse survivors, the idea of joy and fun can feel like a million miles away. But the joy that was buried by your abuse isn’t lost. It’s still there, just waiting for you to rediscover it.  This week, we’re breaking out the big guns (bubble guns, that is) when it comes to letting our hair down and having a l...

Being kind to yourself: It might just be the hardest part of all when it comes to healing from domestic abuse.  Abuse survivors don’t just carry the wounds inflicted by their abuser. Often, they also carry the harm they inflict on themselves through shame, self-blame, and relentless self-criticism. Learning to silence that harsh inner critic and be kind to yourself is a major step in the path towa...

When you’re in an abusive relationship, you spend all your time trying to be perfect because you hope it will keep you safe. But once the abuse ends, that perfectionism goes from being a survival strategy to being a trauma response—one that keeps you stuck in shame, fear, and the belief you’re never good enough. As two recovering perfectionists, this week’s topic is especially close to our hearts!...

Many people think domestic abuse means bruises and black eyes. But there’s one aspect of domestic abuse that’s almost always overlooked: spiritual abuse.  When someone weaponizes your faith or spiritual practice, they're not just harming you physically or emotionally. They’re severing your connection to meaning itself. Recovering from spiritual abuse and reconnecting with your religious faith,...

Take a bubble bath. Practice gratitude. Treat yourself.  Instagram-worthy self-care practices sound great and can be wonderful for temporary comfort. But for domestic abuse survivors, long-term self-care is more complicated–and often less glamorous.  This week, we’re getting real about the unsexy side of self-care. Things like drinking enough water, committing to therapy, and setting boundaries. ...

Trigger warning: This episode was recorded in February 2026 and contains discussion of the Epstein files. While no details of the files are shared, listeners should engage with awareness and take care of themselves.  Making decisions in an abusive relationship comes down to one thing: survival. And after months or even years of being conditioned to doubt your judgment, your capabilities, and your...

It’s a question every domestic abuse survivor ultimately must face: Who am I now? Survivors spend so long adapting to survive—changing things about themselves their abusers don’t like, suppressing their needs, becoming smaller or different versions of themselves—that once they’ve escaped the abuse, many genuinely don’t know who they are anymore.  Redefining yourself after domestic abuse can feel s...

Imagine you live in a house with no doors. People can walk in whenever they choose, and your time, your space, your energy is never your own.  For many domestic abuse survivors, that’s what life in active abuse felt like: no boundaries standing between us and the danger. Learning how to set and hold healthy boundaries post-abuse is one of the most important, and hardest, lessons survivors need to...

Content Warning: This May Get RAW contains explicitlanguage and candid discussions of trauma, domestic violence, and mental health — including the emotions and feelings that come with these lived experiences. We are speaking as survivors, not as mental health professionals. Please engage with care and at your own pace. If you need support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-79...

Leaving an abusive relationship doesn’t just bring relief; it can also bring deep grief and losses both big and small. In this episode, we’ll be shining a light on this often misunderstood part of the domestic abuse survivor experience and share our own stories of the complex, layered feelings of grief survivors often face.  We’ll dive into: ·   The various losses domestic abuse survivors may find...

Words matter, especially when it comes to talking about survivors of intimate partner violence and domestic abuse. In this episode, we get real about the nuances of language, how survivors can reclaim their voices and their narratives, and how to talk about domestic violence, emotional abuse, and narcissistic relationships in ways that protect and uplift survivors instead of causing further trauma...

Shame: It’s primitive, powerful, and universal. In this episode, we delve into what shame is, how domestic abuse survivors experience shame, and how we can move past our shame with resilience, awareness, and wisdom.   We’ll talk about: ·   The difference between guilt and shame ·   Common sources of shame for domestic abuse survivors ·   How to recognize and name our shame and its triggers ·   The...

We’re Lisa and Sara: friends, entrepreneurs, and domestic abuse survivors. We know what it's like to rebuild your life after domestic violence, emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, and trauma. Walk with us as we explore the joys and challenges of life after domestic abuse.  In this introductory episode, you’ll get a taste of who we are and what you can expect from the series, including...