Things I meant to say naked

In today's episode, Figs gets a bit more vulnerable as she explores whether love can truly feel authentic when partners don't share the same first language. Figs talks about her experience of living abroad and how a date and a drinking game inspired this topic, and how theories of love show us that multilingual relationships invite deeper self-awareness than we thought.  For updates, fol...

As Figs travels the world, one message keeps coming up, over and over, from friends and family: she's going to fall in love with a foreigner. But falling for someone across a language barrier is hard to imagine when your love language is yapping and deep conversation. So what happens after the initial spark, once you're trying to actually know someone — to understand them on a level that...

In light of the Lindsay Clancy trial, Figs realized how little she actually knew about postpartum psychosis. Confronting her own preconceived notions, she invited advocate and author Aaisha Alvi, who wrote " A Mother Like That ," chronicling her own experience with postpartum psychosis, onto the show. And oh, how wrong Figs was. What if the warning signs everyone's told to look for...

We're seeing more and more folks coming out of the "broom closet," but we're not seeing those same numbers in the therapy office. Why?  In today's episode, Figs focuses on destigmatizing witchcraft, tarot, spell work, and manifestation and makes the case for why therapists should start recognizing the identity and the healing space we can hold for our spiritual girlies.  Y...

Most self-help books promise quick fixes, but do they really fix anything? Self-help books may lack validity, but that doesn't mean they can't serve as entry points for growth. In this eye-opening episode, renowned psychologist Dr. Daniel Watter and I dissect the complex world of self-help literature, exposing what's real, what's risky, and what we might be missing. As we discu...

Today’s episode explores the downward spiral Figs went through after a conversation with a friend who confidently declared that only two things end a marriage: babies and threesomes. Figs has thoughts... In this episode, she challenges that claim by asking the uncomfortable (and fun) questions: Are threesome fantasies actually that common? Is this really a male-centric fantasy? Is it an even split...

Today’s episode features an anonymous letter from a listener navigating the blurry, emotionally charged terrain of a situationship that refuses to stay casual. After a recent divorce and a firm decision to “take things slow,” what begins as an easy reconnection slowly turns into daily check-ins, intimacy, emotional support, and mixed signals that don’t quite line up with the label nothing serious...

Today's episode wraps up our three-part series on situationships. (And if you haven’t heard the first two yet, I highly recommend you give them a listen first.) Now that you know what a situationship is , let’s talk about what happens when you realize… you’re actually in one. In this final chapter, we’ll explore your options—whether you choose to stay, redefine the relationship, or walk away....

Welcome to part 2 of our three-part series on situationships. Today, we’re diving into the long-term psychological effects of situationships—and why so many of us leave one only to slip right into another. Cue: “ReLEase ME!” Situationships are relationships that form and maintain themselves with ambiguity.  For updates, follow me on instagram and tiktok: @thingsimeanttosaynaked Or learn about figs...

Welcome to part 1 of our three-part series on situationships. Today's episode dives into why they happen and why they are so common. This episode is part one of a three-part series exploring the dating phenomenon of situationships.  For updates, follow me on instagram and tiktok: @thingsimeanttosaynaked Or learn about figs, the therapist and her services go to figstherapy.com Citation and stu...

In today's episode, we go into the inglorious history of the glory hole, its queer cultural significance, and what it reveals about ourselves — changing what we mean by 'vulnerable'.  for updates, follow me on instagram and tiktok: @thingsimeanttosaynaked Or learn about figs, the therapist and her services go to figstherapy.com citation and things I read in preparation for today&apo...

Maybe you love horror—or maybe you’ve even AI’d yourself into your favorite final girl. Or… you’ve got a thing for masked men. In this episode, Figs dives into the rising interest in predator/prey play and mask play (a.k.a. the “Ghostface kink”). Play hide and seek with figs as she tries to understand: why the chase can feel hot, how fear flips into desire, and what consent, context, and safety lo...

The dick pic. Or should I call it: genital gerrymandering? Today's episode focuses on just how common are dick pics? Why our penis princes send them? And what to consider before concocking a photo creation. Citation and things I read for this episode: Anderson, K. J. (2010). Benign bigotry: The psychology of subtle prejudice . Cambridge University Press. Beres, M. A., Herold, E., & Maitla...

Just because we are healing doesn't mean life catches up with us. Today, we will talk about how you can be in therapy, journaling, and setting boundaries… and still repeating toxic patterns. You’ll get: red flags to watch in yourself, antidotes, and maybe learn how to call in softness to yourself and your relationships.  Things I’ve read and citations: Gottman, J., & Schwartz Gottman, J....

It sounds funny, but for many couples, pets in the bedroom can spark real tension around intimacy. Do you let them stay? Do you kick them out? And what does each choice say about us? Figs dives into our desire, boundaries, and relationship with pets in “Do we let the dogs out?” citations and things read in preparation for today's episode: Bancroft, J., & Janssen, E. (2000). The dual contr...