There You Are

Send us Fan Mail September 28, 2026 Laughter is the best Medicine! Laughter always lightens the load— Jess and Cathy talk about how important it is to laugh and find humor in life.  Smiling always ricochets right back at you— and Andy Rooney said, “If you smile when no one else is around, you really meant it.”  Are there “family jokes” that you were raised with? Do you allow humility to let you la...

Send us Fan Mail Showing Up Jess and Cathy talk about the importance of showing up.  There are all degrees and aspects of showing up.  Sometimes its done even if we don’t know exactly what to do or what to say. You are important. When you show up it is good for you and for the other person. Saying what is going on, saying where you are, saying you don’t know even know what to say!  Especially when...

Send us Fan Mail Home: What is it for you? Jess and Cathy contemplate what ‘Home’ is—It is not structure of walls and a roof—it is where we feel alive, authentic, comfortable, and connected.  Little things can help that happen, the table that Cathy has in her camper, the shoes that fit our feet.  It is also big things-the people we have around us-both chosen and biological. It is how we can show u...

Send us Fan Mail Teamwork Makes the Dreamwork! Jess and Cathy did a little overnight on the Relation Ship at Green River Lake—and they discuss how they work together.  It’s so good to be able to have a resource-to not have to problem solve totally on your own. At the barn, it is so fun how everyone works together, and support each other.  We are not on this planet having to figure it out all on ou...

Send us Fan Mail Mentor like Dolly! Jess and Cathy celebrate Dolly and all the good she did and exemplified!  Such a talented song writer, so brilliant financially, how she was so philanthropic, and will continue that way into the future.   Jess talks about what There You Are is about—living in your own spark that is like no one else.  Dolly was unabashedly herself—  Peace and love—What is your sp...

Send us Fan Mail Conscious Connections Jess and Cathy are talking to you from the airport in Minneapolis, returning from their annual Couples trip.    For 15 years, they have been joining four other couples to connect, eat, explore and catch up. We started at our family’s lake house at Barkley Lake in Kentucky.     For the past two years, we have met in Vancouver, where one of the couples are from...

Send us Fan Mail How in YOUR own life has paying it forward been good for you?  Give us some feedback on what you did and how it had great benefits for all!   Cathy shares how she had a really good horse when she was first moving up the levels, it was owned by Edith Conyers, named Chessie System.  A black appaloosa.  Cathy loves how her assistant, Nikki Burns has been bringing Shack along up the l...

Send us Fan Mail Mindset-It’s your Attitude that makes your Altitude! Jess and Cathy discuss again, the loss of a pet, and what it’s like moving forward.  What can help in all aspects of our lives, is our mindset.   What are the good things that are going to happen today?—The mindset to look for those. What helps us also is to have people around us that can help give us confidence.  Jess hold the...

Send us Fan Mail Love Never Paws’s Cathy just lost her good dog, Cabi yesterday.  Our dogs are family members and enhance our lives.  They are our companions everyday.   They do communicate to us when it is time to let them pass.  It’s our last gift we give them. It is important to stay attuned to our own body and wisdom and trust those very important decisions in all different aspects of our live...

Send us Fan Mail July 28, 2026 A New York Times article interviews professional athletes and asks, “What is one bit of advice that helped them the most?”.  Cathy and Jess sit down and discuss those and how they pertain to your success in life and in sport.  All of these things can help you— in just being you, and how you can enjoy where you are and what you are doing, no matter what it is!   Theme...

Send us Fan Mail Connectivity-The Web of Life This morning Jess and Cathy are sitting around the kitchen table together.  Jess talked about being with family over the weekend, celebrating her Aunt Helen.   Cathy taught at the International Pony Club Festival the previous weekend.   All throughout our lives, with family, with our work, with our hobbies, we make life-long connections.  Its important...

Send us Fan Mail Generosity-Makes Life Rich Jess and Cathy talk today about what it’s like to share.   Sharing knowledge, sharing skills.  Jess talks about sharing her horse Speedy this weekend with Kennedy for a clinic she was riding in.    She said, it was a “triple win”.  A “win” for herself to watch Kennedy and Speedy, a “win” for Kennedy to participate and learn, and ride a different horse th...

Celebrating Connection—Conviviality! Jess and Cathy talk about how rich it is to be involved with others,—having the connection to other peoples stories.  It is so fun to be able to celebrate the successes of others!  Jess did a cooking class with Quita Michel.  Ouita mentioned often the good things that food brings to people and used the term ‘conviviality’.  Ouita said that she feels that conviv...

Having the Right Tools in the Toolbox! Jess and Cathy continue talking about fear, and what can help us move out of it.  It is important to educate yourself and get as much information and skills that you can.  They are great tools in your toolbox to help you overcome fear. You get to move into the fear, and the more you take those steps, the easier it is to cast off the lines and move off the doc...

It’s All Good   The Power of Positivity!   Jess and Cathy talk about how important it is to look at the bright side of things—the glass is half full versus half empty.   Cathy is known for saying, “It’s all good”—in her conversations.  She thinks it’s from the “Life is Good” theme t-shirts.  Even if something goes wrong, it can turn out good, there is a remedy or solution. They give lots of exampl...

FEAR-Face Everything and Rise A listener requested we talk about fear.  We feel this when we think something bad is going to, or might happen.   Jess talks about where that that fear lives in our brain—in the Limbic region.  It does not speak a language there—it messages us with images or sensations.  Our brain wants a story and sometimes it confabulates something that could be false.  We can chan...

Cathy and Jess talk this morning about preparation.  Preparing correctly helps you live in the moment, knowing that you are ready—   Jess is taking her boat, The Relation Ship back to Canada at the end of June.  She has made sure the boat was “summerized”—the wheel bearings done on her trailer, and the brakes looked at.  Her truck just was serviced.   They keep lists of things that need to be done...

Reunions of our People and Places It’s Monday, June 1, Jess just had her 50th high school reunion festivities, and Cathy had a weekend Horse Trial at the Indiana Hoosier Horse Park.  They talk about the people, and the stories.  Cathy has been here in Kentucky for 48 years teaching and training. There is a beauty in knowing people for that many years.   Jess graduated from Sacred Heart Academy in...

   Being Brave comes in all ways Being brave comes in all forms—Cathy pushing her transmission temperature as she goes up a hill in West Virginia, to riding at upper levels around a cross country course.  It could be having that tough conversation, making changes in your life that you have never known before—   One thing about it, being brave is contagious.  When you are brave it helps all the peo...

Getting Tools for Life!   It is all about relationship.  Jess and Cathy are so grateful to have learned tools that help them.  We don’t know what we don’t know!  Early in their relationship, when Jess was getting her Masters of Social Work, she learned about the Getting the Love You Want work of Harville Hendrix.  She and Cathy went to a weekend workshop in the Maggie Valley of North Carolina.  It...

May 11, 2026  Staying Connected Jess and Cathy have shared their lives together for 32 years, and oftentimes they are not physically in the same space.  They have learned what they need to do in an intentional way to stay connected.  There are also the people in their lives, both personal and business that they make sure they have the times for.  What traditions and in what ways do you stay connec...

Endings Lead to New Beginnings Jess and Cathy discuss the circle of life—when one thing ends, a new beginning starts.  They reflect on their careers—how there are different phases.  Cathy grew into being an upper level competitor and that entailed going to Florida 8 weeks during the winter, renting a barn, being closer to her instructors that teach upper level competitors.  She taught less, she di...

The Good Stuff and the Hard Stuff—always best when we are connected. Jess and Cathy share their highs and lows from the past weekend.  The “Best Weekend of the Year”—the Kentucky Three-Day Event was this past weekend.  It is a five star event—bringing the best riders from the world. Cathy is involved with her expertise in course design, helping repair any footing and jumps that might get compromis...

Growing up the Same House my whole life Jess and Cathy continue talking about their childhoods.  Unlike Cathy moving around every 2-3 years, Jess grew up in the same house her whole life.  9114 Darley Drive.  She even remembers her phone number. No matter where you live, childhoods are full of all kinds of experiences growing up—cousins, neighborhood friends, family activities.  They shape who we...

Growing up Everywhere!  Perspective is Everything! Cathy claims that growing up with her Dad as a Navy pilot and moving every two or three years was a wonderful adventure!   In this episode, she recounts hopscotching different places in the country, including three years in Northern Ireland.   Her Mom got into training ponies as a little girl, and the stint in Ireland gave her certification teachi...