The Undone

Hi besties! I'm back in your ears with a mini dating diary confession AND some exciting news. We've got a brand new podcast for you. It's called Things You Didn't Learn In School and you can listen to it right now!  Listen on Spotify here Listen on Apple here We learned a lot of things in school that we’ve never actually needed to know in real life. Meanwhile, important things like how to nail a j...

After 67 episodes (14 recorded from home) The Undone is coming to an end. In this final episode, Lucy and Em reminisce on some of their favourite memories, from the funniest to the most important. But don't worry, Lucy and Em aren't going anywhere. You can follow them on Instagram at @emilyvernem and @lucymneville to keep up with what they're up to. Thank you to all our listeners for tuning in eve...

'Pegging', Thanks to Married At First Sight (MAFS) is currently trending in google searches. But don't worry, we've got you sorted and we're going to save you that google search. So what is pegging and how do you start the conversation with a sexual partner around it?  Also, Em gets vulnerable with us and shares more on her vaginismus PLUS a Dating Diary of her very own. Was Em 'love bom...

When you're on your period, is sex off the table for you? Or are you extra horny? There should be no stigma around period sex, but it can be daunting. So, Lucy has put together a bunch of tips to make that time of the month extra pleasurable, as well as clear up some misconceptions. Also, Em and Lucy answer a listener dilemma from someone who's (smaller) friend called themselves 'fat' and wants th...

This week we thought Lucy hijacked our confessions form (which you can submit to here ). But it turns out the fear of running into your ex is so much more common than we thought.  And, a worthy and necessary tone shift: Em shares a story about famous Australian-Indian actor Pallavi Sharda's recent upsetting experience after being told by a hair removal salon that she had too much hair on her...

Have you ever used a dating app? While a lot of us have, some people are just getting on them for the first time (or re-downloading them). Emily and guest host Emma Gillespie discuss how to create an authentic profile, the red flags to watch out for and what to expect from the people on them. Also, guest host Emma NEEDS to talk about an article she read recently, written by an intern in New York w...

Emily has brought her own Dating Dilemma to this episode of The Undone, after she matched with a friend's brother on a dating app. She wants to know, is it ever ok to date your bestie's brother, or is it asking for trouble? Also, these days it's pretty standard procedure to split the bill after the first date. But considering that the wage gap in Australia still exists, and the cost that goes into...

You've probably heard of your Love Language, but what about your Argument Style? According to  this article , knowing how you argue could be the key to a happy relationship. Em and Luce break down the six styles PLUS how to have a healthy fight with the people in your life that you care about. Also, according to TikTok, "Twee" is back (if you don't know what that is, think Peter Pan collars,...

This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. A few months ago we released an episode called When The Cringe Keeps You Up At Night, about those embarrassing moments that don't leave your brain. You loved our cringy stories so we thought we'd bring you a whole episode that'll have you wincing in second hand embarrassment. THE END BITS...

Happy Holidays! This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. It's the segment we get the most submissions, feedback and laughs from, Dating Diary! We get so many stories to our Anonymous Confession Form that we wanted to fill a whole show with your tragic, hilarious stories. Em and Luce read stories about dates that end in anaphylac...

Happy Holidays! This holiday season we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. This episode, it's all about Em's unpopular opinions. We all know she loves dropping a controversial opinion, so she rounds up the ones that got the most heat online, plus a few of our listeners spicy thoughts. Also, we dive a little deeper on an unpopular opinion of a lis...

Happy Holidays! It's almost Xmas so we thought we'd treat you with a few bumper episodes of some of our most popular segments. First up, Lucy's thoughtful (and admittedly unqualified) advice. We get tons of dilemmas from listeners, so we break down her most asked questions about body image, breaking up a share house, dropping out of uni, plus Em's most requested advice about dating with strict par...

Have you heard of No Date December? Probably not, because it's something Em made up. She refuses to date anyone in December because of something called 'Wedding Reception Syndrome'. Plus, we look back at the year that was with The Undone Unwrapped, including how many listeners wrote in to tell us they had vomited on someone's penis (way too many).  And we read a Dating Diary from a listener w...

In this episode with special guest host Emma Gillespie, Lucy and Emma break down the clues on someone's social media that they've been dumped, from the meaningful quote, to the hot selfie, to dying your hair blonde.  Plus, after such a rough year, we're focusing on Xmas gifts that cost little to no money, because who needs the added stress. And Emma tells a dating diary about the time she got...

2021 is almost in the rear view mirror and we are not looking back. This year we've  seen some dating trends we never want to encounter again, so Em breaks them down, from the ridiculous to the insidious. Plus, we all have some toxic traits when in relationships (except Em, apparently). Whether it's giving the silent treatment, starting a fight on purpose or asking a question you don't want t...

How do you feel about dating post-lockdown? Most of us are excited to date, but also want to just spend time with our friends, and have also forgotten how to date properly and don't know what we want out of it. In other words, we're confused. Em has discovered a new dating trend she thinks sums up these feelings. Plus, we need to discuss the dating PR campaign. It's when you tell your friends you'...

Have you heard of Authority Anxiety? Maybe you haven't heard of it, but a lot of us have felt it. It's a very specific anxiety that many people feel when they talk to people like doctors, police, teachers and their boss, and we need to talk about it. Plus, last week Kendall Jenner wore a dress to her bestie's wedding that really stole the stole. It infuriated Lucy so we have a chat about some othe...

Dating with an STI can be hard, but it's definitely not uncommon. This week, we explore the stigma related to STIs and get some advice from a listener who has been dating with her herpes diagnosis for 4 years, and speak to Dr Ginni Mansberg about how to make sure you're practicing safe sex. Plus, Em breaks down the four stages of grieving a situationship, aka a relationship that never passed the c...

What’s the difference between Main Character Energy and Main Character Syndrome? And is it really a bad thing to have MCE? Plus, Em is back to dating and has trusted her gut when it comes to deciding whether to continue seeing someone (well, kind of), and Lucy reads a dating diary story from a listener who had a bloody good one night stand at a festival. The End Bits  Listen to Emily an...

It's our 50th episode! So we thought we'd answer one of the questions Emily and Lucy are asked most: how does having a sex and dating podcast affect your dating life? Plus, we discuss a very common dilemma amongst our listeners; what if you don't like your friend's partner? It's not an easy situation to navigate but we have some advice. And we're joined by Will McMahon from KIIS FM's drive show, W...

Our confessions form (which you can submit to here ) has been overflowing with hilarious stories lately, and there's one type of experience that we keep getting over and over...people vomiting on d**ks. It's inspired us to release this bumper episode on all things oral sex. Lucy tells us about her first experience giving head (if you can call it that), plus we read some of our audiences funniest s...

Have you heard of 'meditative orgasms'? They're orgasms you can achieve with your mind, without touching your genitals at all. Emily gave it a go and the results were, well, explosive. She describes exactly how to achieve this "12/10 experience". Plus, a tweet about the weirdest thing we've gotten in trouble for at work had Em and Lucy laughing, and reflecting on times they've gotten in trouble (p...

On the 11th of October, it's the International Day of The Girl, our favourite day of the year. To celebrate, Emily and Lucy chat about advice they'd give their younger selves, from "you've got this", to "don't dye your sideburns". Plus, what does your phone's note app say about you? Some people use it for shopping lists, but some of us use it to draft break up messages, write down their manifestat...

There are two types of friends, and Emily and Lucy are opposites. Emily believes in friendship minimalism; culling friends that don't spark joy. However Lucy disagrees, and reckons that friends from all walks of life can be valuable. Which one are you? Plus, we dissect the '75 HARD' challenge that has been making the rounds on TikTok for what it really is; disordered eating. Lucy opens up about he...

This week, we had a listener contact us about this feeling they had that this pandemic had stolen a huge part of their 20s, and we have to agree. Our 20s are meant to be a time of traveling, hooking up and making mistakes, so how do we reconcile the loss of that? And is there anything we've gained instead? Also, we bring you a bumper recommendation segment of all our favourite sex accessories, fro...