The TEA & COGNAC Session

HAPPY JUNETEENTH ‼️ #JubileeDay #FreedomMonth ❤️🖤💚 It's been a full month in #SpringfieldMissouri Of celebrating and learning. How did you celebrate??? I did my best to be everywhere and do everything - But we have much work to do. Community efforts are still struggling because very few want to work together. My question has become what are you in it for? #Status #Money #Sex How can we do better...

***Disclaimer*** @Spotify DID NOT make this takeover from @Anchor a smooth transition AT ALL. No background music AGAIN. And I'm not recording it. June 1st, 2024 We acknowledge 103 years ago #BlackWallStreet was bombed due to hatred and racism. So we're STILL HERE - People of Color. How are you making your money? Who do you want to be? As we navigate #EmotionalIntelligence #Barriers #SelfCare I AM...

#Home The Midwest. The Gateway to the Ozarks. Queen City...Springfield, Missouri. Is a beautiful place...but why is it so beautiful. Because my ancestors were the fertilizer. The deep dark history STILL haunts this region just as the #OklahomaMassacre #TheDevilsPunchBowl or the #PhiladelphiaBombing "If this land could speak, it would cough up blood first." We haven't come so far. And we're not tha...

6in, 7in, 8in MARCH!!! LETS TALK ABOUT SEX BABY. Everybody is so scared of this subject. Not me. Alpha vs. Beta #NapoleonComplex Little Man Syndrome- discussions and conversations MUST be had. I've gotten too old and tired to play coy or scared.

Part II. A Melaninated Woman raising a young Melaninated Man in Springfield, Missouri- a not so diverse place is a challenge within its self. Taking care of kids in #2024 IS NOT for the faint of heart with cell phones and the internet ruling as King. Hoodies and Attitude is what teenagers have to offer these days. The Mama/Daughter relationship is very different from Mama/Son speaking from my own...

Part I| I am a Mother, Professional, and individual. I wear many hats in a day hints the name #TheJillofMOSTTrades. Do you know who you are? Acquiring #emotionalintelligence to better understand my value in my relationships is a necessity. I talk about my lessons and losses in my own journey to reparent myself and setting new boundaries, rather it’s dealing with family, romantic relationships, or...

When did you create your vices? Was it out of trauma? TELL THE TRUTH, SHAME THE DEVIL!!! Mine was created out of burnout which turned into coping. Operating at a higher frequency requires intentional work and #Selfcare: Acceptance Boundaries Communication and Discipline. This is spiritual warfare people! How are you arming yourself?

How are you filling your cup up in 2024? What does healing and resetting look like for you? For me…I’ve had to focus on my mental health and what I am feeding to it. Are you praying/meditating daily? Exercising? Acquiring knowledge? Being creative? Working in your purpose/calling? As a single parent and Black professional in today’s society, I have to find a healthy balance to life. I recently rec...

Welcome back! Welcome back! WELCOME BACK!!! This is your girl O’Brien aka OB aka O coming to you with Season 5 of The TEA and COGNAC Session. Kansas City raised, born in Springfield Missouri- with Tennessee roots- I AM the Jill of MOST Trades. Over the years I’ve talked a lot about Self-Care, Generational curses, and finding our purpose- and these conversations must continue. This season I’ll cove...

Welcome back to Season 4 of The TEA and COGNAC Session. I am your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. Today we're talking about the "Blood Covenant"- The Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Bonds of loyalty and choice are stronger than mere genetics. #GangGangGang #Clique #Squad So many quick to claim titles, but do you you even know how to be a friend? Let alone a partner? Who wer...

A very uncomfortable subject is abuse...and the different types of it. Physical and Psychological have serious effects on ones well being #GasLighting #Projecting #SilentTreatment #Intimidation are all forms of abuse- tools used to control and manipulate ALL AGES. It is said emotional abuse can be the most damaging as it doesnt leave physical proof of pain and is harder to prove. I am working on m...

Do you know how much energy and efforts have been put into dismantling the Melaninated household?#GenerationalCurses #AmeriKKKasAgenda A whole agenda to break unity in the Black/Brown home. #GloriaSteinem #Journalist #CIAagent #Spook did a great job leading the #FeministMovement and tearing Black men from the family dynamic and ultimately destroying Black Wealth. Its not enough that we [Melaninate...

Were you allowed to have a voice as a little boy or girl? Seen but not heard was the standard for many decades. But if we couldn't "Express" yourself- how did that effect your self-image/self-worth? Are you a Tomboy or a boy that liked playing dress up? Did you grow up bullied, confused, or shamed? So many questions, but this is just another rabbit hole to "Generational Curses". The first step is...

It's summertime [2021] and it's time for shorts, skirts, and sundresses! BUT are you dressing classy or trashy? My good friend "E" hops on today's episode and tells us about a recent incident with a fellow Black man. EVERYBODY has an opinion, but should you really care how you're being viewed? In a time where everything is acceptable and cool- there's a fine line with being a victim of sexual hara...

Learning to fill my own cup back up!!! My steps to Disciplining MY LIFE...35 hit different. I guess that light bulb finally clicked on- feeling like I wanna act like I've learned a few things. 1. Know Thy Self- What do you believe in? [Faith vs. Morality vs. Religion] Protect your #Aura and #Energy 2. Diet and Exercise- You are what you eat. 3. Creative Time/Community Involvement 4. Business Endea...

TODAYS HISTORY LESSON... so we can really talk about our triggers and traumas OH MY. AmeriKKKas legacy is the pain, destruction, and dysfunction created on this land. Why does AmeriKKKa hate the Melaninated ones? According to Prophecy we are the original people. And centuries of terror and violence against us has sent us to the "Sunken Place" mentally- collectively. It's time to discuss how the Bl...

Season 3 Episode 1 WELCOME BACK to a new season of The TEA and COGNAC Session. This is your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. The Jill of MOST Trades. As we continue the journey of healing, I am still pulling back layers for my own growth. My Family and/or healthy social supports, My brands and/or financial security, and last, but not least my Self-Care are "The Focus". What is your focus? Dont forget Am...

This is your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. Returning for Season 2! the love is so fake and the Hate is so REAL! YET I HERE I STAND. My mouth is COLD BLOODED and most don'tlike it. COVID-19 Pandemic, 2020 Politics, Personal Growths & Struggles, Healthy Social Supports, BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY Know they self. Build you up and FOCUS ON YOUR BRAND.

We've been discussing Self-Care A LOT. What did we learn??? Last year was rough. Lots of L's [Lessons & Losses] How are we moving forward this year? "I REFUSE TO BE UNHAPPY!" #All2020

Self-worth =value= Self-esteem. 80/20 Rules. Do you have confidence in your own abilities and worth? Have you created boundries and standards for yourself? Do you know that's it's ok to love yourself too? Choose you over the BS. You are worthy.

Tradition: passed down customs and beliefs. What if your legacy is a lie though? What are we really passing down??? Generational Curses.

Trauma: deeply distressing or disturbing experience. PSTD is NOT a mental illness, but a psychological injury. Identify your triggers and where they originate from. Fight/Flight/Freeze is real!

Taking back your POWER. What does it mean? Power=control=influence. Don't dim your light so someone else doesn't feel threatened or insecure. FIND YOUR VOICE! Own your truth and claim no fear. "NO SACRIFICE, NO VICTORY" If it's worth it, then you'll fight for it. That's who I know I am.

Burn-out: a state of emotional & physical exhaustion caused by prolonged periods of stress and/or frustration= Depression=mood disorder. Is this normal? What are the side effects? Are you taking care of your mind, body, and soul? Its all about Self-Care.

Girl Code, Bro Code, Moral Code, Hoe Code- where's the honor amongst thieves??? Dating your ex's friend?😮 Its a new day, but we need old school rules back!