The Queer Confidence Podcast

I've been cooking up something super fun for the month of June to bring more confidence and self-esteem to Pride Month. This the very first podcast challenge! Pride month is an amazing time of celebration and reflection and recognition. And the LGBTQIA+ community is made of up individuals with real stories which often aren't shared. This June we are taking things below surface level and...

You're about to get some solid relationship advice out of an argument my mom and I had on the road. It started off with a lot of anger towards each other, but by the end of it we both felt closer and more trusting of each other. You're going to be able to take this little gold nugget of wisdom into your family too, and your friendships, and your romantic partnership(s). Cheers to feeling...

Today I share with you the $2,000 DRAMA the day before my move which nearly delayed it by a week. It turned into one of the most perfect scenarios though, and reminded me yet again of a very important life lesson I seem to forget. Plus listen to the first recording on the road from day two of our drive. It's a weird mix of experiences intertwined with CrossFit, but not the working out part of...

I am so thrilled to begin this multi-episode series with you today! As you know, I recently moved from Maryland to California and it has been quite the adventure! The growth, the fear of change, the very rocky start less than 24 hours before we hit the road which nearly postponed the trip, the drama on the road, the heartache of being so far from everything and everyone I've known. *takes an...

Asking for support is one of the most difficult things. Especially in Western culture, we like to take pride in what we can do on our own. And I know I am guilty of thinking that confidence and self-sufficiency requires meeting my own needs. In today's episode learn what meeting your own needs actually means (because it does not mean living in a bubble, or never receiving support). True confi...

In this episode, we're talking about how to address your obnoxious, judgmental parents. AND we're talking about that really annoying gift they gave you of their voice in your head... you know. That inner critic that sounds just like dad when he saw you playing dress-up and you were wearing the princess Jasmine gown. Yeah. That voice. Today you'll learn exactly how to get rid of the...

This episode might piss you off because it's a blow to the ego. It'll require you to hear some things that will at first shock you, and likely annoy the F out of you. ...but only because it's true. If you have the bravery to stick with it, you'll come out the other side WAY more confident, and WAY more self-loving. You up for the challenge? Get full show notes and more info her...

Today I want to share with you one of the most confidence-boosting experiences I have had in a long time. Have you ever thought of booking yourself a nude or boudoir photoshoot? Are you feeling like you'd need to be a lot more confident before booking? Well, waiting till you feel more confident is actually preventing you from becoming more confident! In this episode, peek behind the scenes wi...

In today's episode, I want to share with you how I magnetically attract friends. This topic came up by request through my Instagram stories. So here it is! I want to give you the beliefs and habits that allow me to walk into rooms of strangers and instantly make friends. This happens for me alllll the time now. But it wasn't always this way. When you implement the tips in today's ep...

Patience, what a f***ing frustrating concept. Yuck. I’ve had to practice it a lot recently, with my business fail, Gideon’s injury, and especially with my move from Annapolis to San Diego. So in today’s episode, I want to take you through how I’ve been using the Confident Queer process so you can do it too. This will forever change your opinion of patience, and hopefully make it a fun, dark, kinky...

Whoa!! Today we covered a lot of ground. I can't wait for you to hear from Chuck as he shares his story of overcoming shame about his autism, parenting, polyamory, and so much more. If you're working on releasing shame in any area of your life, this episode is it!! And if you're in a polyamorous relationship or thinking about it, you're really going to appreciate Chuck's i...

If you have felt othered by spirituality or religion because of your queerness, this episode is for you. When I was in San Diego a month ago I met this awesome, magical, soul in a Kava bar. She showed me around Hillcrest, introduced me to LOTS of people, and helped me feel right at home. We had deep conversations on life and spirituality in less than an hour and I was like "OMG, you gotta be...

Every problem in relationships (romantic or otherwise) traces back to your sense of worthiness. When you are trying to earn your worth, you show up inauthentically, you people please, and you end in resentment. In today’s episode, you’ll understand what it means to see yourself as 100% worthy, just as you are. And when you do, you’ll find it much easier to ask for what you want and to have your ow...

In this episode, my client Brian Grainger shares how he's used my Confident Queer Process to release control and attract clients, friends and partners. He also shares tips that he uses with his weight loss clients that will work in dating, moving, business, and just about every area of your life. MIND BLOWN. Plus Brian share's a brand new idea I've never heard of before: creating a...

Today I have my incredible client Victoria Jocko on the podcast to share how the Confident Queer process helped her gain confidence in her body and her relationship. She's actually an empowerment coach herself and I am delighted for you to get to hear her experience and her advice. We talk about polyamory, loving your body, and honoring your autonomy. Get full show notes and more info here: h...

In today's episode, we're going to explore how masturbation as a metaphor can increase your confidence... And how literally masturbating can too! If you want to get in on the next round of the Iconic Queer Mastermind and apply all these sexual metaphors to grow your business, add your name to the waitlist here:  https://coachalexray.com/iconic And if you want to experience this wild, sex...

On today's episode, learn how to find pleasure in your power AND your submission, as well as how to feel pain in a whole new, much less painful way. Every heartbreak, every loss, every asshole comment your boss makes, every time you catch yourself failing to stick up for yourself... will never again feel the same. Everything changes after today. Get the Confident As Fuck Workshop: https://coa...

You met her on Queer Eye Season 6, Her story had us balling our eyes out, She's strong AF! (inside and out) Today's episode will touch your soul as you get to know Angel Flores even deeper. She shares how she finds the confidence to speak up for herself. We discuss femininity and labels. And her experience as a trans woman in the sport of powerlifting. Plus Angel shares more details on t...

Kink is about finding play and pleasure and joy and satisfaction in the taboo, the uncommon, the weird, the naughty. Insecurity can only keep growing where you stay “safe” and “predictable”. Listen to today's episode to finally have the confidence to have nerve-wracking conversations, live more authentically, date your dream guy (or gal, or human), and even ask for what you want in bed. Get f...

Sensuality is not all about sex. In fact sex is just a very small part of what it means to be a sensual being. But I'll let my new friend Kerri Blankenship explain all that to you. Tune in to today's episode to connect with your sensuality on a whole new level. Plus learn how to experience everyday events in new, more life-giving ways. P.S. The Japanese concept I mentioned is spelled Ich...

Two weeks ago we talked about Glory Holes, now we are talking about Edging? What is this? I'll give you a little taste: When I learned to Edge in life, I had similar results to the bedroom. More joy. More desire. More passion. More explosive energy. And more glorious eruptions. It turned the process of dating, of building a business, and of showing up authentically into an ORGASMIC experience...

Whoa! Are you ready for today's guest?!?! I can talk with her about anything, And we frequently laugh till we cry... or pee our pants... or both 😂 My Grandma is on today's podcast. We talk about her life, me coming out to her, her love for the LGBTQIA+ community, advice for young singles, and... poppers??? You'll just have to listen. Join me on today's episode to catch all the...

It's that time of the year again when everyone is making vision boards, manifestation journals, and setting their goals. Today I'm not offering you a new system, there are way too many out there already. Instead, I want to offer you a different approach to your resolutions this year. We humans love to have control over everything. On one hand, it is incredibly beautiful that we are creat...

I am wrong sometimes. Maybe event oftentimes. And I have had some wild realizations about myself over the past month. Some of the things I saw I didn't like. In today's podcast episode, I want to make sure you know one thing above all else: Nothing I say (or that anyone says) is absolute Truth. You always have the power to take what you find helpful and toss the rest in the trash. And by...

On today's podcast, Confident Queer MaShawn Jones joins me again to give you alllllll the gold nuggets on what helped him become confident. MaShawn is standing up for himself in relationships and making bold career moves. He shares what it's like to be truly living authentically, and how you can be doing it too. AND he share's his mind-blowing takeaway from our last session together...