The Queer Confidence Podcast

The holiday season is upon us. And with it, the stress of family dynamics. So let’s talk about it. I’ve got a framework that’ll make it much easier for you to set boundaries. Let’s make that difficult conversation with mom, dad, grandma, whoever a bit easier so you can clear that elephant out of the room and enjoy their company a bit more. Enjoy! Get full show notes and more info here: https://coa...

Weather you're using social media to connect with people or as a way to make money, it's still requires you to put in labor. So how is this free labor affecting your overall "work load"? Can you spend time online without getting closer to burn out? And is the pressure to put on a show online eroding your authenticity? In this episode, we're exploring all that and more. If...

Today you get to meet my friend Chelsea Dickinson aka The Sabotage Queen. Every time we’ve FaceTimed we said, “why the heck did we not record this? People would PAY to listen in on our conversations! This shit is gold.” Sooooo now you do get to listen in, but for free! On today's episode we talk about how you should be more of a bitch on the internet, how to survive overwhelming amounts of at...

Today we’re going to wrap up this series on sex work.   I’m going to talk about a particular experience I had while Gogo dancing.  (So being a gogo boy isn’t exactly sex work but it’s still in the erotic industry, and the lesson still applies.) We’re going to look at how trauma holds you back from accepting support. We have all had trauma, it’s part of being a human. We also all deserve support. S...

I’ve got another episode for you from the porn industry.   This time I talked to Nico Nova, a model with a mission.  I can’t wait for you to meet him. Nico understands that humans have a complicated relationship with themselves and shame gets in the way.  He is out here creating porn to help people feel less alone and less shame. Combining porn and self development?  I’m absolutely here for it. I...

This week I have another episode in our gay porn series. This time with performer and creator Kaden Gray. We got to talk about so much, from gender identity to shame and sex to therapy. Kaden is a powerful creator and an amazing human being. Let’s be honest, when you hear the label ‘porn star’ you immediately put the person in a box.  Kaden is here, breaking out of the box. Enjoy. Get full show no...

We are in the middle of our gay porn series on the podcast, and this week I talked with Coach Nic. He is a Certified Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker and soooo much more. He’s an ex-priest who helps individuals heal sexual shame. And he supports models in the gay porn industry. This episode was so powerful. Coach Nic is a fabulous storyteller with a boat load of stories and amazing wis...

Today is the beginning of a brand new series where I’m taking you behind the scenes of the gay porn industry. You heard me right. This week we kick off with Davey Wavey. You may remember him from his days as a YouTube star. Now Davey owns a gay porn site, and produces scenes like you’ve never heard of before in the industry. Peek behind the curtain with me today and take your self pleasuring to a...

I want to introduce you to a concept that has been working really well for me and my clients lately. It’s a way to work with all the characters in your head, especially the ones you have shamed yourself for having (like your inner bitch). This method will help you handle difficult conversations, and make big decisions. It helped me work through my breakup. And it’s helped me draw boundaries with v...

This week it’s time to get real.  Lots of us have been in that slow slide down towards a rock bottom, sometimes for years (and years…) while a part of us watches and wonders if this is all we get.   Today I’m going to talk about what I learned about myself through and after all that pain.  Pain can teach us.  How we respond to pain is something we can change, if we want to. I’m inviting you, this...

This week’s podcast is about the rubber hitting the road.  In some ways, kinda literally!  I keep talking about having your own back, so let’s talk about one way that can, and did, happen in my life. I really love to support my friends, sometimes showing up in support ends up being more than I have capacity for.  Then there is the decision to stay or go. This week we’re going to talk through how t...

Today is a great day to talk about relationships.  In the movies and on TV, they all seem to just happen, as if by magic.  Two people in the right spot at the right time? Boom!  Done! There isn’t much we see, growing up or grown up about what it takes to be ready and actually available mentally and emotionally when that relationship does show up.  So I’m here, laying out what work I’ve done, and k...

This week let’s be in the moment.  I’ve got a moment of calm for you, and a moment on the relationship between discomfort and what’s happening around us.   When we’re in the uncomfortable moments, all we want is calm and quiet.  Then it seems calm creates it’s own type of uncomfortable motivation to begin again. So let’s just take some space for being a messy human being.  It’s ok.  Whatever is ha...

I was thinking about you and about how s*x is one of the hardest (pun intended?) places to really feel confident.  So I decided to tell you 3 totally embarrassing stories about my s*x life. I wanted you to know that I’m out here living this confidence thing, getting uncomfortable and living to tell all the tales.  I really wanted you to know, so you can learn to do it too. Or maybe you just want t...

I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol! She is a marketing coach who walks the walk. And we had such a fun (and slightly anxiety inducing) conversation about the ways we’ve f***ed up and learned. Enjoy this conversation as we get a little naked, figuratively, and chat about our life and coaching experiences. Some of them were terrible and we’re not here to s...

I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol! She is a marketing coach who walks the walk. And we had such a fun (and slightly anxiety inducing) conversation about the ways we’ve f***ed up and learned. Enjoy this conversation as we get a little naked, figuratively, and chat about our life and coaching experiences. Some of them were terrible and we’re not here to s...

I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week.  My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett.   We started with hypocrisy, detoured through philosophy, got a little caught up with duality in coaching, cruzed around in sales processes and ended up with consent and so much more between.  It has been such a pleasure to be on her team and I’m thrilled to share her with...

I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week.  My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett.   We started with hypocrisy, detoured through philosophy, got a little caught up with duality in coaching, cruzed around in sales processes and ended up with consent and so much more between.  It has been such a pleasure to be on her team and I’m thrilled to share her with...

I have some story time for you this week.  We are headed back in time as we look at how this thing called relationship works, or doesn’t! The title is a giveaway so let’s cut to the chase, we broke up, of course.  Let’s chat about why and what I learned, all hanging out, with a bit of shade.  Mistakes were made, all over the place, on all sides.  That’s pretty normal, we all have our ‘stuff.’  The...

Here we go! It’s time for the conclusion to The Big Move.  Let’s wrap this up with a glittery bow and some reflection on shaking up my life, and yours. I know it feels far away to just jump off the board into the deep end and turn your life upside down.  Hell, I don’t think I knew what I was getting into and I went from one end of the country to the other.  That is ok.   The truth is, it’s all jus...

In this episode we're back to exploring my cross-country move. This week I share the last lesson from the road and a surprising twist on my relationship with my parents.  If you feel pressured to always be on social media, you’re going to find a huge relief in this episode too. As you listen along with my journey I hope you see that confidence isn’t something you achieve, it’s something you c...

What an episode I have for you!  Today we get stories, wisdom and way too much fun with The Old Gays.  Oh, and blindfolds, lots of blindfolds! They share so much, they’ve got stories from creating The Old Gays, to coming out and being queer in the 60s & 70s.   I can’t wait for you to get to know Jessay, Bill, Robert and Mick, the fabulous queens of The Old Gays.  They’re so passionate about me...

Today I want to celebrate with you the diversity of LGBTQIA+ identities in our beautiful community. I’ve got 6 guests, each with a unique story to share about finding and becoming themselves. This episode was amazing to record, each story has something to say about what it means to be queer. I hope you can find yourself here too. Or at least a part of your story. This is what pride is all about. W...

Have I got a treat for you this week.  In this episode I get to chat with Frank Smith, the creator and star of ‘Open To It’ a webseries about queer and polyamerous relationships.   I love how Frank is helping to shift our community’s narrative from one of suffering to one of thriving with love and openness. He’s got a really helpful perspective on centering joy in our lives.  And you’ll love his a...

Today I’ve got some help for my trans and genderqueer Unicorns when it comes to other people respecting our new pronouns.   Sometimes it can be tough to know why and how to confront the people in our lives who can’t seem to get on board with our new pronouns.  Internet advice abounds but how much of it feels really doable? If you’re not trans, or don’t have pronoun problems, this one's for yo...