The Pretender

Jay talks about the challenge of waiting in life; particularly for things outside of your control. He shares why he sucks at it and some of his experiences with being in the waiting room of life. No magic trick or tips here, just my take on it. The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled " 1000 Feet" Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your...

Jay talks to Jonathan Mundia Manenga about his unique real life journey. He shares an amazing, inspiring story and experience of determination in which he worked his way from someone who was going nowhere to someone with a real destination. Resources & Links: The real-life show Tim Ferriss' podcast equipment Kalabo, Zambia Quotable : "My definition of success is the pursuit of your purpose, if...

Jay and Mandy continue the conversation on mental health particularly how Christians deal with mental health, Multipotentiality, Mandy's work - the Moose, the Elephant and the duck. So much more exciting conversations including the Letter Mandy wrote to Jay back in 2016. Resources & Links: Multipotentiality Yinu custom creatives Broadreach PATH Quotable: "There are some things you thrive by le...

I talk to Mandy Dube about her experience juggling life as top executive, wife & mother. She shares the impact of her Mother's death by suicide that led her to facing her own mental health challenges openly and much more. Resources & Links: Book - Love Must be tough Transformation Prayer Ministry Magnesium bath Rainbow baby Quotable : "You cannot solve a problem under the same circumstance...

Jay talks about perfectionism in his life and why he struggles with trying to be perfect. He shares a real chicken and dog story when it all came to a head and how he finally decided to be free of it, or trying to be free of it at least. The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet" Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questio...

Jay talks about personal life cycles and how his understanding his own 4 year life cycles have helped him embrace the transitions both in business and personal life. He also talks about the cycle of friends, the role the play in phases of life and letting go of people when their purpose has been fulfilled in your life. Finally, Jay addresses the impending shift of life that is dawning on his life...

In this special; Pete talks about fasting, Mental health, quitting alcohol and how he found a final home in Zambia. Resources & Links: Dr. Gabor mate Book Jay mentioned (There is a City…There is a Temple - Elizha) Mental Health Fasting Pete's favorite local snack Quotable: "Humility comes from knowing that you don't have a home" -Pete Show notes: Fasting (5:00) Quitting Alcohol (17:34) Mental...

Jay and his good friend Pete continue their conversation where they left off on plant based diet more about everything from parenting , permaculture homeschooling and much more. Resources & Links: Plant based diet Permaculture Geoff Lawton Zaytuna farm ACE homeschool curriculum Solwezi, NW Lusaka Show notes: Plant based diet (1:30) Permaculture (7:30) Homeschooling (25:00) Homeschool and Socia...

In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks to his good friend Pete about his experience leaving the corporate and western life to move to Africa, Pete shares about everything from parenting to plant based diet, permaculture and much more. Resources & Links : Plant based diet Forks over knives Chris Paul Show notes: Peter (1:37) Moving to Africa (10:03) Wife's role and strength (15:14) Parenti...

In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about social media, his little history with early social platforms and why he is not on social media anymore. Resources & Links : The messaging network itsmy Waptrick MySpace Show notes: Looking back on 2021 (1:42) A/S/L (Age/Sex/Location) (5:05) Facebook (11:42) Disconnected (19.19) Emojis and smileys (22:12) LinkedIn (28:30) Breaking out: (31:47) I...

In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about the challenge of starting over when something doesn't work…picking yourself up when you fall to try something else in your life (resilience) Resources & Links : The valley of bitterness, child loss and how I got free The google blog platform Word press Show notes: New beginnings are part of life (2:10) There are no guarantees (5:05) Starting ov...

In this emotional episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about his struggle with bitterness after losing a child and how he got free. Resources & Links : Thi'sl The song Be King The Movie Saving Private Ryan How a man handles miscarriage Show notes: Bitterness and resistance to let go (2:42) Letting go with the help of my wife (6:08) The throne I had is fallen here (8:11) Forgiving yourself and o...

In this episode I talk about how following your own path or dream can be a lonely walk. How taking a different route in life brought experiences of loneliness, and how finding people with similar stories can be overwhelming. I share how I've dealt with these experiences. The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled " 1000 Feet" Note: I don't host a "comments" section,...

In this episode I talk about my experience in searching for a purpose and the meaning of life. I also touch on the views of some of my favorite philosophers on this subject, which Philosopher I think tops them all and some tips on how you can focus on the moments of life instead of searching the mysteries of life. If you enjoyed this podcast please rate, review and subscribe on iTunes Help me grow...

In Part 2 of the Journey of an imposter, I talk about the reason we mask our struggles. I also address why and how our attitudes can be better to those who are brave and willing enough to share their struggles. Then I share why I do my best to not mask my struggles. If you enjoyed this podcast please rate, review and subscribe on iTunes The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents...

Jay discusses, his experience in being comfortable about Life's struggles, what it means to feel like an imposter as well as the importance of gratitude in life. The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled " 1000 Feet" Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questions and insights via email, at jacobsiwiti@acquifersolutions.com

Look out for the very first episode, launching soon!