The Paradigm Shifts Podcast Network

I've noticed that some of my biggest accomplishments have been followed by unexpected challenges. In this conversation, I'm sharing my experiences with spiritual isolation, healing, creating meaningful work, and learning to recognize the lessons behind difficult situations. I'm also reflecting on my time leading a church hospitality team and what that experience taught me about service...

My journey toward spiritual healing began with experiences I never imagined I would have to face. My first husband suffered a massive stroke, and I found myself trying to manage everything while feeling helpless because I couldn't change what had happened. After that marriage ended, I remarried. Approximately one year later, my second husband was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Once again,...

In Part Two of my healing journey, I'm continuing to open up about the experiences that brought me to where I am today. I talk about how I spent years trying to fix other people because I didn't want to face my own emotional pain. I share what I learned from difficult relationships, the people I trusted who hurt me, and the process of recognizing my own worth. I also explain why I believe...

I never thought I would be sitting here talking openly about spiritual healing, energy clearing, and everything I've experienced along the way. After sharing a video about the body's natural ability to heal, I received so many questions from people wanting to know how. But before I go further into my techniques, I want to explain how this journey started. In Part One, I'm opening up ab...

I'm exploring something I've been curious about: whether emotional experiences and the energy I associate with them may influence my hair. In this conversation, I walk through my clearing process, explain how I use muscle reflex testing and restore codes, and share why emotional awareness has become such an important part of my personal practice. I'm not asking anyone to accept my inte...

In this episode of The Spirit Speaks, I'm talking about relationship compatibility, personal standards, energetic alignment, and the importance of recognizing your worth before expecting someone else to recognize it. I'm sharing my experiences with accepting the wrong relationships, learning to establish boundaries, and recognizing when someone is a client rather than a friend. I'm als...

I had a download this morning that made me look at leadership, accountability, and the responsibility I've been carrying throughout my life in a completely different way. For ten years, I worked with someone who taught me that everything was my responsibility. I had to anticipate problems, pay attention, and make sure everything was done correctly. What I now understand is that he wasn't t...

When you're standing in front of another person, you're not just dealing with who they are today. You're dealing with all the experiences that helped shape them. Some people are still holding on to the way things were decades ago. Others are responding to situations through the experiences of their five-year-old or seven-year-old selves. In this conversation, I talk about how those exp...

Building Your Empire and Finding Real Love I've reached a point where I understand that my role isn't to fix people. It's to teach you how to use your own blueprint and recognize that you have the ability to create the life you want. In this conversation, I'm talking about the price we pay for the things we desire, including meaningful love and partnership. I believe you have to be...

Every relationship comes with some kind of emotional investment, but not every relationship is worth the price you're paying. In this clip, I'm talking about why becoming your own safe space gives you a baseline for recognizing healthy connections. When someone enters your life and adds to the peace you've already created, that's a relationship worth nurturing. But when someone rep...

This message is for someone who grew up with one parent who left and another who stayed, but never really felt safe with the parent who remained. I'm challenging the idea that staying automatically makes someone a good parent. If your parent carried the responsibilities of two people and gave you the love, protection, and support you needed, they deserve double honor. But if the parent who sta...

Have you ever questioned whether you were sabotaging yourself without considering where that doubt came from? In this class, I'm taking you deeper into something I've learned through my own experiences: the words we receive from other people can influence how we feel about ourselves, our goals, and our decisions. I explain how I've experienced the effects of other people's language...

I had to face the fact that I wanted success, recognition, and growth, but I wasn't consistently putting in the work. I wasn't locked in. I also started recognizing a pattern when I shared my plans with certain people. Things would slow down, I would lose momentum, or I would start feeling exhausted. In this conversation, I talk about taking responsibility for my own progress, protecting w...

I had to learn the difference between telling people what I was working on and showing them what I actually built. For a long time, I talked about my plans before they were ready. I shared what I wanted to accomplish, what I was creating, and what I thought was coming next. Then I changed my approach. I stopped announcing everything and started doing the work. In this episode, I'm sharing what...

Have you ever had someone act like everything they have done for you means they should be allowed to cross your boundaries? In this episode of Walks with Kaila , I’m talking about the difference between appreciation and obligation. I can appreciate what somebody did for me without giving them unlimited access to my life. I can remember how they helped me and still decide that the way they are trea...

I used my Inner Child Oracle deck and muscle-tested to find out what age of me wanted to speak. The answer was two. Then I pulled four cards: I Am Wanted, Spend Time in Nature, Speak to Yourself With Kindness, and It’s Okay to Be Misunderstood. What started as an oracle reading became a much bigger reflection on learning to want myself after spending years feeling unwanted, becoming aware of how h...

For most of my life, when someone I cared about was struggling, insecure, overwhelmed, or simply having a bad day, I felt like it was my responsibility to make them feel better. I thought that was what love looked like. But I’m realizing there is a difference between caring about someone and taking responsibility for their emotional state. People are allowed to have their own difficult days. They’...

In this episode, I open up about an unspoken rule I learned very early in life: if the people around me weren’t okay, I wasn’t okay either. I talk about growing up around struggle, learning to read the room, feeling what other people were feeling, and how easily their emotional state became connected to my own sense of safety. Now, looking back as a parent myself, I can understand the adults who r...

For a long time, when I was not getting back what I needed in a relationship, I thought the problem was me. I thought maybe I had not done enough. So I gave more. I paid more attention. I remembered more. I showed up more. I tried harder. And what came back? A trickle. That is the part I had to learn. Someone giving you less is not automatically a sign that you should start giving more. Sometimes...

What happens when you realize you have spent years giving more whenever someone gave you less? In this episode, Kaila breaks down the difference between simply receiving and experiencing true reciprocity. From overgiving and breadcrumbing to the realization that you should not have to convince someone to choose you, care about you, or want to spend time with you, this conversation explores what ch...

Who taught you what family was supposed to look like? That question sits at the center of this conversation. Kaila New York explores how childhood, television, movies, generational expectations, and repeated family dynamics can quietly program our ideas about love, conflict, siblings, loyalty, and what we are supposed to tolerate from the people closest to us. If you see something enough times, yo...

What does a healthy relationship look like when you stop confusing love with self-abandonment? In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about conflict, repair, reciprocity, people pleasing, lived experience, and what it means to choose relationships where both people remain fully present. The goal is not a relationship where nobody ever disagrees. The goal is knowing how to come back together af...

Scorpios pay attention to patterns. We watch how you talk about your friends. We watch how you treat people when they are not in the room. We watch whether your face matches your words. Because if you have known somebody for twenty years and you are comfortable tearing them apart behind their back, why would I assume I am somehow exempt? That is the part people miss. You may never lie directly to...

Divine timing sounds peaceful until you are actually the person waiting. In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about both sides of the process. Sometimes there is still work to do. Healing. Clearing. Learning yourself. Becoming more aligned with what you say you want. Showing up for yourself in the ways you expect someone else to show up for you. But eventually, there can come a point where y...

Being driven, ambitious, self-focused, or even protective of your own needs does not automatically make you selfish. In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about the difference between healthy self-focus and unregulated self-centeredness, why over-attuning to everyone else can turn into martyrdom, and how she learned to make room for her own goals without abandoning her responsibilities. She a...