The Online Samosa

The Online Samosa 00:00 A Life decisions are not always right but should be guided in the right direction. Life decisions needs to be learnt, unlearnt, re-learnt and then again re-learnt, unlearnt, and re-learnt at least 3 times. Learning new things requires lowering our ego. 06:10 B Science behind Decision Making. We have to have muscle to stand against emotional gravity. Preyas is a term mention...

00:00 A We delay our goals sometimes to pursue our dreams. Dreams are the bigger goals. One should have the guts to accept and overcome the fears. 06:00 B Causes of Delaying the Dreams--- 1. I don't want to feel bad but want to feel strong. I want my feelings to be supporting my dreams. 2. Be result oriented and not feel good. 3. To prevent other people to hurt you from the past. 4. Want to im...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A People loose over small things. Serene action. Karma is when you take action, you get result. Karma is our friend. 05:00 B Causes of loosing over small things-- Every person is afraid of something; lack of solutions makes us look outside; Control on small things; Shame in childhood, no one helped solve the shame instead they were hard on the kid; unprocessed well of grief...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A Some behaviors of Emotionally Defensive person-- under confidence, they feel shame because some people can read them, need emotional alignment, feel people are cruel, feel they have the need to be defensive, feel they are not so smart and become introvert. 08:48 B Causes for this behavior-- emotional shame, someone has bullied them, lack of emotional education and emotion...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A We are born with Emotion Overflow. Managing Emotions. 05:00 B How to be happy and spread joy around us. 09:25 C We are pack animals and are emotional beings. 14:00 D DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitizing Remedy). Selfish and Self Centered people have the same problem of emotion overflow. 20:00 E DBT deals with combining opposites, awarene...

00:00 A Expressing our emotions. People hide the pain when angry. 05:00 B We can experience richer life in four different elevations. Three levels are known to everyone. The fourth one is when we rise above these three we experience that. 09:25 C Watch ourselves witnessing the events in our life. 14:25 D Joking and laughing about the pain in our life. How to learn to become better at expressing ou...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A How to respect your truth through trauma. 05:00 B Self Esteem issues. People do not like the spotlight on them. Our behavior should be such so that people can copy it including our children. 08:23 C Styles of Conversation. SOP- Standard Operating Procedure. 14:18 D Causes of Trauma-- Neurotic Parent, Trauma, and Treatment of Shame secret. Things should be discussed approp...

How are Fatigue and Mind related? The Online Samosa 00:00 A Fatigue or Tiredness. Serotonin is the happy hormone and Dopamine is the motivation hormone. 05:00 B Motivation. What are the coping mechanism for Fatigue?-- One eats junk food; Become high energy in front of people; Crave foods like red meat, processed foods, refined grains, high diary food; 12:00 C Coping mechanism for Fatigue---Addicte...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A What is the meaning of my life? We ask this question from ourselves. 05:00 B This question is always there and that is called the buzz. Four distinct stages/Ashram's: Student-- Brahmacharya (first 25 years of life), Householder-- Grahastha Ashram (second part of 25 years), Simplify--Vanaprastha (start to question meaning of life, remove distractions), Renunciate--Sany...

00:00 A No emergency but rushing is a learnt skill. At some point everyone picks up the behavior of paying less attention to someone as long as they are looking busy. 05:00 B Side Effects of Rushing to No Where. Hierarchy of Rules: Survival, Have to be Helpful. Self Awareness is becoming aware of these rules. We pick up some fears at a young age without becoming aware. Root of most people's is...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A Delayed Emotional Reaction and Rushing to No Where. Many events can lead to emotional reaction. 05:00 B Must know our reality and be in touch with it. 09:25 C Presence of Mind and Genuine Thank You. 15:00 D Cause for the wrong Emotional Delayed Reaction-- disassociation and hypervigilance. Emotion which we feel is not true. 20:00 E Team sports teaches controlled emotional...

Can we not succumb to our desires? The Online Samosa 00:00 A Three major techniques of not letting us succumb to desires. Switching to knowledge when needed is a skill/ ability. Emotional skill is extremely valuable. Renunciation is the FIRST method. 05:00 B SECOND method--What feels good and what is good for us. What is good in the long run and short run? Shreyas and Preyas. Values to feel good i...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A What is Desire. What are the 6 enemies of the Human Mind. Kama/Desire. We are constantly filling our desires. 07:24 B Sukh prapti and dukh navriti. Sukh means pleasure NOT happiness. Anand and Sukh are two different words. 09:25 C For every desire fulfillment there is a result in multiple layers. Two separate engines in our brain. 13:32 D First one is emotional engine and...

Interview with Mahesh Nihalani- the Community Director at Priya Living in Santa Clara, California, US. Priya Living is a Multigenerational Living with a special place for seniors. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Senior Living is a whole new category itself. In US there will be 40 million senior's by 2050 who will need assistance. Senior people have the need to learn new things. 05:15 B What are the...

How to understand others Emotions to become successful and appreciated. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Empathetic people are successful. Some Natural Biases---Cultivate curiosity. Step out of your comfort zone. Try to ask people how to improve. Don't be Judgmental. Healthy Elitism. Perfectionism. 07:00 B Non Judgmental Participation in difficult conversation makes an Empathetic person. 12:00 C Appr...

How to Gain and Maintain respect. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Gain in elevation will make the people respect you. Right actions towards people will make them respect. 05:00 B How to disagree with respect. It is easy to disagree disrespectfully. Don't apologize to avoid conflict. 11:00 C What is Respect. 14:00 D To Respect someone is to Level with them. One should know and live by the noble value...

The Online Samosa 00:00 A Different levels of awareness and growth. Levels of Evolution: Ignorance, Veiling, Projection, Indirect knowledge, Direct knowledge, Cessation of Grief, Deep satisfaction (Parmanand) 06:33 B How to get to the Parmanand level? The goal of fighting is not to feel good but a win win situation. Fear wants to make us feel good. Different types of fights. Open minded listener 1...

The different levels of Selfishness. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Three words: Selfish (Swarthee- materialistic, gaining material), Narcissist (Atma- mugdha) and Self Centered (Swa-kendrit). 04:33 B Different levels of Selfishness. Levels of Empathy changes the levels of selfishness. Mood dependent. Yoga (Mind and Body are integrated). 09:25 C Self Centered- only takes care of themselves. Concept of...

How to manage and able to see the Emotions? The Online Samosa 00:00 A Emotional training wheels are designed from 1-12 years of age. One must have enough knowledge to manage emotions. 05:00 B One must reach a different level of love with knowledge so that we do not generate negativity. 09:38 C Bullying. A bully suffers in their life. One must use the right vocabulary to express the emotion. Keep e...

Management of Emotions so that one can be successful. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Managing emotions so that we can get out of our emotional pain. Follow your passion with value. 04:20 B Emotion and Ego are always together. Sukh prapti, Dukh navriti. What makes you feel good and bad? 09:25 C Ego and Mind have no foresight, long term planning and no wisdom. 14:00 D Experiential Knowledge. 20:00 E Ego...

How to approach Worry and Stress. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Worry does not happen, we choose to do it. Good habits are key to success. We copy our parents habits. 05:00 B Worrying is a variety of thinking. Two types of goals: Real goal and the goal of 'I must feel good also'. Successful thinkers separate their goals from thinking. 09:00 C When we are unable to live with a problem, then we...

How Stress and Anxiety affects our daily life if not addressed the right way. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Stress, Worry, Anxiety causes aging, cardio related diseases. Two types of Stress: Eustress or good stress and bad stress. Stress for survival. Stress produces Cortizol. 05:00 B Why stress is good? How to Destress? It is taught. 09:25 C Stress affects the reproductive system, impact on heart blo...

Solutions for Worry, Stress & Anxiety. Starts with desire. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Everything starts with desire. We are born with needs which are not preprogrammed. We are born ignorant. 05:00 B Worry starts with memory. Memory imprints. We are seeking which is pleasant and avoiding which is unpleasant. Food, social interactions, learning interactions will result in series of thoughts which...

There are two major kinds of mentorship-- Professional and Lifetime. One has to be coachable to have a good mentor. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Around 37% of people professionally get a mentor. Help in learning the lessons to fight the unnecessary battles. Don't go to a wrong expert. One has to become coachable and they make success. Alexander's coach was Aristotle. Children guidance, spirit...

This can be a complex relationship. Mother-in-law's are not from hell! How to manage. Conflict and love. The Online Samosa 00:00 A Intro to MIL relationship. Double Ownership conflict. 04:00 B Double ownership causes "I'm right" syndrome. Power distribution. 09:00 C Power hierarchy lust. Long term love. Queen syndrome. 14:00 D Creating a Loving relationship with MIL. 20:20 E Clim...