The Mother Effen Me

My circle got smaller, but my peace got louder. In this episode, I open up about outgrowing friendships, overgiving, and what it took for me to stop chasing connections that weren’t being poured into the same way. I share the shift that happened when I started looking at how I was showing up, the moment I realized not everyone values communication and resolution the same, and how that changed what...

In this episode, i'm getting real about something I know a lot of us don't talk about enough, trust issues with friendships. From outgrowing people, feeling misunderstood after becoming a mom, to being called fake or too much, when your priorities shift, this episode dives into where those trust issues occurred from. I share my personal experiences with friendships that didn't grow wit...

Episode 13 hit different. I had a conversation with my daughters that I don’t think we talk about enough… not just guiding them, but listening to them. Hearing how they see me… how I make them feel, it was beautiful, emotional, and honestly a little humbling. Because sometimes we think we’re doing one thing, and they’re experiencing it in their own way. This one is for every parent who’s trying th...

When your circle gets smaller, everything gets clearer… but what happens when someone else’s stays strong? In this episode, I’m joined by someone who has been part of my life through many seasons. While my circle shifted quickly after becoming a mom, she shares a different experience, one of having a close, consistent circle. This conversation is about growth, friendship, motherhood, and the reali...

Breaking the cycles we didn’t choose, but inherited. In this episode, I talk about something many of us are quietly trying to do… break generational cycles. The habits we watched growing up. The patterns we normalized. The beliefs that were passed down long before we were even aware of them. Some things we carry forward with pride. Others… we decide have to stop with us. Today’s conversation is ab...

The guilt no one warns you about when you become a mother. In this episode, I sit down with my mom and we talk about the weight mothers carry that no one really prepares you for. The guilt of working. The guilt of resting. The guilt of wondering if you’re doing enough… or being enough. But our guilt looks different. My mom talks about the guilt tied to choices she made while raising us. And I talk...

Before motherhood, I was a different version of myself, free, spontaneous, and living a life without the constant weight of responsibility. In this episode of The Mother Effen Me Podcast , I sit with the Alyssa I used to be and reflect on how becoming a mom completely reshaped my identity, my friendships, my energy, and even the way I see the world. I share the challenges of balancing work, life,...

In this deeply honest episode of The Mother Effen Me Podcast, I sit down with my longtime friend Jazz (aka Labella Jew) to talk heartbreak in all its form, romantic, friendship, and everything in between. From my own first-love heartbreak in high school to navigating the recent end of her relationship with her baby daddy, we dive into how love can both shape and shatter us. We also share anonymous...

In this episode, I’m joined by Christina for an honest conversation about rebuilding self-love after disappointment. We talk about unmet expectations, emotional letdowns, and the quiet work of choosing yourself again when trust, love, or hope has been shaken. This episode isn’t about blame or fixing anyone else, it’s about healing, self-compassion, and learning how to pour back into yourself. If y...

This episode is different. Today, I’m sitting down with my husband for an honest conversation about a season in our marriage when trust was broken, on both sides, and we still chose each other. We aren’t here to expose details. We aren’t here to relive pain. We’re here to talk about what it actually takes to stay when things get hard. Marriage isn’t fragile because it struggles. It’s layered. It s...

In this episode, I talk about loving someone so deeply that somewhere along the way, you stop choosing yourself. This isn’t about blame or broken love, it’s about identity inside relationships, how childhood patterns shape the way we give, and the moment you realize you’ve been loving others the way you wished someone loved you. If you’ve ever felt like your world revolved around everyone else, th...

This episode is a Q&A. No scripts. No filters. Just real questions from women who are navigating identity, love, motherhood, healing, and becoming. Some of these questions came from quiet moments. Some came from confusion. Some came from places we don’t always say out loud. In this episode, I’m answering your anonymous questions with honesty, compassion, and the reminder that you are never alone i...

There comes a moment after awareness, after you realize you’ve been living in survival mode, where something else is required of you. Release. In this episode, I talk about the quiet grief that comes with letting go of the version of yourself that kept you alive when things were hard. The version that was strong, guarded, over-functioning, people-pleasing, or constantly bracing for impact. This is...

The day I realized I needed me back didn’t look the same as it does for everyone. For some, it comes after having kids. For others, it comes through heartbreak, burnout, or years of quietly putting themselves last. In this episode of The Mother Effen Me Podcast , Alyssa is joined by a guest speaker who is a business owner and the founder of a brand rooted in “the mess”, the emotional clutter, the...

Who are you without your titles? Before motherhood. Before marriage. Before expectations, roles, and survival. In this first episode of The Mother Effen Me Podcast , Alyssa opens the conversation where everything begins, identity . We talk about how our childhood experiences quietly shape the adults we become, how survival can turn into self-abandonment, and why so many women wake up one day feeli...

In this short bonus episode, Alyssa shares the heart behind The Mother Effen Me Podcast. From understanding how childhood shapes the adults we become, to unpacking people-pleasing, heartbreaks, and healing, this episode sets the foundation for everything to come. After writing her story in her book, Alyssa realized that healing doesn't stop the page, it continues in conversation. This podcast...

Welcome to The Mother Effen Me Podcast, the audio continuation of the story behind the book. In this podcast, Alyssa goes deeper into the moments, emotions, healing, and identity shifts first introduced in her book, while also sharing new stories, real-life updates, and powerful conversations you won’t find on the page. From motherhood and relationships to mental health, faith, trauma, and becomin...