The Messy Middle

Sometimes the hardest thing you'll ever clean out isn't your garage. It's your life. After taking a couple weeks away to work through some personal things, I'm back with an honest conversation about loyalty, boundaries, forgiveness, and why some people are only meant to be part of a season. This isn't about becoming cold. It's about becoming honest. Because gratitude doesn&...

We've all done it. A difficult conversation hasn't happened yet. A project isn't finished. A relationship is in an uncertain season. A problem appears on the horizon and before we know it, we've already built an entire story about how badly it's going to end. This week, Tyler explores the "imaginary bridges" we create in our minds. The fears, assumptions, and worst-ca...

For most of my life, I thought my problem was that people misunderstood me. What I finally realized is that I was so afraid of being misunderstood that I never really let anyone know me in the first place. In this episode, I share stories I've never told publicly before. From a childhood moment that shaped the way I viewed sensitivity, to the realization that I accidentally passed some of my o...

Today at church they handed out white flags as a symbol of surrender. And if I’m being honest… part of me recoiled a little. Because surrender feels like a dirty word in our culture. We’ll surrender to stress, distraction, anxiety, work, dopamine, and emotional chaos without even noticing it… but surrender to peace, trust, or faith? Suddenly that feels dangerous. In this episode, I talk about the...

Sometimes kids don’t just hear stories… they carry them. In this episode of The Messy Middle, I talk about watching Easton absorb Peter Parker’s story in a way that caught me completely off guard, and how that realization connected to a social media trend that left me with mixed emotions. This isn’t a rant about parenting or social media. It’s a reflection on emotional weight, gratitude, childhood...

What happens when a man stops shape-shifting for survival? In this episode of The Messy Middle, Tyler talks about fear loops, grief, emotional masking, self-forgivness, and the emotional weather of every room you walk into. This isn't a polished self-help episode. It's an honest conversation about what happens when survival patterns stop protecting you and start suffocationg you. From wate...

"Do you want to be healed?" That question from the Gospel of John isn't as simple as it sounds. Because healing doesn't just change your situation...it asks you to let go of the identity you built around it. In this episode, we brak down why that's so hard, how we unknowingly stay stuck, and what it actually means to "turn the other cheek" without losing yourself.

I've spent the last year trying to figure out how to explain this...and it turns out that it's not complicated-it just takes reps. This episode is about the patterns we all run, how they keep us stuck, and what it looks like to finally start interrupting them in real time. No perfection. Just awareness.

This is where it changed. Not all at once. Not dramatically. Just a moment where I stopped ignoring myself and started paying attention. Nothing in my life looked different from the outside--same job, same house, same responsibilities. But something shifted in how I showed up. This isn't about having it all figured out. It's about what happens when you finally hear yourself...and don't...