The Inner Work Diary

This week we are unpacking what happens when being strong, capable and independent becomes a kind of armour and how that can impact our ability to be vulnerable, receive support and experience deeper intimacy in our relationships. We talk about the patterns we've learnt to rely on to feel safe, how hyper-independence and constant performance can become part of our identity and what it takes to...

Welcome back guys! In this episode, we unpack the difference between having high standards and using them to avoid discomfort, vulnerability and taking responsibility for ourselves. We talk about how easy it is to focus on what others aren't doing, judge them for it, and overlook where we might need to show up differently ourselves. From dating and relationships to business and personal growth...

Content warning: This episode includes references to suicide and sexual assault. Welcome back guys! This week Pete shares his personal story and the experiences that shaped who he is today, from growing up with the pressure to get things right to navigating difficult relationships and finding his way into coaching. Content warning: This episode includes references to suicide and sexual assault. We...

Welcome back guys! In this ep, we talk about why it can be so hard to ask for what you need in a relationship. We get into where this can come from, how childhood can shape the way we relate to our own needs, and why vulnerability, rejection and the fear of not getting what we ask for can make it easier to stay quiet, over-give or expect our partner to just know. We also talk about how this can sh...

In this ep, we talk about what can get in the way of a man fully stepping into his own life and relationships. We get into the transition from boyhood to manhood, how our relationship with our parents can shape the way we show up as adults, and what can happen when a man hasn’t psychologically separated from his family. We also talk about how this can show up through indecision, withdrawal, people...

A lot of what plays out in our adult relationships started long before the relationship did. In this ep, we talk about how our childhood experiences can shape our emotional home, nervous system and the way we respond in relationships. We get into how the environment we grew up in can influence the patterns we carry, why we can react from younger parts of ourselves when we’re triggered and what it...

What happens when you’ve done all the learning, understand your patterns and still find yourself repeating them? In this ep, we talk about how personal development can actually become another way of avoiding what’s underneath, especially when we get stuck in our heads trying to understand, fix or figure everything out. We get into the gap between knowing something and actually living it, what rela...

Today’s episode is a pretty real conversation about what happens to your relationship when life gets really full. We’ve both been in a season where work, training, life and everything in between have taken up a lot of our capacity and we’ve noticed what that can bring up between us - feeling disconnected, resentment and sometimes unmet expectations. We talk about what’s actually underneath those m...

Today’s episode is a conversation around the things we used to think were normal, until we started doing the work. We’re sharing some of the things we’ve had to question, unlearn and see differently through our own inner work, and how much of what we once thought was “just who I am” was actually a pattern we’d learned somewhere along the way. We Dive Into: The things we used to think were complete...

Today’s episode is a conversation around one of the biggest edges many women experience in relationships - allowing ourselves to truly be seen. For many of us, especially those who are used to being capable, independent and having everything together, vulnerability can feel incredibly uncomfortable. We can want deeper connection while simultaneously protecting the very parts of ourselves that woul...

Today’s episode is a conversation we’ve been wanting to have for a while, exploring the relationship between faith, church, identity and the deeper work of understanding ourselves. We’re diving into Pete’s experience growing up in church from childhood, being heavily involved in that world and what it was like to later question the beliefs, pressures and expectations he had carried for years. This...

Today’s ep is a Q&A where we’re answering some of your questions around relationships, growth, conflict and lots in between. We’re chatting about masculine and feminine dynamics, learning to receive, handling disagreements, the patterns we bring into relationships and as usual we go off on a few extra tangents! As always, this is an honest conversation, sharing our own experiences, lessons we’...

Today’s episode is a vulnerable one. I’m sharing my story - how my own experiences led me into inner work, healing and ultimately coaching. It’s an honest conversation about the moments that shaped me, the challenges that changed me and why I do the work I do now. This isn’t a story about having all the answers. It’s about learning through life, doing the work and discovering that our greatest str...

Today we’re talking about how big life changes, stress, and uncertainty can quietly shift the dynamic inside a relationship. This episode comes from our own current season of navigating change, pressure, and emotional overwhelm, and noticing how quickly that can show up between two people, even when there’s love and good intention present. We unpack what happens when you’re both in different inter...

Today we’re doing a light-hearted couples Q&A where we just talk about love, life and everything in between. Nothing overly planned, just us answering questions and seeing where the conversation goes, which naturally ends up in a few unexpected tangents about relationships, communication, attachment, and the way we see connection and growth together. It’s a bit of fun, a bit random, and some t...

Today we unpack why being in a relationship doesn't automatically create connection, and how many couples can find themselves feeling disconnected. This conversation explores the patterns that quietly create distance in relationships. We also share reflections from our own relationship around triggers, communication, and the ongoing practice of staying present with each other when things feel...

Today we unpack the conversation around emotional regulation, nervous system work, and why so many people are unknowingly using “healing” tools to avoid what’s actually underneath the surface. This conversation dives into the patterns we see in both men and women when it comes to emotional suppression, shutdown, anger, hyper-independence, people-pleasing, and the fear of fully expressing what’s re...

In this episode, we explore what “presence” actually means and why it’s becoming harder and harder to access in modern life, especially for high performers. This conversation comes off the back of what’s been coming up in both of our lives and in the work we do with people, the constant pressure to do more, stay productive, and keep moving, even when there’s a deeper desire to slow down and actual...

In this episode, Pete is in the hot seat answering questions Georgia has been hearing time and time again from women who are struggling to understand their partners in relationships and dating. We unpack the patterns that quietly play out between men and women in modern relationships, ones that often lead to confusion, miscommunication, emotional disconnect, and cycles that feel hard to break. We...

In this episode we unpack what really happens when you step into a new chapter and why it doesn’t always feel as good as you expected. We touch on how big life changes can bring underlying patterns to the surface and how that shows up in: • The pressure to keep pushing instead of slowing down • The disconnect between external success and internal fulfilment • The burnout cycles that come from tyin...

In this episode we unpack five of the most common ways old wounds surface in adult relationships and how those early experiences shape: • The way you attach and communicate • The patterns you fall into when conflict hits • The subtle ways you protect yourself from feeling hurt If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “why do I keep reacting like this?” this conversation will help you see the link b...

This week we’re diving into how the relationship you had with your parents shapes the way you see yourself, how you move through the world, and how you show up in your relationships. We unpack the deep connections between your upbringing and your patterns in love, from trust and communication to the ways you cope with conflict. We also explore inner child healing and reparenting to help you rewire...

Welcome back guys! This week’s episode is a bit of a real-time check-in, what’s been coming up for us personally and how it’s cracked open a whole new layer of awareness, growth, and truth. We talk about the emotional weight that’s been bubbling to the surface lately, how our capacity has been stretched in business, life, and love and the slippery pull toward old patterns of avoidance and control...

Welcome back guys! This week we’re diving into a pattern so many of us play out in relationships, the desire to fix. Fix your partner. Fix the dynamic. Fix the discomfort that comes up when things feel out of control. We unpack where this pattern comes from, what it’s actually rooted in, and how to shift from control to connection. If you’ve ever felt responsible for holding it all together, or ca...

Welcome back guys, this week we touch on a topic we both get asked regularly and that's what to do when you're doing the work but your partner isn't or how do you 'get' your partner to do the work. We have a perspective you'll want to listen to. Follow along on socials: @petejmclean @gee_gniel