The Honest Therapist

In this episode I teach you the 3 guiding principles, questions really, that I use to keep myself firmly in the drivers seat of my own one and precious life. I use these every single day in my conversations with, well, just about anyone, but in an official and solicited setting with my clients in mentoring and therapy. They will help you reconnect with your inner world, your true self to hear who...

This episode is a reading of my latest SubStack article called "Blood is thicker than water but it can also leave unwanted stains and sticks like shit." You can read that HERE and join my community over there for long form writing and my weekly 'Make Life Wonder-Filled" wrap ups as I notice the good, the wonderful and the amazing in the world. Deciding to cut off a family member...

As I currently traverse the experience of raising a tween I am calling on some powerful education and experience that I am so grateful to have received earlier on in my career as a social worker. My life seems to include a lot of deep breathing, biting my lip and choosing my battles, and let’s be honest…. Doubting and over-analysing all the decisions I have ever made as parent up until this point!...

How often do we talk about the things we want to do, be, have, achieve and experience without actually doing the things we need to do to make it happen? So many people think talking, thinking and sharing about 'the thing' we want is actually working on it. It's not. In this episode I introduce you to 'the thing' that has been omnipresent in your life, lurking, following you, wh...

Last year I pulled myself out of the - dodgy, never-ever-enough, 'just manifest it', no real substance to coaching - waters I found myself in, dried off and reconnected with the legacy I want to leave. This is a story I am hearing from so many people in my circles so I wanted to share mine. Part 2 offers some solutions to this rampant industry issue so please listen in to that one. If you...

Last year I pulled myself out of the - dodgy, never-ever-enough, 'just manifest it', no real substance to coaching - waters I found myself in, dried off and reconnected with the legacy I want to leave. This is a story I am hearing from so many people in my circles so I wanted to share mine. Part 2 offers some solutions to this rampant industry issue so please listen in to that one. If you...

In this episode I explore the current social discourse that tells parent's that they need to take their kids to see an 'expert' at the first signs of distress and challenge. Parents have been disempowered over the last 3 decades or so and it's time to shift the pendulum back. We don't always have to look outside the home for growth and support. You are more capable than you kno...

This week we talk about how low mood, those flat, off kinda days, that show up in our lives from time to time and how you can support yourself through them. This episode includes really practical tips for nourishing yourself on days that feel really hard. I share my recent low mood day and what my 'non-negotiables' were for getting through it. I hope you love it and it helps you in some wa...

I finished the audio version of Matthew Perry's book last week and it gave me such food for thought. I am such a huge Friends fan so it was mind-boggling to me to learn what our loveable Chandler Bing was experiencing behind the scenes. I am in awe of his vulnerability in sharing his most painful and illuminating moments. There are some powerful examples of trauma woundings in this book, in partic...

Trauma is a becoming a very popular word and area of exploration which makes me so happy. However we have to be very clear on what trauma is and what it isn't so we don't misunderstand what causes it, what it actually is and how we can help people recover and heal. Insta-therapists are loving calling every stressful event TRAUMA but is that accurate? Is trauma only catastrophic events and does eve...

If you don't have connection you will never have productive communication. I used to work with some pretty scary characters as a family services worker in my 20's Carlie. One family in particular springs to mind whenever I think about the power of Connection before Communication. I was assigned the case of a very well-known and traumatised family who had 'gone through' dozens of workers over the y...

After sharing a little on Instagram about my emotional and physical response to budgeting and being 'adult' about my spending so many of you asked me to share more of what we are doing right now to stay on top of rising living costs.  Your relationship with money can be a pervasive cause of stress and worry and in these uncertain economic times I believe we all need to revisit out we earn mon...

We are back to podcasting for 2023! I update you on reclaiming my therapist role and title and how it's helping me stay in integrity in the services that I offer. My plan for the podcast this year is story-based real life examples to help you navigate daily life challenges in relationships and your own revolution. I will also be sharing therapeutic approaches to help you walk yourself through your...

*Raw audio from a FB Live. I recently shared some of the more intimate and lesser known parts of my story in my FB group - The Exchange  . This is part 2 after I drew a line in the sand and chose my own healing journey at 26yrs. Let me speak to nuance and context. There was so much love and safety and goodness in my childhood also. I felt loved. I was and still am loved. Maybe not in the ways...

*Raw audio from a FB Live. I recently shared some of the more intimate and lesser known parts of my story in my FB group - The Exchange  . This is part 1,  the first 26yrs.  Firstly, Let me speak to nuance and context. There was so much love and safety and goodness in my childhood also. I felt loved. I was and still am loved. Maybe not in the ways I yearn/ed to be but I am. We alway...

This episode ignites the conversation around taking time out for fun, rest and play as an adult woman. Deciding what you desire and booking it in!  I spent my 40th with 9 epic women on a wonderful weekend away. It was a mix of laughter, deep conversation, pampering, eating, dancing, coffee, shopping and lazying around chatting. Connection with women, it was perfection. However it did bring up...

Anyone else had a pandemic hangover this year? This episode is really me sharing what the last 10 months have been about in my internal world. Identity crises, black dark spirally days, being repulsed by the direction that companies like Meta are headed with the social media game. Bringing myself back to the light through introspection and discernment about where my energy is going to be placed in...

In this episode I share how a pivotal moment, that happened on a really ordinary day in an ordinary way, totally shifted the intention and energy I had around money. Which resulted in me being more present in my life and relationships, more joy, less anxiety, and ironically more money flowing into my bank account. We explore the 3 intentions, or promises, I made to myself to shift my relationship...

In this episode I want to elevate the conversation around what we 'get out' of courses, mentoring, masterminds that we invest in. My desire with this conversation is to have us all take ownership of our expectations and choices, as well as our integrity, in what can sometimes feel like the wild west of the personal development space.  As service providers how can we set clear boundaries and e...

Hey legend, In today's riff I talk about one of the most powerful relationship tools you can utilize in your business as you engage with people from different walks of life. The Kapman Drama Triangle. READ MORE HERE https://leadershiptribe.com/blog/the-drama-triangle-explained I have used this tool for over 15 years when mediating families as a social worker, in my own relationships and now as I m...

Too often I hear from women that they just need one for course or qualification to feel ready to launch their art out into the world. It's usually absolute BS as the women I am surrounded with are more than embodied and experienced and educated. They are so ready to unleash..... and yet they don't. In this episode I want to explore why not. I have some observations. - Inadequacy and a conditioned...

In this episode I interview the fabulous Natalie Greene from She Breathes Now. Nat is a 3/6 Splenic Projector with defined Ego, Head, Ajna and Spleen. With qualifications in teaching, social work, NLP and now breathwork AS WELL as extensive life experience and experimentation, Nat is one of the most embodied teachers and humans I know. Breathwork has been one of the most powerful healing tools I h...

Welcome back to the podcast!   I am so thrilled to be back in more flow in 2022 after the circus that was the last 12 months. In this episode I was really just getting myself back in the groove of sharing more externally after a year of just having to focus on my kids, my home and my clients. So I share a story of how I used my understanding of my family's Human Design during a recent family...

In this episode we learn what our sabotaging behaviors are and how they serve us. Maybe you are a people pleaser. Possibly you know that the way you communicate in your marriage is not what you want it to be. Maybe you're feeling that your health is not being prioritised as it should be. Perhaps you bury your head in the sand with your finances. I want to shed some light on why we sabotage ourselv...

In this episode I explain how our brains work to keep us in safety and comfort and away from pain and discomfort. Sounds great doesn't it? Safety, comfort, ease.......... Well if you want to grow, develop, shed some sabotaging behaviors and learn how to engage with the world in new ways it can be really limiting. We chat about the theory of cognitive dissonance and the 3 ways our brains stop us fr...