The Female Dating Strategy

Rose checks in with an update: summer break is in session! Patricia and Rose will be back in August with new episodes and guest hosts! Stay tuned!

Patricia shares a useful metaphor to an open heart, but only partially open. That is until a visitor earns access to the full treasures of the secret bodega. No scrotes allowed.

Why online dating is weird, and why the same strategies apply What does it mean to be a woman - an FDS queen - in the era of the internet? How do we date and approach online dating as a strategy? What approaches do we take and what are the means by which we vet and protect ourselves? Patricia and Rose host a freewheeling discussion of life, love, and FDS tactics online and on the ground! Are you i...

What to do in situations that are not outright violent, that fall under the umbrella of plausible deniability, but that leave you feeling uncertain or fearful? Patricia and Rose discuss the four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, and how we can learn to say "no" with our whole chest. "Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat": article link from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence Thich Nhat Hanh...

Sometimes the best dating strategy is not dating at all. Here are 3 introspection questions you can ask yourself to figure out how that looks for you. We loved getting all the episode ideas as well as co-hosting offers from you! It will take us a moment to get back to everyone Let us know what you think via Spotify comments or email as at contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com Love you queens! ...

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FDS OG Podcast Queen Savannah makes an appearance to offer her insights on pretty privilege and challenge the narrative. Is it really a privilege? Savannah and Rose discuss lesser-known facets of what pretty privileges signify for both the pretty and the plain. If you would like to be featured on the show to share your dating or level-up lessons with the community, please shoot us an email at: con...

Ladies, never date a philosopher - unless you want a masterclass in whataboutism, sealioning, gas lighting, and debates about your needs and boundaries! Want your dating lessons to be featured on the show? Submit your Roast-a-Scrote to: contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com 

In this episode, Patricia & Rose examine shame as a tool that shapes social norms and etiquette, and its usefulness in particular situations, often those involving men and male entitlement. Do we need to bring back shame as a social consequence? Is a Shame Renaissance on the horizon? Can or should  FDS Queens embrace shame as a necessary behavioral corrective in dating and courtship? Shar...

Join us today as we embark on a journey to men's emotional regulation, or lack thereof. Scrotes die mad but it's actually tragic Join the conversation by commenting on Spotify Also, apologies for missing a week. Life happens sometimes, but we are here and aim to keep the consistency ♡♡♡

Picking up on an ongoing conversation the previous FDS queens began - please revisit the classic recording, "We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to Lie" (May 5, 2021) - Patricia and Rose delve into the joys of sex and intimacy. They touch on the role of social media, the influence of porn, and the importance of sexual education in advocating for one's own pleasure.

In this episode, the Queens discuss how Rose's commitment to sobriety dovetailed with her discovery of FDS.  Correction: Rose is coming up on 3 YEARS of sobriety in March/April 2026 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Like what you hear? Help us...

Rose and Patricia delve into the timeless question: should you play games? In the ensuing discussion, they find answers that underline how important FDS principles are in ensuring a healthy approach to dating and life. Would you like to share a Queen Level-Up Story? Or a roast-a-scrote tale? Write us at contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com

Welcome back, queens! We are hyped and honored to kick-start the new era of FDS, and we hope to bring back the liveliness and zest of the OG days. We shall do our best Buckle up for the first episode of the year. We are going to publish every other week and make sure we are consistent before getting back to weekly episodes, and ultimately open the subscriber-only content back up.  As we share...

Join the FDS hosts as they fete and say a bittersweet goodbye to the GOAT: Savannah, OG FDS Queen! We discuss her plans, the State of the Pod, and the goals for FDS in 2026!

Originally released as bonus content for our Patreon queens, the Bonus Queens dive deeper into the manipulative tactics commonly used in debates about dating, relationships, and gender dynamics.  🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Want more FDS...

Originally released as bonus content for our Patreon baddies, we're bringing this one out of the vault just in time for summer. In this episode, the Queens break down what it really means to have a Hot Girl Summer FDS style.   🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Su...

The Queens unpack emotional maturity, why it’s the core of any functional relationship and how to recognise it (or the lack of it).   🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Want more FDS content? Join us on our NEW and IMPROVED Patreon! 👉 Join the...

Rose is joined by Sarah from Lainey Gossip to dissect the deeply embedded inequalities in the filmmaking and film criticism industries. 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemale...

The Queens dissect the romantic, cultural and generational norms associated with Mother's Day and what this means for dating. 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy

The Queens are once again joined by renowned author and domestic abuse expert, Lundy Bancroft, whose groundbreaking work Why Does He Do That? has helped millions of women recognize the patterns of coercive control and emotional abuse in intimate relationships, to discuss toxic masculinity.    Lundy Bancroft's first FDS appearance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IH7Y0rJ8Kkw   🎙️ Epi...

The Queens sit down with the brilliant Dr. Jane Ward, author of The Tragedy of Heterosexuality to discuss why modern day heterosexual relationships often leave women feeling shortchanged.  Check out Dr Jane's book here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tragedy-Heterosexuality-56-Sexual-Cultures/dp/1479851558     Download the FDS Handbook for free here: https://pdfcoffee.com/fds-handboo...

Originally a bonus episode for our Patreon Queens, this  deep dive is now unlocked for the public! In this episode, the Bonus Queens break down the most common logical fallacies men and society at large use to dismiss women’s boundaries, dodge accountability, and manipulate the dating narrative in their favour. https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/   Download the FDS Handbook for free here:...

The Queens discuss how you can keep yourself safe when dating. Safety first! Download the FDS Handbook for free here: https://pdfcoffee.com/fds-handbook-v135-pdf-free.html  Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/femdatstrat  Follow us! Weekly Bonus Content on Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/TheFemaleDatingStrategy   Website: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com ...

Renowned feminist Dr. Gail Dines (re) joins the Queens for another deep-dive into the devastating effects of the porn industry on modern masculinity and women.    Download the FDS Handbook for free here: https://pdfcoffee.com/fds-handbook-v135-pdf-free.html    Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/femdatstrat    Follow us! Weekly Bonus Content on Patreon:  http...