The Bone Zone

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about recognition: why we crave validation from other people, where that need comes from, and why chasing it tends to push it further away. We also share how it plays out in our own relationship, and what we’re doing to build it from the inside. The setup: On a midweek “sex date” interrupted by renovation noise outside, we ended up discussing how much we e...

Send us Fan Mail We are back for an early-morning, interruption-heavy episode on shifting energy through the yoni and why orgasms aren’t a performance target. In this episode, we talk about: Intention over outcome: Why chasing the “big one” can make it harder to have one, and what changes when you set the intention to shift energy rather than deliver a result.  A month of turmoil, powerful release...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode, we explore the word of the day, “delay,” and why people so often feel behind when the results they want haven’t arrived. Using a client story and examples from dating, trading and fitness, we  discuss how this feeling usually comes from attachment to the outcome, and how enjoying the process can make life feel lighter. Delay is often a perception, not a fact. If...

Send us Fan Mail This episode of The Bone Zone, we cover: The luteal phase and mood: Why emotional regulation gets harder just before your period, what’s normal and what isn’t, and why getting to know your own cycle makes it easier to navigate. Emotions, feelings and moods: The neuroscience behind the difference. Emotions are transient body sensations, feelings are the brain’s interpretation of th...

Send us Fan Mail As a woman, it’s common to suffer from UTI’s and other vaginal “issues” once you start becoming sexually active. Rather than writing this off as “oh, that’s just the way it is”, we talk through the energetic and physical components of issues in the vagina. The body doesn’t lie. Your vagina is trying to tell you something. In this episode, we talk about:  Sara’s personal experience...

Send us Fan Mail What really destroys relationships? It usually starts small – hiding your thoughts and feelings, not being entirely transparent, avoiding difficult conversations, sweeping things under the carpet. It starts a behavioural pattern that may seem innocent enough, but before too long can snowball into a massive elephant that fills the room. In this episode, we talk about:  How little e...

Send us Fan Mail Jealousy: where it comes from, why it shows up in relationships, and what to do about it. We mix personal stories with a few laughs and a look at how the way we see ourselves shapes how we trust others. In this episode we talk about: Why jealousy isn't as "normal" as we think. Real-life stories about exes, opposite-sex friendships and partners who get suspicious for...

Send us Fan Mail This episode gets real. We revist the night-nearly a month ago- when a few too many glasses of champagne in Lisbon facilitated a convesation neither of us expected. Are we going to make it as a couple? Are we going to get a divorce?  This episode is a masterclass in how to have the difficult and uncomfortable coversations without it turning into a war.  In this episode we talk abo...

Send us Fan Mail The Body Doesn’t Lie – The Genital Whisperer  In this last podcast episode before our summer break, we talk about disconnection from your body and your genitals and why pushing through and having sex anyway is a bad idea! In this episode, we talk about:  Using substances as a way to disconnect from your body and “get in the mood” The cumulative effect of ignoring the signs that yo...

Send us Fan Mail We all do it. And most of us can recognise (if we choose to) the big things that we settle on: the job we stay at for the money, the choice of partner that we do because we feel we’re getting old, and we need to “settle down”. But it’s the small settling statements we make every day that have the cumulative potential to cause the most damage. However, they can be slippery because...

Send us Fan Mail The idea of fair exchange and equal contribution within the context of a relationship can be complicated. And it’s often the people shouting the loudest about how much they contribute that need to be doing more! In this episode, we talk about: ·        Why feeling like you don’t contribute enough may be a sign you might be giving too much ·        The perception of the word “contr...

Send us Fan Mail It’s easy to assume that you’ll feel happy, safe and secure when… You have a great relationship, the perfect job, a certain amount of money in your bank account etc. No amount of anything external will make you feel enough if you don’t feel enough. In this episode, we talk about:  How being self-critical can spur you to action but how it leads to a success ceiling later down the r...

Send us Fan Mail We like to challenge narratives that we see perpetuated out in the world on the Bone Zone and in this episode, we talk about the growing trend of pitting men and women against each other. It seems everywhere on social media now, you have men degrading, insulting and attacking women. And women who are done with men. Posts and podcasts about the “man child”, toxic masculinity and un...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve been hearing the word “narcissist” a lot recently, with various friends talking about a person in their life who has narcissistic tendencies.  So, we wanted to record an episode, where we talk about our experiences with narcissistic people and some key ingredients to either stop attracting them or improve your encounters with them.  In this episode, we talk about:  Our exper...

Send us Fan Mail Our family relationships can be some of the most triggering relationships in our lives.  It can be easy to get caught in a cycle of blame and finger pointing (especially if there is much history to back it up!) but challenging family dynamics are also some of the greatest tools for growth. We talk about the impact of Sara’s parents two-week visit and why we’d do it again (no, real...

Send us Fan Mail It’s not just women that are subject to the “age” programming that is so prevalent in society. Today’s episode is courtesy of a listener’s friend who is adamant that men in their 50s have low sex drive! As we’ve talked about before, just because something is normalised, doesn’t mean that it’s the truth. Your thought patterns affect your physiology and your actions. You don’t need...

Send us Fan Mail Today’s episode follows a conversation that Sara had with a friend going through a very messy divorce. It’s easy to feel confused at exactly where a relationship went wrong. And it’s also good practice to draw learnings from the relationship, so you know better next time. However, we all have blind spots and self-awareness gaps (to differing extents) that can make this reflection...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about all things perimenopause! Sara talks about the “perimenopause” seed and how it was first planted, the proliferation of her symptoms and how she reversed them through a combination of physical, sexual and emotional/energetic practices. The bottom line here is that: you don’t have to suffer miserably throughout perimenopause and menopause. And you don’...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do if you want to grow but your partner doesn’t? It can be hard when you feel that your partner isn’t on the same page as you, or worse, they actively try and discourage you from growth and improvement. The answer isn’t necessarily to seek out a new partner. You can create an amazing relationship by focusing your attention on the right things and in this episode, we ta...

Send us Fan Mail The body is always speaking to you. And your genitals are no different. You can use any points of soreness or tension or resistance in the genitals as a guide to what’s going on with you emotionally at that time. In this episode, we give a real-life example of how to use what’s going on in the bedroom to quickly heal the body. We talk about:  Tension, soreness and discomfort in th...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, inspired by the dating experience of one of our friends, we talk about why you tend to end up in repeating dating patterns with people who don’t make an effort, disrespect you, or tend to lose interest. The modern dating world can be brutal – and I’ve heard the phrase time and again “there are no good men (or women) out there.” In this episode, we talk about:  How...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sara talks about her journey to find the balance between the masculine and feminine within. And Richard shares his journey stepping into his masculine. Women are often taught from a young age to be strong, independent go-getters. Sometimes, through early life experiences, the “masculine” armour also develops as a way of protecting yourself. And there is a lot to r...

Send us Fan Mail Within our relationship, we implemented the practice of the 3-hour sex date once a week. Barring some periods of falling off the wagon, we have more or less stuck to it for almost 2 years. Sex and intimacy are like anything else. If you don’t make it a priority and plan for it (likegoing to the gym), you’re likely to see it slide further down your list. However, what do you do if...

Send us Fan Mail This episode was inspired by an insight that cropped up during our weekly date night. During long, loving relationships – whether they be family, friends or romantic partners, there will be times when the people you love will need support. What is the correct balance for that support between allowing the other person autonomy to ask for help, looking after yourself and looking aft...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about open relationships, poly-amory and other types of non-monogamous relationships. These types of relationships characterised by agreement between the parties concerned have been glamourised and offered as a solution for the monotony of monogamy in the last decade or so. But what’s the real reason why people choose to enter these arrangements? We talk a...