The Better Marriage Podcast

It's easy to spot everything your spouse is doing wrong. It's a lot harder to turn that same eye on yourself. In this episode, licensed therapists Ibinye and Raffi make a compelling case for self reflection as one of the most underrated tools in marriage — because the one thing you actually have the power to change is you. Honest, warm and a little convincing. 😄

When your spouse has a tough day, your first instinct might be to fix it — but that instinct could actually be pushing them away. In this episode, licensed therapists Ibinye and Raffi explain why putting down the toolbox and simply being present is often the most powerful thing you can do for your spouse. Short, sweet and genuinely helpful.

A bad apology can do more damage than no apology at all. In this episode, licensed therapists Ibinye and Raffi break down what a real, meaningful apology looks like in marriage — no excuses, no deflecting, just genuine accountability and empathy that helps both of you actually move forward. Six minutes that could change how you repair after every fight.

Your phone is never far away — but at what cost to your marriage? In this episode, licensed therapists Ibinye and Raffi get honest about what it feels like when your spouse's attention is constantly divided, and share a simple, realistic plan for scaling back on screen time so your relationship gets the presence it deserves. Small steps, big difference.

Your spouse is reaching out to you every single day — but are you catching it? In this episode, licensed therapists Ibinye and Raffi break down bids for connection, the small, everyday moments where your spouse is quietly asking for your attention and love. Learn how to spot them, respond to them, and strengthen your marriage one small moment at a time.

Ever have a moment where you and your spouse disagree about how to handle a parenting situation? OF COURSE YOU DO. Everyone does.  Now - what do you do about that?

This week's actionable tip focuses on boosting the positive in your relationship. Marriage is not about conflict resolution (although that's important); protecting the fun times between you is just as important to the long-term health of your relationship.

Giving the benefit of the doubt is kind of buzzwordy - but if you take it seriously and actually implement it in your marriage, it is virtually impossible for you not to gain from it in very perceptible ways.

It may seem cliché, but a focus on gratitude will honestly make a huge impact in your marriage. And it's so doggone easy.

You know how simple conversations seem to turn into arguments which turn into giant fights? Doesn't have to be that way. This episode will give you a framework for stepping out of that exhausting cycle.

If you're wondering why you never feel heard in your relationship, consider whether the way you're speaking is a factor in that. In this episode we'll teach you what to do (and what not to do) to give you the best shot at being heard.

Everybody says they want good communication. Half of good communication is good listening. And good listening needs the right context if you're going to be successful. Here's what you need to know.

Before any other relationship advice is going to work, this is the tool you need to implement. Get this one down and you're already way ahead of the game.

Is your marriage everything you want it to be? Or has it somehow lost the connection you used to have? Do you feel stuck in arguments that never get resolved? Do you sometimes feel like you're just roommates instead of lovers? This podcast is here to help.  With one actionable tip per episode, we're going to help you build the marriage you've always wanted - one step at a time.