The Act Like Men Podcast

Loving your wife through every season of marriage means loving the version of her that doesn't make your life easy. New baby. New house. A new job that keeps you on the road. Foreclosure papers on the table. Her grieving the father she lost. Seasons change, and so does she. So do you. That wedding photo on your shelf is a snapshot, but marriage isn't one. Every husband has to answer this...

You accomplished the mission. Dream job, uniform, the title you chased since you were a kid. So why does Adam F. Jones, a former Black Hawk pilot, end up on a back road in Pittsburgh at the lowest point of his life? Because high performers do not crash. They drift. And you will not see it first. Your wife will. Your kids will. Your crew chief will. And when they call it out, your move is the same...

Steve is on vacation, so Jack and Dillon try something new: reacting to Jubilee's What Makes a Real Man debate. Fifty men argued over whether society needs more tradwives or girlbosses, whether men should be watching porn, and who leads in a romantic relationship, and we talk through what Scripture actually says about each one. Jack lays out why the burden of provision sits on the man, Dillon...

This episode was not planned. All three of us were burnt out and tired, and instead of passing on recording, we hit record and worked it out live. Steve opens by naming the hardest season of his life: the business still struggling and layoffs on the table, a medication that nearly sent him to the ER, and an active investigation close to home that he cannot detail, one he says is harder to walk thr...

We asked our wives one question: where do we fail to emotionally support you? The answers cost us. Steve got called out for his phone and his Apple Watch stealing moments with his wife and his son. Dillon got called out for turning Natalie's pain about her body into a three week diet and cardio plan. Jack got told he shows up fine, but only when he decides it is worth his time. From there we...

What does 20 years in law enforcement teach a man about walking with God? Joe Marks, founder of Battleground Faith, joins Steve, Jack and Dillon to share the testimony behind the badge: the calls that tested his faith, the prayers he prayed over the men he arrested, and what it took to stop performing and get honest before the Lord. Joe opens up about a hidden battle with lust and shame, the super...

You think you're leading your home, but is your wife telling a different story... This one starts with Jack getting triggered at marriage group and turns into an honest look at what really drives a man. You will hear why the mindset of how you do one thing is how you do everything can trap you in performance instead of freeing you into excellence. If you feel like a failure every time you mis...

Nearly half of this country is overweight, and the body of Christ is not exempt. You cannot out-train a bad diet, and you cannot pray away a pantry full of garbage. Most men have started over a dozen times: new plan on Monday, quit by Thursday. Disciplined at work, disciplined in your calling, then completely undone by a drive-thru and a bad night. Or you swing the other way and turn food labels i...

Steve has been writing his autobiography, and to get the dates right he pulled out the letter his dad wrote him from prison. Eight pages. Not one line that said I'm sorry for what I did to this family. He read it two days before we recorded this, and it wiped him out all over again. That letter is where this episode goes, but it isn't only Steve's story. Jack talks about the arrest...

You did everything the right way and the church still turned on you. Church hurt like that is far more common than anyone admits, and almost nobody talks honestly about what it does to a man. Somebody starts a rumor. Your closest friends get leaned on until they're reporting back on you. The pastor is too busy to meet, and anyway, you were never an official member. A listener wrote in carryin...

Everybody wants to call you a good man. Almost nobody can tell you what that actually means. There's the man who keeps everyone comfortable, never rocks the boat, never says the hard thing, and there's the man you actually trust with your life. One of them is nice. Only one of them is good. This one pulls that apart piece by piece: what happens when the men you looked up to fail you, and...

Every boy wants to be the hero. Then life happens, and most men quietly settle for watching other men be brave. This one is about the kind of courage nobody films: the reason Steve's family says he wears a cape (it is pulling over for a stranded car, not a war story), the movie that talked a suicidal seven-year-old into staying alive, the 17-year-olds who went up the beach anyway, and the lar...

Party life to a self-proclaimed lone wolf, then a train hit him on a Boston sidewalk and fractured his skull, and everything he had been chasing stopped mattering. Dr. Tyler Rauwolf traces the whole arc: getting clocked by a train and living to tell it, the 2 a.m. panic attack where 'I Surrender' came on Shuffle and peace washed over him, walking away from a chemistry PhD career when God...

Got a question you would never put your name on in a comment section? Now there is a way to ask it. Email admin@act-like-men.com; if it is delicate, it stays confidential, and we will speak to it on the podcast. This is a quick check-in from the new Act Like Men studio: around 350 of you strong, and proof of the thing we keep coming back to: if you want to do something significant, you just have t...

He was bullied so badly as a kid that he stopped expecting anyone to want him around. Then the money came. Twenty-five thousand a month before he was twenty, a Tesla in the driveway, a podcast about to cross a hundred million views. And none of it touched the thing that was actually broken. If you have ever believed the next number would finally make you feel like enough, this one is going to land...

Nobody taught you how sex actually works in marriage. Not your parents. Not the church. And definitely not the culture that handed you porn and called it education. So you walked in unprepared, and it is quietly costing the most important relationship you have outside of Christ. Here is the truth most men miss: sexual intimacy is not the goal, it is the byproduct of a healthy marriage. When the co...

Most men handle confrontation two broken ways: they blow up, or they bury it. Both cost the relationship. There's a third way, and it's the one Scripture actually commands. You've got a conversation you've been avoiding: a friend who hurt you, a brother sliding into something that will wreck him, a word from a wife or coworker still sitting in your chest weeks later. And you&#x...

The lie that's killing Christian men isn't about what you do, it's about what you think you are. You wake up calling yourself a sinner. You apologize for who you are before you've even sinned. You read your Bible bracing for the next failure. And every Sunday a pastor reinforces it: "we're all just sinners saved by grace." But Paul didn't write to the sinner...

You feel the pull. Open one tab, then another, and another, and suddenly you've been in the dark corners of the internet for two hours. AI fakes you can't unsee. Trafficking sitting in your browser. Conspiracies that aren't conspiracies anymore. Most men either bury their head or fall down the rabbit hole until they can't find the surface. This conversation is for the third group:...

Jack names the number. 50K in the account and he'd finally feel like he'd done his job as a man. He says it out loud and then has to sit there while Steve calls it exactly what it is. This is the episode where the financial idol most Christian men are too scared to name gets put on the table. Steve tells the story of being homeless and hungry for three days and the prophetic warning a frie...

Most men quit before they start. They wake up at 4:30 once, post it on Instagram, and then sleep in for three weeks. They confuse laziness with humility and call it being graceful with themselves. Jack, Steve, and Dillon take a sledgehammer to the soft Christianity that treats fitness as optional and pride as inherently sinful. Paul said he disciplines his body lest he himself be disqualified. The...

Nobody sat you down and taught you what to do when the worst thing you can imagine actually happens. Not your dad. Not your pastor. Not the men's group. You got "God has a plan" and "pray about it." And when the call comes, when the diagnosis lands, when you're standing in a hospital room watching your child fight for her life, none of that is enough. Jack, Steve, and D...

Sn' first move was not violence. It was a question: "Did God really say"? Identity was the target in the garden,and it still is today. Two gardens tell the whole story. In Eden, a man who had everything let shame replace sonship. In Gethsemane,another man knelt in agony and chose obedience over self-preservation. Where Adam ran, Christ stayed. If you have been white-nuckling your way...

The first discussion episode. Jack, Dillon, and Steve dig into what real brotherhood looks like. Why most men don't have a single friend who will call them out. How to build the kind of relationships that sharpen you instead of keeping you comfortable. If your friends won't challenge you, they're not your friends.

Molested by his pastor. Suicidal at 7. Cutting himself in class while nobody said a word. A lot of men are carrying wounds from the church and they have never told a soul. If the church hurt you and you walked away from God because of it, you need to hear what happened to Steve and how God brought him back from the edge.