SPLITUP

Can an Arizona divorce be settled in one day—and can parents create a workable custody and parenting plan without a prolonged court battle? On this episode of SplitUp, Launi Sheldon speaks with Arizona family law attorney Kate Simonds about her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service. They explore how Arizona couples can resolve divorce, legal decision-making, parenting time, child support, spousal m...

You see a custody evaluator’s name on a court order and suddenly it feels like your entire future rides on one person’s opinion. We get that. So we pulled Dr. Robert DiCarlo, a licensed psychologist in Arizona and Split Up co-founder, into the hot seat to unpack who he is, how he’s trained, and what actually happens inside family court psychology when the facts are messy and emotions are louder th...

The scariest part of divorce is often not the paperwork, it’s the moment you realize you don’t actually know what your life costs or what you can afford on one income. We sit down with Raquel Kalsrood, a senior wealth advisor and Certified Financial Planner who also holds the Divorce Financial Analyst designation, to bring calm and structure to divorce finances without judgment and without vague “...

We talk about why phone calls between two households trigger some of the biggest co-parenting fights, even when both parents genuinely love their kids. We draw a hard line between calls that build connection and calls that turn children into reporters, loyalty managers, or evidence. • Phone calls as symbols of control, access, and reassurance for parents • The difference between connecting with yo...

 Do you say yes just to avoid conflict — during a divorce, custody case, paternity dispute, or any co-parenting relationship? Arizona family law attorney Launi Sheldon and licensed psychologist Robert DiCarlo (co-founders of SplitUp) break down how to build assertiveness and set boundaries in any family court situation, married or not. This episode applies whether you're going through a divor...

We break down how to tell kids you’re getting divorced without dumping adult pain onto them, and why the first conversation matters less than the calm pattern you set afterward. We also dig into cheating disclosures, revenge impulses, and practical co-parenting rules that protect your kids and your case.  • planning the talk around safety, timing, and emotional regulation  • using a simple child-s...

The fastest way to blow up co-parenting isn’t a major legal fight. It’s the daily grind: the missing sweatshirt, the “forgotten” school gear, the watch that tracks the other parent’s address, and the two-page email that ruins your nervous system for the rest of the day. We sit down with Arizona certified family law specialist and author Annette Burns to talk about how to design a parenting plan th...

Launi and Robert, experts in family law and psychology, introduce Split Up—an innovative app designed to guide people through the legal and emotional aspects of divorce and family court proceedings. • 85% of people in family court are unrepresented, primarily due to the high cost of legal representation • Split Up provides structured guidance through videos and resources for all types of family co...

We dive into the rumors about Justin and Haley Bieber's divorce, examining what it might look like from legal and psychological perspectives when ultra-wealthy celebrities with a young child separate. • Justin and Haley have a postnuptial agreement (not a prenup) to handle their considerable wealth • Justin reportedly earns $5-10 million monthly while Haley earns $500K-1M monthly • California...

Parents recording their children to gather evidence for family court cases can be problematic, potentially backfiring legally and causing psychological harm to children caught in the middle of custody battles. The hosts examine when documentation helps versus when it makes a parent look unreasonable to judges who regularly see severe cases of abuse and neglect. • Photos of minor injuries like brui...

We tackle the thorny issue of extracurricular activities in high-conflict co-parenting situations, navigating the clashing perspectives of legal rights versus psychological wellbeing of children. This candid conversation reveals how activities meant to enrich children's lives often become battlegrounds between divorced parents. • Understanding that high-conflict dynamics don't require me...

Political differences between divorced parents can create emotional battlegrounds where children feel caught in the middle and pressured to choose sides. • Children around age 12 are developing abstract thinking and exploring concepts like fairness and justice • Instead of forcing viewpoints, parents should teach critical thinking skills through open-ended questions • Cognitive dissonance from con...

We explore the emotional and complex conflict that arises when one parent feels their child needs therapy after divorce while the other parent opposes it, examining both legal pathways and psychological perspectives to help families prioritize children's mental health needs. • The scenario of Emily – one parent wants counseling for anxiety, possible self-harm; other parent refuses • Legal dec...

Moving on after divorce isn't just about you—it's about your kids and how they adapt to seeing their parents with new partners. • Children need time to adjust to the major life change of divorce before meeting new partners • Experts recommend waiting at least six months before introducing kids to a new romantic partner • Introducing partners too soon can trigger anxiety, attachment issue...

Family law experts Annette Burns and Nicole Segueiro-Stoutner introduce SPARK—an innovative method for crafting parenting plans that work better for families during divorce or separation. They share practical advice for creating agreements that stand the test of time while remaining focused on children's best interests. • SPARK stands for Sustainable, Precise, Attainable, Reduces conflict, an...

Jessica Simpson's recent divorce from Eric Johnson highlights crucial issues facing families with children of different ages, examining how kids from preschool to pre-teen process separation differently and what parents can do to support healthy adjustment. • Children at different developmental stages experience divorce distinctively – 4-year-olds may believe it's their fault while 10-11...