Soul-Shaking Love

Have you ever noticed the moment your relationship shifted from "we're in this together" to "we're just coexisting"? Most couples don't see it happen in real time. It's not one big rupture — it's a series of small retreats. A conversation you didn't finish. A bid for connection that went unanswered. A moment where vulnerability felt too risky, so you pulled back instead. Over time, these micro-ret...

Most of us don’t actually think we have a challenge with Self-Love; we just feel depleted. That was the story of Samantha Mandell, an RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy) practitioner and founder of Sweet Soul and Wellness. After navigating her own debilitating journey with functional neurological disorder and PNES (psychogenic non-epileptic seizures), she discovered that her survival programming...

Have you ever walked into a room and felt someone’s energy before they even said a word? That kind of magnetic presence isn’t about what you’re wearing or what you say;  it’s about who you’re BEING. And for so many high-achieving women, the very qualities that built their success: the hustle, the independence, the “I’ll do it myself” energy, are the same ones dimming their magnetism and keepi...

Many of us feel like we’re living someone else’s life instead of our own. But how do we discover what’s authentic and have the courage to actually live it? That's why I sat down with Zerina Derveni, who helps people break free from self-doubt and lack of clarity to embrace their authentic selves with confidence and purpose. In our soulful conversation, we explore what it truly means to come home t...

What happens when the life you built was based on blueprints you never actually chose? Many of us grow up absorbing invisible templates — about who we should be, how we should love, what we should tolerate — long before we're old enough to question them. And then one day, we look around and realize the life we've built doesn't feel like ours. That's why I was so excited to talk with Joni, author o...

You’ve probably heard that happiness is an inside job, but that can feel like sand slipping through your fingers with everything that’s happening in our world right now! So I’m always looking to interview experts who can help you thrive in life and love.  That’s why I decided to interview Anil Gupta, who’s known as “The Love Doctor,” about his “Happiness Formula.” In 2008 Anil Gupta was suici...

What if the key to finding love isn’t about doing more — but feeling more? Most of us have been taught to approach dating from the neck up: analyze the red flags, optimize our profiles, figure out “what we want.” But what if your body already knows things your mind is still catching up to?  That’s why I decided to interview Amber Lavin, a conscious dating and relationship coach who helps peop...

Have you ever tried to heal your patterns in love — working on your attachment style, processing your childhood wounds, learning to communicate better — and it just feels like… work? Like you’re grinding through another layer of self-improvement, wondering when you’ll finally get to relax and enjoy love? What if the path to lasting change wasn’t more effort, but more pleasure? That’s why I sat dow...

Okay, I know — "run your relationship like a business" sounds about as romantic as a spreadsheet on Valentine's Day. I thought so too before I met Dr. Robin Buckley, so stay with me for a bit.  Here's a question: Would you ever run a business with no clear roles, no regular check-ins, no shared strategy, and just... hope it all works out? Probably not. And yet — that's exactly how most of us...

Shame is something most of us carry but few of us talk about openly. It can show up in response to that inner voice telling you you're too much or not enough, as the impulse to hide parts of yourself, or as patterns in relationships that leave you feeling disconnected. Yet despite how common shame is, finding effective ways to work with it remains elusive for many people.  In their latest boo...

We’ve all been there: we want to communicate about something that’s bothering us, but we know that if we bring it up, it’ll lead to an argument and then we’ll have 2 problems instead of one: the original problem and now you also feel disconnected. Few of us had good modeling for how to communicate in a way that brings us closer.  That’s why I chose to interview Raffi Bilek. Raffi has develope...

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions in relationships—and often the most shamed. Which makes sense! Unregulated anger can be genuinely scary. But when we do have the skills to manage our emotions, anger becomes something different: a protective signal. It's telling us a need isn't being met, a boundary's been crossed, or our nervous system is maxed out. Learn to speak kindly when you're...

As we prepare to enter the new year, most people think about what they want to create — in our health, our work, and especially our relationships. Whether you’re single or partnered, getting clear on what really matters can make a big difference in how love feels. That’s why I chose to interview LaShawn McCrary, a conscious relationship coach who helps people clarify what they want and learn the s...

We don’t stumble into our relationship patterns by chance. Most of us are quietly replaying the beliefs we absorbed as kids — about love, safety, power, and what parts of ourselves are welcome. This isn't about blame; by understanding what our patterns are, we can change them and enjoy happy, healthy love. Reprogramming childhood patterns is one of my favorite topics, so I decided to sit down with...

Mismatched libido, or "desire discrepancy" is on of the most common problems couples experience. But few people know how to find the underlying cause or teach us what to do about it. Our interview reveals what's really going on (hint: it's not what you think!) and what couples can do to return to connection, flow, and deeper intimacy, love and pleasure. Here's what we cover in our interview: 1. Wh...

Ever wonder why some couples grow closer over time while others drift apart? It’s not fate—it’s patterns. The small, often invisible ways we communicate, react, and repair can determine whether love deepens or disintegrates. And once you can see those patterns, you can change them. This week, I sat down with Zoey Charif, author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated , to unpack the science (and soul)...

Boundaries—we all know they’re important, but putting them into practice? That’s usually the hard part. So often, we’re caught between voicing our needs and feeling guilty, or keeping quiet and subtly losing ourselves. That’s why I sat down with Emotional Resiliency Coach Jennifer Febel, author of How to Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a D ck)*. She busts common myths about boundaries and sha...

In relationships, we don’t enter adulthood with a blank slate—we inherit a “love script” from our childhood. It tells us what love looks like, how much we’re allowed to receive, how we should express ourselves, and what it takes to feel safe or chosen.  That’s why I decided to interview Inner Child Expert Anat Peri. She’s an expert on how early experiences with our parents shape the way we sh...

Attachment styles are everywhere these days—but what do they really mean for our relationships? Understanding your attachment style is the first step to healing patterns that keep love at arm’s length. When we learn how to cultivate secure attachment, we unlock the ability to create deeper, more lasting connections—starting with ourselves. That’s why I decided to interview Relationship and attachm...

Unfortunately, our world is becoming more polarized and people are arguing more now than ever. How do we stay connected to who we care about and what we care about at the same time?  That’s why I decided to interview Phyllis Levitt because she talks about how to navigate conflict in a healthy way: in our romantic relationships, families, and larger communities. Her latest book, "America in Th...

You've probably heard that communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship; and I still hear from most people that they feel misunderstood by someone important to them. We need engaging teachers to help us clarify our truth and communicate it clearly. Jem Fuller has lived a colourful, global life. From barefoot backpacker to corporate leader, fire-dancer and traditional tattooist, kinde...

We’ve all heard about narcissism, and the typical advice is to leave because they can’t change. That is true most of the time and if you’re in a relationship with a Narcissist, I encourage you to get professional support.  However, some therapists who specialize in personality disorders have seen narcissists, with the right support, learn and grow into more empathic people who are capable of showi...

We all know that it takes work to keep love alive in a marriage, but what's the most important work to do? I'm passionate about this topic so I decided to interview relationship coach, marriage expert, and author Gabriela Embon about the Best Practices to Keep a Marriage Alive & Thriving. While each marriage is different, Gabriela believes that there are universal best practices that transcend...

Most of us don’t like feeling confused. We want to feel confident and secure in what we’re creating. But life doesn’t always work that way. In times like this most of us feel more confused than ever. That’s why I decided to interview Giovanna Silvestre, author of the upcoming book "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos” to help us feel inspired during periods of confusion.  Giovanna Sil...

Self-love is a concept that’s hard to master so I like to interview different self-love experts to help us thrive!  Judith Costa is a Self-Love Coach who encountered many challenges in her relationships and health before she learned how to love herself unconditionally. She wishes someone had explained what Self-Love was when she was struggling and unhappy; and her mission is to share the insi...