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Why do we care so much about what others think? 🤔 In this honest and vulnerable chat, Gary and Jon explore the deep-rooted need for validation, people pleasing, and the internal “gap” many of us experience. From overworking to keep others happy to feeling your self-worth drop when feedback disappears, this episode dives into the emotional reality behind it all. They unpack where this need comes f...

In this sit.discover.change podcast episode, Gary (a counsellor) and Jon explore the hidden reasons people avoid counselling — from deep shame and fear of judgment to pride and the belief that “therapy is only for the weak.” Jon shares what it was like to walk to his first session, testing the waters with “safer” topics before daring to speak about what really brought him there. They talk about in...

In this moving conversation between Gary and Jon , the two explore the emotional impact of absent parents — both physical and emotional absence — and how those early experiences continue to shape us as adults. Gary opens up about his dad’s absence and its long-term effects, while Jon reflects on growing up in a home where presence didn’t always equal connection. Together, they unpack how childhood...

Gary and Jon dive into the realities of grief: why presence deepens loss, how absence creates a different kind of pain, and the practical work of making moments that become our legacy. We discuss family dynamics, father figures, generational disconnect, and learning to be emotionally present—even when it takes effort. A compassionate, plain-spoken conversation about love, loss, and living fully. 🎙...

In this deep and brutally honest conversation, we dive headfirst into the complex world of blame — why we dish it out, why we quietly absorb it, and how it impacts our relationships and inner peace. From playful “blame tennis” with our partners to hidden self-blame that slowly builds resentment, we unpack it all. Along the way, we share personal, raw stories about anger, pride, marriage struggles,...

Can Christians experience doubt? What happens when your faith doesn’t feel strong — or when you’re even annoyed at God? In this raw and honest conversation, we open up about the struggles that many believers face but rarely talk about. From questioning God’s existence, wrestling with suffering, feeling like a “bad Christian,” and the performance pressure in church culture — this is a safe space fo...

Are you your own worst critic? In this episode, we dive deep into the relentless voice in our heads—the inner critic. Jon and Gary explore how idealism, comparison, and societal pressures fuel self-doubt and hold us back. Why do we normalize this inner voice, and how can we quiet it down? Tune in as we break down the myths, share real experiences, and offer practical ways to take back control of y...

Feeling lonely or struggle to make friends? In this session Gary and Jon explore the topic of making friends and thrash through practical ways to do that, reflecting on their own friendship and how that has developed over time…all the while being raw and vulnerable and a little confrontational with one another. If you find it hard to develop friendships, this one is dedicated to you…

In this session we chat through what our children are really craving from us, what we find tricky about having kids and what we can actually learn from the way they are. If you have kids this ones a must listen…

In this episode we talk through the reasons why we are doing this podcast and why we think being open and vulnerable in these sessions and in life is so important for today’s society…BTW…if you have any feedback on the podcast - please let us know 😃 Check it out here:

We all need to eat, but for some of us food becomes more of a necessity than for others. What are we doing when we eat? Do we eat to live or live to eat? Join  Gary and Jon in this honest and open chat about their own relationship to food, as they ask what is really going on at a deeper level when we are addicted to food.

In this episode Gary and Jon scratch a bit deeper than the surface to find they are both actually angry people. Anger like a volcano 🌋 sits dormant for a while....but when will it erupt and how much damage will it cause? Can anything be done to stop this?

Join Gary and Jon in this refreshingly honest chat as we dive into the topic of laziness and our absolute love for lounging around all day. With humour and dash of authenticity, they explore the contrasting work ethics between themselves and their hardworking wives. Together, they ponder the age-old question: Is laziness all bad, or could it potentially serve us well if we strike the right balance...

In this video Gary and Jon delve into the world of our phones and social media and explore the influence these have on us and in turn the people around us; together with the addictive nature of mobile phones and the ever-evolving world of social media. We break down the positives and negatives of our digital dependencies. Together, we'll explore the challenges and opportunities presented by these...

Uncover the gripping influence of fear in our daily lives with Gary & Jon in this podcast. Join us as we delve into the profound impact of fear and share personal examples of what sparks our own fears. Explore the diverse manifestations of fear and engage in the thought-provoking discussion on whether there are actionable steps to overcome this paralysing emotion. Can we truly escape the clutc...

Ever struggle to pay attention to what is going on around you? Find it tough to properly listen to what people are saying? Ever zone out during conversations… In this video Gary and Jon discuss the topic of not really being present in a conversation, the causes of this and how these can be overcome. A live counselling session…

In this thought-provoking live counselling session, Gary and Jon delve into the topic of low self-esteem and its strong connection to comparing ourselves with others. We explore how this comparison trap can have a significant impact on our well-being and self-perception. Join us as we discuss the challenges of navigating low self-esteem and discover insights to cultivate a positive self-image. Don...

Ever feel like you know exactly what someone is thinking about you (Projection) It’s a bit like a boomerang we throw out that can result in some negative consequences… In this episode Gary and Jon look at the boomerang and how it can impact our own self image and how we interact with other people too.

How guarded are we? Do you ever feel like you don’t really know someone? Do we all live on a surface level, to extent that we can come to the end of someones life and feel we don’t really know who they are! In this episode Gary and Jon explore what its like to wear and mask, its advantages and some of its major draw backs, all the while asking the question, if we are wearing a mask will people eve...