Single (not spiraling)

You're already in a relationship, whether you've clocked it or not — the one with yourself. This episode is about what happens when you start treating that relationship with the same attention you'd give someone you're dating, and what actually shifts when you do. Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here:  Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.com Apply for coaching HERE Would You Da...

We are consuming more than ever. More content, more frameworks, more steps, more systems. And a lot of it is genuinely useful — but at some point the volume of it stops helping you and starts working against you. Especially when you're a single woman who is already trying really hard. In this episode, Lauren breaks down what's actually happening when self-improvement content starts to feel like a...

Putting yourself first sounds simple until you actually try to do it. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, shrunk your own needs down before anyone even asked you to, or felt a wave of guilt the second you did something for yourself — this episode is for you. Lauren breaks down why so many women struggle to make themselves the priority in their own lives, and why it has nothing to do with be...

You've been spiraling and you know it — the overanalyzing, the waiting, the feeling like you have zero control over how your own life feels. This episode hands you the framework that changed everything for me and for so many of my clients. We're talking about the Drama Triangle, why you're probably living inside it right now, and the Empowerment Dynamic — the tool that actually gets you out. This...

If you've been holding back from fully doing this work, this episode is for you. Today Lauren is getting into why a capable, secure man is not going to be threatened by you being a self-proclaimed man hater, where male insecurity actually comes from and why it has nothing to do with you, and why the version of you that keeps shrinking herself is not landing the relationship you actually want. Beca...

Something Lauren keeps noticing: when women go through a breakup, they find themselves again. They go back to the things they'd stopped doing — the hobby, the book, the version of themselves that got a little buried somewhere in the relationship. This episode is a guide for anyone who's newly out of something, mid-way back to themselves, or reflecting on how they've come back before and wondering...

In this episode Lauren gets real about what the work actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, not the "I healed and now everything is great" version, but the real thing. She walks you through the specific areas she works on with her clients every single day: breaking the fantasy of who you want someone to be, building self worth through values work, inner child work and what it actual...

You've been asking Lauren questions about decentering men — how to talk about it, what actually changed first, whether your relationships survive it — and today she's answering them. If you're on the fence about decentering men or you're already doing the work and want to go deeper, this is a must-listen. These are the questions women are actually sitting with, and Lauren's not holding back on the...

You've been doing the work. Decentering men, healing, growing, showing up for yourself. But when's the last time your life actually felt magical? In this episode we're talking about whimsy — what it actually is, why your space matters more than you think, and how to stop living inside your Pinterest board and start building the life that's already on it. Lauren gets into why being away from her ow...

What does it actually look like to date a woman who is decentering men? My boyfriend Joey joins me to answer that — from his side. He's confident, he's not threatened, and he has some honest opinions about what being a good partner actually means (spoiler: it's not doing the dishes). If you've ever wondered whether decentering men and being in a relationship can coexist, this one's for you. Stay c...

Does your life actually suck or are you just on social media too much? Because I think for a lot of women it's the second one and we don't even realize it's happening. In this episode I get into what comparing yourself to everyone online is actually costing you, why it keeps getting mistaken for self improvement, and how to figure out which parts of your life are actually yours versus things you a...

This week's episode is Single (not spiraling), I'm answering a question a listener wrote in with — she'd seen a lot of manosphere content come across her feed, found it useful at first, and then realized she was just scared of men and didn't know how to navigate dating anymore. We get into why that fear is valid and not something to fix or push past, what's shifting in the world right now, and how...

If you've been feeling flat, uninspired, and like everything — even the things you used to love — has started to feel like a chore, this episode is for you. Lauren recorded this one burnt out, seven clients deep into her week, because sometimes the most honest thing you can do is talk about the thing you're actually in. This episode is a real conversation about what burnout is, what it feels like...

This week Lauren is just talking. No theme, no structure — she's sharing what's been on her mind lately: being tired of centering men in the conversation, and why increasing your pleasure as a single woman actually matters. Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here:  Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.com Apply for coaching HERE Would You Date You? FREE guide

You have started decentering men but something feels off. Weird. Like you are going against everything you were taught and even your own body is like — what are we doing. In this episode Lauren Samantha gets into exactly why decentering men feels so unnatural — and it has nothing to do with you being broken. We are talking patriarchy, misogyny, shame, capitalism, and what it actually looks like to...

You understood everything we talked about in part one. And then you opened the apps and lost yourself in whether he texted back. That is exactly what this episode is about. We are getting into what decentering romance actually looks like when you are actively dating. The patterns you keep repeating even when you know better. The difference between wanting love from wholeness and wanting love to fe...

If you've been doing the work of decentering men but feel like something isn't clicking, this is the episode you need. Because the first step to decentering men is decentering romance — and most of us have never even questioned the story we were sold about what our lives are supposed to look like. In this episode we're getting into where the conditioning actually started, how fairy tales, rom-coms...

What if your burnout isn't a personal failure — it's a system doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this episode, Lauren unpacks how patriarchy and capitalism condition women to over-function, under-rest, and tie their worth to productivity. She explores what a matriarchal value system would actually look like — not female domination, but a world where care, community, and emotional intelli...

In your 30s, something shifts. You’ve done the therapy. You’ve built the self-worth. You’ve stopped settling for emotionally unavailable men. And now you find yourself in a strange in-between — loving your independence but still craving real partnership. In this episode, I’m talking about the tension of wanting love without losing yourself. The nervous system ease of being single. The fear of slip...

In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about self-trust, standards, and what it actually means to stop settling for mediocre love. Decentering men isn’t about rejecting partnership — it’s about building enough internal safety that you’re no longer making decisions from anxiety, desperation, or fear of being alone. Self-trust is confidence, intuition, and believing your own thought...

We talk a lot about “self-validation,” but no one really explains what that means in real life. This episode breaks down internal vs external validation, why relying on other people to confirm your feelings is so tempting, and how to start trusting your own reactions without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself. If you constantly ask, “Am I overreacting?” or need someone else to agree befor...

You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand the concepts. So why does it still feel hard to move? In this episode, we talk about the space between knowing and living — why consuming self-help can quietly turn into avoidance, how burnout and world chaos make action feel impossible, and what it actually looks like to start implementing the work in real life. This is about...

In this episode of Single (Not Spiraling), we talk about the moment you realize the things you once accepted in dating no longer feel okay. From inconsistency and emotional unavailability to over-explaining, self-abandonment, and confusing anxiety for chemistry, this episode explores what it actually looks like to stop normalizing behavior that keeps you disconnected from yourself. If you’re navig...

Can you date and still decenter men — or does one cancel out the other? In this episode, I share what it’s actually looked like for me to date without losing myself, spiraling, or making romance the center of my life. We talk about how to stay grounded, how to notice when old patterns creep in, and how to date from a place of self-trust instead of urgency. This one’s for the women who haven’t swor...

Are you single because your standards are too high — or because you finally have some? In this short episode, we talk about why so many grounded women are told to lower the bar, how dating culture creates self-doubt, and how to tell the difference between having standards and self-abandoning just to be chosen. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself in dating, this episode is for you. Stay con...