Simpin After Dark

Nightshade Collective joins me once again for a fun episode talking about Yo Trane's song, "Rider" from his 2021 album Time & Space.  April & Alexa chime in on the topic of being an "alpha" woman - being independent, making your own money, being outspoken, not taking anyone's bullsh**. A woman who is independent is idealized in so many ways but in reality a lot of people can't handle...

I got a solo episode today and I'm talking about Numi's song "Hit Me Up", from 2018. We all know those guys that won't take no for an answer that keep asking you out, so you finally give in but you let them know it's just as friends, and they STILL get the wrong idea. Or the guy that slides in you and all your girls DM's thinking that's the move. Some men cannot read social cues, so that's what I'...

This episode is all about cheating and staying together. It happens more often than we think, yet it's still frowned upon and shamed, but we don't judge over here, so we're talking about how to make that work, why it happens, and when you should or shouldn't give it a shot. Not all cheaters are created equal so this is not to normalize it at all, but more to give some insight into what it takes an...

Yung Student Loans joins me on this episode, where we get into anaïs & Azekel's song, "Learn To Love". We also listen to a clip of his latest song "iiWii" and he explains the meaning behind it and why he doesn't f*** with sending generic love songs as a way to be romantic. We talk about his experience being polyamorous, why he doesn't experience jealousy, and the science of threesomes. We also...

Warning: We discuss certain drugs in this episode, not to promote their irresponsible or illegal use, but to educate and inform people of responsible hypothetical consumption. This episode I'm talking magic mushrooms & weed, with my girls April Mendoza (my sis) & Master Stephanie. We get into SZA's latest single, "Good Days", and talk all about our experience with shrooms, weed, mental hea...

This episode is all about friendships, and I'm talking about the song "Girl", by Destiny's Child, with my girls Alexa & Crystal . The song focuses on Beyoncé and Michelle trying to get Kelly to open up to them about her relationship because they can see it's bringing her down. We've all been on both sides of that situation as friends so we talk about how we handle situations like that and how...

Got another solo episode for you today I'm talking about Anderson .Paak and Bruno Mars' new song, "Leave The Door Open". They formed a group, Silk Sonic and they are on their funky, soulful, simpy sh*t so u know I had to get into it. I recorded this episode on international women's day btw so I also went on a tangent about women supremacy and how some of you men don't deserve us cause u ain't doin...

Today I'm talking Chloe x Halle's song "Tipsy" from their album Ungodly Hour, w my special guest Naz Red. He talks about his experience being love bombed and dealing with some crazy a** women, and how we sometimes miss huge red flags. We talk about how the older we get the less shit we're willing to put up with and how dedication to your career can sometimes mean putting your love life on hol...

TRIGGER WARNING: Self harm/Physical & emotional abuse/Suicide This episode I have April Mendoza and Alexa Morales (my Nightshade Collective sisters) on to get into some wild topics. We talk all about the new Netflix movie, "Malcolm and Marie" starring Zendaya and John David Washington, which, in short, is about a couple having a crazy a** fight, so SPOILER ALERT. We tie it all together by gett...

This episode I talk CHIKA's song, "FWB", with my guest Stephanie. We've all either been involved in a friends with benefits situation or have contemplated it, so we discuss the factors that need to be considered. Sometimes people decide they want a FWB because of the timing and things goin on in their life, but sometimes they decide based on a predetermined criteria they have for potential partner...

I'm simpin alone tonight y'all, and of course I picked the saddest song ever, "Stuck On You", by Giveon. It's the last song on his EP, When It's All Said And Done, and it's all about that relationship you just can't bare to leave. It's that one relationship that is stuck in purgatory and you're too embarrassed to even tell your friends that you're still seeing that person. I think we've all b...

We're talking Ariana Grande's song "pov" from her 2020 album Positions. It's the last song on the album and it's the perfect culmination of her learning to love herself, radiating her sensual side, and continuing to accept love from another person fully without letting it define her or break her. In POV she's grateful for the love she's receiving from someone and she just wishes she could see...

For our season 3 opener we are diving all the way into Jazmine Sullivan's EP, Heaux Tales. It's such a cohesive body of work that it wouldn't have been fair to just pick one song. It gets into the complexities and struggles of being a woman which are all too relatable whether you're in your early or late twenties, thirties, or even sixties and beyond. We touch on all the controversial and highly d...

You already know we love Kehlani on Simpin After Dark so we had to do her song "Open(Passionate)" from her amazing album, It Was Good Until It Wasn't. We also have a special guest for this episode! Zoey Trope, a relationship coach specializing in polyamory, takes our phone call and answers all our questions about the topic. We asked our listeners on instagram to send us questions to ask so we...

This episode we're talking all about astrology with our girl Alexa. We picked Beyonce's song "Signs" from her album Dangerously in Love, just as a fun recap of all 12 signs. We briefly get into every sign's modality, element and traits. We also talk about body parts the signs rule and what planets they're ruled by and how it can affect them. Alexa explains how astrology can be used as a tool to he...

This episode we're talking about Melii's song "See Me" from her album phAses. We also had our friend Mayron on as a guest to chime in from a dude's perspective. We talk all about being lowkey hurt by someone but trying to front on social media like you're not. Sometimes it's obvious to the other person and we know this yet we still do it. Sometimes we do it because it's part of the healing process...

This episode we're talking about Fousheé's new song "Single AF". Her song "Deep End" went viral on Tik Tok, so V checked the rest of her catalogue and found this lil bop. It's a soulful, feel good song whether you're single or not. We talk about the importance of taking time for yourself after a breakup in order to make sure you let all the sad out, and reflect on everything that happened. If you...

This episode we talk about the song "New Religion" by NSTASIA, from her 2017 album  New Religion.  It's another simpy mushy episode! The comparison between love and religion is made all the time in music, and it's beautiful, we can't get enough, but we gotta talk about how songs like this, or music/movies in general, maybe set an unrealistic expectation of what love is supposed to feel l...

This episode we're talking "The Recipe" by SiR, from his album Chasing Summer. It's about a woman being super into him and him letting her know that it's just a fling. She keeps wanting more of him but it's something he can't give her. We dissect a lyric in which he insinuates in a double entendre that this fling doesn't compare to his girl back home, so we dive into the topic of temptation. There...

This episode we’re talking "More Than a Lover" by Etta Bond ft. SiR, off her 2019 album, He's Mine. We discuss losing yourself in a romantic relationship and three major points: People that forget all about their friends when they get a significant other Different types of soulmates - can your friends be more fulfilling in your life than a S/O ? How to maintain a sense of self in a relationship&nb...

This week we have another special episode! We talk "Love On the Brain" by Rihanna, from her album ANTI, and we had Stephanie come back to talk all about narcissistic personality disorder(NPD) and how it can affect relationships. TRIGGER WARNING: We talk about NPD, borderline personality disorder (BPD), codependency, abuse - both physical and mental/emotional, and things of that sort.  Just li...

This is our special edition Halloween episode, and we're talking about relationship horror stories. We cover everything from, horrible tinder dates and scary one night stands, to psychotic exes and toxic revenge stories. We asked our listeners to send us voice memos or emails, and we set all the spooky campfire vibes, so stick around till the very end for all the scary stories. The song we listen...

This week we're listening to DVSN's song "Miss Me?" from their album A Muse in Her Feelings. It says all the things we want to say to that one person we're always missing but too scared to spill our true feelings to. Sometimes we turn to going out and consuming some drinks to help cope with missing someone, but everyone is different. It's always hard being on the receiving end of an "I miss y...

If you tuned in last Wednesday you knew we had a special live episode with none other than  @lifeelsewhere2k2k  We talked Snoh Aalegra’s ‘Dying 4 Your Love’ which you know got us all in our feelings. We talk creative process, lyrics inspiration, and of course some ex’s. We also did our first giveaway, shout out to  @neaakan  and  @rshiau  for interacting with us, so m...

We got a bonus episode this week in honor of Wild 7 Week y'all! We're talking Blxst's song, "Wrong or Right". We all love a loyal partner that works hard and when those things happen, we're down to ride or die. We will hold it down for someone if and only if they are worth holding it down for. A controversial topic we bring up is whether being supported financially makes it harder to leave if your...